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Posted by roo on February 28, 2001, at 11:30:33
Anyone out there with cyclothymia who feels great about
their romantic relationships when they're in the up side
of their cycle, and then feel things like "I'm with the
wrong person, or this relationship is over" when they're
in the down part of their cycle? I struggle with this a lot
and it's really hard on me, and my boyfriend. He can never
feel stable and secure with me b/c he never knows when my
feelings are going to change.Bipolars feel free to respond too, since our disorders
are somewhat similar (although cyclothymia not nearly
as severe with the mood swings)
Posted by Ted on February 28, 2001, at 16:37:42
In reply to cyclothymia and/or bipolor and relationships, posted by roo on February 28, 2001, at 11:30:33
Hi Roo,
Been there, done that. It took a breakdown, hospitalization, and medication for my bipolar disorder to save me and my marriage (I'm the one with BP). Get help and take your meds. It can work wonders for your relationship.
Ted
> Anyone out there with cyclothymia who feels great about
> their romantic relationships when they're in the up side
> of their cycle, and then feel things like "I'm with the
> wrong person, or this relationship is over" when they're
> in the down part of their cycle?
Posted by avoet on March 24, 2001, at 11:24:38
In reply to cyclothymia and/or bipolor and relationships, posted by roo on February 28, 2001, at 11:30:33
i feel exactly the same. my relationship problems come and go with my cycles. hang in there.
Posted by pumped on February 9, 2004, at 18:18:33
In reply to cyclothymia and/or bipolor and relationships, posted by roo on February 28, 2001, at 11:30:33
> Anyone out there with cyclothymia who feels great about
> their romantic relationships when they're in the up side
> of their cycle, and then feel things like "I'm with the
> wrong person, or this relationship is over" when they're
> in the down part of their cycle? I struggle with this a lot
> and it's really hard on me, and my boyfriend. He can never
> feel stable and secure with me b/c he never knows when my
> feelings are going to change.
>
> Bipolars feel free to respond too, since our disorders
> are somewhat similar (although cyclothymia not nearly
> as severe with the mood swings)fully understand your concerns and have a similar problem right now.
Feeling agitated and down right now and expect partner to understand and be accepting of my obnoxious behavior.
You may be unpredictable but you to must struggle with your emotions and sometimes it's good to just let him know where you're at and take time for yourself which will benefit the both of you.
May be easier said than done but it's all I know to keep the relationship or else the other person has to suffer through my unexplainable shifts in mood. I've learned after having this illness for 12 years that sometimes walking away is the difference between losing and keeping a relationship.
Posted by pumped on February 9, 2004, at 18:38:38
In reply to cyclothymia and/or bipolor and relationships, posted by roo on February 28, 2001, at 11:30:33
Hello fellow cyclothymics,
Just joined today and sad to see not many people
posting thoughts and concerns.
Hard to talk to people out there not dealing with the illness.
My life has been up and down, left and right for the past few months.
Dating a girl who keeps correcting my extreme and obnoxious behavior and leaves me thinking I'm doing something wrong.
Told her today not to e-mail or call cause my frame of mind is restless and feel like talking till the sun comes up. I just can't find a lot of nice or interesting things to say.
Really afraid to committ because I feel so vulnerable when I need her most - when I'm down and unsure of myself.
Definitely interested in hearing from anybody out there struggling with relationships as a result of the instability in moods or any other issues that we all seem to struggle with.
Any ideas, advice, or thoughts please respond - site to empty and lonely.
Posted by platinumbride on February 9, 2004, at 22:11:29
In reply to Re: cyclothymia and/or bipolor and relationships » roo, posted by pumped on February 9, 2004, at 18:18:33
I can relate to all that has been said on this subject all too well. I'm secretly kind of glad that I am not the only one! Meds or no meds, I know that I am mercurial and difficult.....or....loving, sweet, supportive and fun! It isn't easy for my husband...he never knows who he is going to come home to. But for him, waiting out the demon is worth it.
As for me, I would smack the ^*&(% out of anyone like me LOL!
What I try to do is give myself a "time out". Then I tell myself that if it is really a big deal and worth fighting over, it will still be that big a deal when I am feeling more rational. I never tell him that I think we are doomed and that this is all a mistake (though I feel that even as I write now) because generally something happens that makes me feel 180 degrees from that point. What is the use in upsetting him with how loathsome he is to me at times? I guess I learned long ago never to trust my emotions. Some people get to trust their "gut". Since I have guts that are often diametrically opposed, I don't have that luxury. I just try to appeal to reason. Doesn't always work, and it means that my partner needs to understand that I am in a "mood" and that it may not be his fault, but I figure for every time I hold my tongue it is like putting money in the bank, and then when I blow up I can look at the times I didn't blow up, and hate myself less for it!
Sigh.....good luck
Posted by KimberlyDi on February 10, 2004, at 10:25:10
In reply to cyclothymia and/or bipolor and relationships, posted by roo on February 28, 2001, at 11:30:33
That's my everyday life with my husband!!! Sometimes I'm floating with happiness and then othertimes I'm suspicious about his every step and am frantic that I've fallen into yet another abusive relationship. This can happen repeatedly in just a few hours (this rapid stuff just recently). The main point is that during these swings, NOTHING HAS CHANGED except my mood. I've been prescribed a mood stabilizer for the first time. I don't have an official diagnosis yet, as least one that my pdoc has shared with me.
I've been this way with other relationships too.
KDi in TX
> Anyone out there with cyclothymia who feels great about
> their romantic relationships when they're in the up side
> of their cycle, and then feel things like "I'm with the
> wrong person, or this relationship is over" when they're
> in the down part of their cycle? I struggle with this a lot
> and it's really hard on me, and my boyfriend. He can never
> feel stable and secure with me b/c he never knows when my
> feelings are going to change.
>
> Bipolars feel free to respond too, since our disorders
> are somewhat similar (although cyclothymia not nearly
> as severe with the mood swings)
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