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Posted by Chris A. on September 18, 2000, at 0:47:57
Any suggestions? He is nineteen and fifteen times zones away from home. When he was home this summer I was tempted to slip some Ritalin in his mashed potatoes. He has gotten into trouble on the job several times since being overseas. His descriptions of his experiences echo of impulsivity. He communicates with us often and is quite frank. I'm not sure that he wants to hear what his mother has to say, though. He has been in denial of his ADHD since the age of thirteen, much to his own detriment. If he were to acknowledge it now and seek treatment (which in my estimation makes him much more productive, attentive and pleasant to be around), he would lose his job. He had a top notch work-up when he was diagnosed at 4 1/2 years of age and was followed up through the age of thirteen. IQ wise he's at the top, but he hasn't accepted the ADHD and is unwilling to work with it so he suffers and others around him get some fallout. I hate to see him unneccessarily go through this, but don't know how to intervene. Perhaps I just have to let him learn the hard way.
That's hard because I come from a strong prevention mindset - catch it early and treat it vigorously to prevent deterioration and heartache. To him to admit it would be a sign of weakness - not something a marine readily does. He's my little boy. Is there anything I can do?Chris A.
Posted by stjames on September 21, 2000, at 17:15:35
In reply to Late adolescent son denying ADD-How do I help him?, posted by Chris A. on September 18, 2000, at 0:47:57
> Any suggestions?
James here.....
This is what I did with my brother. Get the book "Driven to Distraction" and let him read it.
My brother read it and found himself in it.james
Posted by Chris A. on September 21, 2000, at 22:11:12
In reply to Re: Late adolescent son denying ADD-How do I help him?, posted by stjames on September 21, 2000, at 17:15:35
Sounds like a good idea. He is so distracted that he might see a book in the box and not even notice it, or if he noticed it not bother to read the title :) :)! Perhaps when he gets stuck in his tent in the rain in S. Korea with nothing else to do...other than talk incessantly, play with the cord on most anything or harrass his tent-mate. At least when he's asleep he's out. (Whew)!
Blessings,
Chris A.
P.S. At least I am doing better than when he was at home.
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> James here.....
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> This is what I did with my brother. Get the book "Driven to Distraction" and let him read it.
> My brother read it and found himself in it.
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> james
Posted by greenhornet on February 21, 2005, at 7:09:43
In reply to Thanks, James!, posted by Chris A. on September 21, 2000, at 22:11:12
> Sounds like a good idea. He is so distracted that he might see a book in the box and not even notice it, or if he noticed it not bother to read the title :) :)! Perhaps when he gets stuck in his tent in the rain in S. Korea with nothing else to do...other than talk incessantly, play with the cord on most anything or harrass his tent-mate. At least when he's asleep he's out. (Whew)!
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> Blessings,
> Chris A.
> P.S. At least I am doing better than when he was at home.
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> > James here.....
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> > This is what I did with my brother. Get the book "Driven to Distraction" and let him read it.
> > My brother read it and found himself in it.
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> > james
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>Chris,
Sorry to hear that this is upsetting you so. I have three things to say:
1.pray for your son daily (I shall too)
2.Let go lovingly
3. He is an adult and a member of the Armed Forces of the United States. The Marine Corps will treat him as such, so should you.
Mother of four servicemen,
two ex-servicemen and
retired Navy wife. GH
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