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Posted by Yana on April 26, 1999, at 18:29:12
I suffer from rejection-sensitivity syndrome, depression, and anxiety. I am on a cocktail of the following drugs: buspar, valium, and celexa.
My boyfriend and I have been going together for almost 2 years. We are starting to talk about getting married.
My boyfriend, his ex-girlfriend and her husband (of four years) are all best friends.
I know beyond a shadow of a doubt that I have no reason to be jealous of my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend.
The above medications have made a significant difference in my rejection sensitivity disorder, anxiety, and depression.
However, just the mention of my boyfriend's ex-girlfriend's name, or a telephone call, or a visit makes me feel very despondent, anxious, broken, and hopeless - I feel I can't have a ong-term relationship with my beloved.
By the way he is very supportive of me and does everything possible to reduce the stress to me of his relationship with this couple.
Please help me with any advice you may have. However, asking him to give up a relationship that is so important to him and that appears to be a very healthy relationship is not an option.
If there are certain drugs that seemed to have helped you I would really like to know, because I've been working on this in therapy for 18 months and I've been in therapy for over 25 years.
Thank you, "Yana".
Posted by saintjames on April 27, 1999, at 15:37:01
In reply to Jealousy - unwarranted - how do you stop it?, posted by Yana on April 26, 1999, at 18:29:12
> I suffer from rejection-sensitivity syndrome, depression, and anxiety. I am on a cocktail of the following drugs: buspar, valium, and celexa.
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James here.;..i would guess that something happened tramatic happened to you as a child or young adult, and is the root cause for these problems. 25 yrs is a long time to be in therapy, is your persent therapist helping you ? Are you making progress ?
All the meds in the world are not going to get at the root cause, but they will make life better in the mean time, while you are working on these problems in therapy.j
Posted by Elizabeth on April 27, 1999, at 20:21:54
In reply to Re: Jealousy - unwarranted - how do you stop it?, posted by saintjames on April 27, 1999, at 15:37:01
> i would guess that something happened tramatic happened to you as a child or young adult, and is the root cause for these problems. 25 yrs is a long time to be in therapy, is your persent therapist helping you ? Are you making progress ?
> All the meds in the world are not going to get at the root cause, but they will make life better in the mean time, while you are working on these problems in therapy.A differing point of view....
There is a type of depression in which rejection sensitivity - as a lifelong temperamental trait, not just during major depressive episodes - is often a prominent symptom. It's called (well, currently) "atypical depression." It does respond to medications (though as with all depression, sometimes it takes some experimenting - stay away from tricyclics), and it is not considered a "personality disorder." It doesn't result from traumatic childhood events, though sometimes people will try to rationalize by blaming it (or any other emotional disorder, for that matter) on their childhoods.
In any case, we don't have enough information to diagnose *or* rule out a personality problem (neurosis, whatever). That's really something that should be between you and your therapist.
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