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Posted by happyflower on July 23, 2005, at 22:35:36
I was so abused by my parents, why would god allow this to happen to me? Did I do something wrong or am I being taught a lesson? Any ideas?
Posted by crazy teresa on July 24, 2005, at 0:42:36
In reply to Why does God allow bad things to happen?, posted by happyflower on July 23, 2005, at 22:35:36
Beautiful flower,
You did absolutely nothing wrong. You were not being punished by God in any way, shape or form. He was not trying to teach you a lesson. I promise you this with all my heart.
Your parents had choices to make. They could have been good parents, just as you have chosen to be despite your past. Instead, they chose to be abusive, and I am so sorry that they made those choices. Their bad choices are still wreaking havoc in your life. Have you ever heard the term 'the sins of the fathers?' It means that consequenses for the bad choices we (your parents) make can affect our children (you), our children's children (your kids--not from anything you've done, but what you have to deal with affects everyone close to you), and so on, passed down through the generations. Does that make sense? It has nothing to do with what you deserve.
I know that sounds too incredibly simple for the hell that you've been through and are still in, but I am speaking from a Christian point of view. Christianity is basically a very simple concept. God gives us free will-- the choice to believe or not, to obey Him or not, to pray or not, etc.,-- and the choices we make are entirely up to us.
I agree with your T about your mom being narcissistic. She had to have been so completely self-obsessed, not for one second could she have been thinking about you or anyone else. Please stay away from her. She did this, not God.
Most sincerely,
Teresa
Posted by rayww on July 24, 2005, at 2:05:07
In reply to Why does God allow bad things to happen?, posted by happyflower on July 23, 2005, at 22:35:36
You're still here, which tells me God stood beside you and gave you strength to endure. As Teresa said, your parents are suffering from things that happened to them, perhaps up to the 4th generation back. You will be the one to break the cycle for future generations. Narsistic parents don't realize children grow up some day. Can't figure that one out. God's greatest gift to any of us is agency, unfortunately some abuse their gift more than others. I am sorry you have had to endure such a childhood. God knows and cares.
Posted by happyflower on July 25, 2005, at 21:57:20
In reply to Re: Why does God allow bad things to happen? » happyflower, posted by crazy teresa on July 24, 2005, at 0:42:36
You know Teresa, I don't know why you call yourself crazy when you seem to make so much sense to me. Unless I am crazy too, then if that is the case, WHO CARES!!!! lol
Well thank you for answering my question, I will give it some thought about what you said. :)
Posted by happyflower on July 25, 2005, at 21:58:24
In reply to Re: Why does God allow bad things to happen?, posted by rayww on July 24, 2005, at 2:05:07
Thank you for your response, Rayww! I guess I AM still here, so you are right. lol Thanks again!
Posted by crazy teresa on July 26, 2005, at 17:42:47
In reply to Re: Why does God allow bad things to happen? » crazy teresa, posted by happyflower on July 25, 2005, at 21:57:20
That's the sweetest thing anyone's ever babbled to me! Will you marry me? ;~}
Posted by happyflower on July 28, 2005, at 17:48:12
In reply to Re: Why does God allow bad things to happen? » happyflower, posted by crazy teresa on July 26, 2005, at 17:42:47
Crazy T, I am female and already married to my DH for 11 years! lol Sorry! :)
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