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Posted by daisym on September 29, 2004, at 0:36:24
In reply to Re: Useful psychology and psychotherapy books » Daisym, posted by ron1953 on September 28, 2004, at 23:31:08
How does the female/male dynamic work for you? I have a male therapist and we have been working together for 16 months. Given that we are working on depression and csa issues, typically the "mixed" set up is not recommended. It works for me. Of course, I think I have a pretty good therapist. He is completely invested in the relationship and I haven't seen much ego. He is willing to work with both the adult side and child sides that have emerged in therapy. It feels odd, but it seems to be working.
Does you therapist recommend books? We had a discussion today about my need to research topics. My therapist is a big fan of Kohut. I think I'll ask tomorrow about a book recommendation.
By the way...welcome to babble. I haven't seen you on the board before, are you new or returning from a break?
Posted by ron1953 on September 29, 2004, at 9:06:42
In reply to Re: Useful psychology and psychotherapy books, posted by daisym on September 29, 2004, at 0:36:24
Daisy:
I don't think I'm a sexist, so the male/female thing with my current shrink doesn't seem to be a factor. My prior experiences with docs of either sex weren't very productive and didn't last long, except for one (he was a Psychologist).
Funny, but I'm the one who recommends books to her, mostly in the interest of passing the recommendations on to other patients who might benefit. I don't know if she reads them and/or passes on the recommendations. BTW, I never heard of Kohut before. I think I might be particularly interested in "Analysis of the Self: Systematic Approach to Treatment of Narcissistic Personality Disorders" because I think my 23-year-old son may fall into this category, and I'd like to learn more about it. Otherwise, I'm not much into traditional analysis/talk therapy.
I've been on Babble for about a month but mostly on the medication board. Now I'm spending more time in books, social, relationships and this one. Of course, there's some overlap - so I learn a lot on all of them. This is an excellent web site with something for nearly anyone.
Posted by Dinah on October 16, 2004, at 11:13:05
In reply to Useful psychology and psychotherapy books, posted by Dinah on September 22, 2004, at 20:15:16
I'm fond of all of the books of Irvin Yalom, but one of my favorites is "Every Day Gets a Little Closer: A Twice-Told Therapy". Mostly because I'm intrigued with the concept. I think most case studies should have a rebuttal by the client. :)
I often wonder if my therapist and I would tell the same tale of our therapy. I think we're getting closer over time.
Posted by 64bowtie on October 16, 2004, at 14:26:43
In reply to fun therapy books, posted by badhaircut on September 28, 2004, at 17:38:27
Posted by Clarinette on November 14, 2004, at 20:16:57
In reply to Useful psychology and psychotherapy books, posted by Dinah on September 22, 2004, at 20:15:16
I'm sorry but I think this book only exists in French as yet, it was only published last year (maybe the canadians can make some use of it). However, take a note of this guys name, when this gets translated, you must read it immediately! It's the clearest most approachable book that I've come across to date for bipos and their famillies.
'Des hauts et des bas qui pertubent votre vie - aide et conseils aux mainiaco-depressifs et à leur famille' by Michel ROCHET, editions Chiron. The title translates roughly as 'The ups and downs which upset your life - help and advice for maniaco-depresives and their famillies'
Hope you'll be able to read it one day.
Oh there's also 'Le mirroir de janus' by Sami-Paul Tawil, editions Pocket.
Happy reading,
Clara
Posted by Dinah on December 17, 2004, at 16:15:12
In reply to Useful psychology and psychotherapy books, posted by Dinah on September 22, 2004, at 20:15:16
I've been doing a lousy job of keeping this thread alive, but I do think it's a good thread.
One of the first books on psychology that meant a lot to me was "Cutting" by Steven Levenkron. I'm not sure that the information in it is the latest, but the description of the caring therapeutic relationship woke a sort of longing in me.
On the other hand, I choose not to read it often just for that reason. It makes me disappointed that my therapist isn't as wonderful as he describes himself as being.
Posted by daisym on December 17, 2004, at 18:48:20
In reply to Re: Useful psychology and psychotherapy books » Dinah, posted by Dinah on December 17, 2004, at 16:15:12
Dinah,
I know what you mean. I read stuff and people have these "ah ha" moments or they only need things reframed once and they move on. When I read Yalom, I often wonder if he is as good and caring as he says he is.
I just read another book called "A General Theory of Love" and I learned a lot about the function of attachment and how the brain works. It was a fairly easy read and helped me understand myself some. Particularly because there is a discussion of the distracted mother and the fall out from that. I often think of abandonment issues around moms being completely unavailable. But this research talks about how a distracted mother can result in a child who is emotionally disorganized and doesn't learn to internalize things, like coping or calming methods.
Posted by littleone on December 18, 2004, at 16:48:22
In reply to Re: Useful psychology and psychotherapy books » Dinah, posted by Dinah on December 17, 2004, at 16:15:12
Dinah,
The book you quote is an excellent one. It didn't help me stop cutting as such, but it did help to normalise it and helped me understand the why's a bit better.
I tried leaving it lying around the house in the hopes that my husband would pick it up and try to understand why I do it, but no such luck :(
I can really relate to what you say about being disappointed that your own T doesn't live up to the authoring T. But I tend to do the opposite. When my T falls short, I gobble up Yalom's books in the hopes that he can give me what I need instead.
Posted by Dinah on January 4, 2005, at 8:10:14
In reply to Useful psychology and psychotherapy books, posted by Dinah on September 22, 2004, at 20:15:16
Has anyone read
"The Neuroscience of Psychotherapy: Building and Rebuilding the Human Brain"
The premise looks interesting, but I've already got a stack of unread books. Is this one worth it?
Posted by Klokka on January 4, 2005, at 19:07:40
In reply to Useful psychology and psychotherapy books, posted by Dinah on January 4, 2005, at 8:10:14
I've seen it on my pdoc's bookshelf. Creepy! It's actually related to a topic I'm considering for a project I'll be starting soon for school, so I might end up reading it anyway. I'll let you know if I do.
Posted by Dinah on January 4, 2005, at 20:34:31
In reply to Haven't read it yet, but... » Dinah, posted by Klokka on January 4, 2005, at 19:07:40
Posted by daisym on January 4, 2005, at 22:28:17
In reply to Useful psychology and psychotherapy books, posted by Dinah on January 4, 2005, at 8:10:14
I am in the middle of reading "thoughts without a thinker" by Mark Epstein. Actually I'm jumping all around in it. It is a book about Psychotherapy from a Buddhist perspective. I find myself in tears on many of the pages but it really resonates with me.
I know it is an oldish book, about 10 years now. Someone gave it to me for Christmas.
I also recently finished "A General Theory of Love" by Thomas Lewis, which was recommended by someone here. I really liked it. It had a lot of brain stuff in it, as related to attachment and memory.
Posted by gardenergirl on January 4, 2005, at 23:37:29
In reply to Re: Useful psychology and psychotherapy books, posted by daisym on January 4, 2005, at 22:28:17
I just started reading "The Gift of Therapy : An Open Letter to a New Generation of Therapists and Their Patients" by Yalom. It's wonderful so far. I highly recommend it!
gg
Posted by Dinah on January 5, 2005, at 4:21:45
In reply to Re: Useful psychology and psychotherapy books, posted by gardenergirl on January 4, 2005, at 23:37:29
I liked it too.
Posted by Daisym on January 5, 2005, at 10:55:24
In reply to Re: Useful psychology and psychotherapy books, posted by gardenergirl on January 4, 2005, at 23:37:29
I love that book. But I think you shouldn't read it right now. It will frustrate you with your placement even further.
Posted by TofuEmmy on January 5, 2005, at 12:10:01
In reply to Re: Useful psychology and psychotherapy books, posted by gardenergirl on January 4, 2005, at 23:37:29
"The GIFT of Therapy" Oy, that Yalom has an ego the size of Yonkers. ;-)
emmy
Posted by gardenergirl on January 5, 2005, at 22:56:17
In reply to Re: Useful psychology and psychotherapy books » gardenergirl, posted by Daisym on January 5, 2005, at 10:55:24
Daisy,
I think you are rigth in that it will only reinforce to me what I wish I could be doing. But I like to leave it on my bookshelf in the office to either foster curiosity on my Supervisor's part, or just to bug him. :)gg
Posted by gardenergirl on January 5, 2005, at 22:56:59
In reply to Re: Useful psychology and psychotherapy books » gardenergirl, posted by Dinah on January 5, 2005, at 4:21:45
Posted by gardenergirl on January 5, 2005, at 22:58:03
In reply to Re: Useful psychology and psychotherapy books » gardenergirl, posted by TofuEmmy on January 5, 2005, at 12:10:01
Hi, I think therapy is a gift too. And you don't think I have a big ego...
Hey.....
;)gg
Posted by Dr. Bob on January 5, 2005, at 23:50:36
In reply to Re: Useful psychology and psychotherapy books » gardenergirl, posted by TofuEmmy on January 5, 2005, at 12:10:01
> "The GIFT of Therapy"
I'd just like to plug the double double quotes feature at this site:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/faq.html#amazon
The first time anyone refers to a book, movie, or music without using this option, I post this to try to make sure he or she at least knows about it. It's just an option, though, and doesn't *have* to be used. If people *choose* not to use it, I'd be interested why not, but I'd like that redirected to Psycho-Babble Administration:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20020918/msgs/7717.html
Thanks!
Bob
Posted by Dinah on January 6, 2005, at 3:50:20
In reply to Re: Useful psychology and psychotherapy books » TofuEmmy, posted by gardenergirl on January 5, 2005, at 22:58:03
But I'd have to agree that either Yalom really does have a big ego, or he's as good as Daisy's therapist. :)
Posted by TofuEmmy on January 6, 2005, at 10:20:56
In reply to Re: double double quotes » TofuEmmy, posted by Dr. Bob on January 5, 2005, at 23:50:36
Oh jeeper creepers Dr. Bobert...the book's url had already been posted. How's a girl supposed to stay in her "witty zone" if she has do that quote quote crud.
Do you mean if we were to have a lengthy discussion of one book, 40 screens long, you'd want each of us, each time to double quote the darn thing?? Don't you think once is sufficient?
Suggestion number two....witty repartee (even if it's not that witty) s/b excluded from all rules....especially the "no sarcasm" rule. ;-)
emmy
Posted by Dr. Bob on January 7, 2005, at 0:33:13
In reply to Re: double double quotes » Dr. Bob, posted by TofuEmmy on January 6, 2005, at 10:20:56
Posted by littleone on January 11, 2005, at 21:13:21
In reply to Useful psychology and psychotherapy books, posted by Dinah on September 22, 2004, at 20:15:16
I was wondering if anyone had read "Ego State Therapy" by Gordon Emmerson and if so, what you thought of it. It looks really promising on Amazon, but I already have a zillion psych books (with more on order).
The other one that caught my eye was "Ego States: Theory and Therapy" by John G Watkins. It looks a lot heavier, but still very interesting.
Posted by littleone on January 16, 2005, at 16:09:20
In reply to Re: Useful psychology and psychotherapy books, posted by littleone on January 11, 2005, at 21:13:21
Thought I would share that I've found the following book helpful:
"Emotional Release for Children" by Mark Pearson & Patricia Nolan.
These people do therapy for children and the book is filled with the different type of exercises they use. Some are about journalling, drawing, creative writing, body awareness, Gestalt work, dream work, visualisation and relaxation. But the biggy for me is emotional release.
I've done a couple of the exercises and I was really amazed as to how easily I was thrown back into my childhood feelings. It has been helpful for me. I also like the fact there are specific exercises to follow rather than the generalisations found in many psych books.
Also, I have a lot of trouble with feeling nothingness and not being able to look inside myself at my thoughts and feelings. There are some good exercises to help with this.
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