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Posted by Dr. Bob on April 30, 2004, at 5:02:28
Hi, everyone,
In case you haven't seen, Shar found out that Gracie2 died last year:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20040422/msgs/341377.html
It's so sad.
I thought this could be a memorial thread, in which people could -- if they were moved to -- remember her, quote or link to posts of hers, and say goodbye to her.
For me, one thing about her that stood out was the pride she took in her work:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20011015/msgs/81573.html
I also remember when she told us for the first time about her "secret" artistic side:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/admin/20020918/msgs/7972.html
And I thought it was wonderful that she tried to pass on to others what she herself had learned through hard experience:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20021203/msgs/130543.html
She brought so much to this community. I'll really miss her.
Bob
Posted by Phil on April 30, 2004, at 21:04:41
In reply to In memory of Gracie, posted by Dr. Bob on April 30, 2004, at 5:02:28
You had so much of what's loveable in another, True Spunk!! Such honesty and humanity.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20030407/msgs/218199.html
Peace Love Light
Phil
Posted by shar on May 1, 2004, at 12:18:16
In reply to Re: In memory of Gracie: So long, Gracie, posted by Phil on April 30, 2004, at 21:04:41
I'm so in shock, and mortified that Gracie is gone and I didn't even know until now--almost a year later. And, I didn't know enough about her to even call the cops--wouldn't have known where to tell them to go. It makes me want to demand first and last names, and home/work/cell numbers, SSNs, a list of names and numbers of family members, and home/work addresses from all those I love here. Then nobody could simply disappear. Or at least I could call/write and nag them about "where are you?!"
I don't have a particular post to put here. I am still so sad, typing through tears, damning the fact that she and I did not get to say more clearly how much we meant to each other, always assuming she would be here. I guess that is the last thing I learned from her--say it now.
To the strong and loving person she was, so very much alive in my heart--goodbye for now. I hope you and your brother are enjoying a glass of red wine, with nothing but peace and joy in your hearts and minds, no more dark nights of the soul. If you see my Scruffles there, she'll make you a good friend, and provide copious amounts of love and comfort anytime you need it.
xoxo
Shar
Posted by shar on May 1, 2004, at 12:35:29
In reply to In memory of Gracie, posted by Dr. Bob on April 30, 2004, at 5:02:28
This is a possible trigger, because Gracie is talking about her suicide attempt.
In the first post she is talking a suicide attempt, and I had asked her whether or not she was glad she recovered, or was she disappointed. Her answer has always stayed with me.
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20020305/msgs/19530.html
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/social/20020305/msgs/19625.html
Posted by gardenergirl on May 1, 2004, at 19:13:24
In reply to One more thing she taught me (may trigger), posted by shar on May 1, 2004, at 12:35:29
Shar,
Thank you for sharing this. I read the posts and was so moved. Although I didn't know Gracie, I feel like I too have been touched by her now.I'm sorry for your pain. There are no words, really.
gg
Posted by Escher Dementian on May 2, 2004, at 7:29:16
In reply to In memory of Gracie, posted by Dr. Bob on April 30, 2004, at 5:02:28
Posted by Ambassador B on May 2, 2004, at 13:15:00
In reply to In memory of Gracie, posted by Dr. Bob on April 30, 2004, at 5:02:28
At this time I have no words dear Gracie, but only overwhealming saddness. I am so sorry we never had a chance to get together and get our toenails painted.
Amb B
Posted by judy1 on May 2, 2004, at 13:17:26
In reply to In memory of Gracie, posted by Dr. Bob on April 30, 2004, at 5:02:28
everytime I have tried to type on this forum I fail because I cry too much. so I will try again. Gracie was an amazing woman, so filled with life that to see it gone is an incredible loss. I remembered her post on her artistic ability (and thank you Dr. Bob for providing a link), hopefully I will be able to view her work since I have a family member at that hospital. I am grateful that I met her on babble in the years she posted here, I gained a lot. I pray the demons that chased her in life are gone and that she is now at peace.
Posted by Penny on May 3, 2004, at 10:25:39
In reply to In memory of Gracie, posted by Dr. Bob on April 30, 2004, at 5:02:28
This really breaks my heart. :-( I was looking back over the posts Gracie and I exchanged when I was going through a really rough time last summer - and, in fact, it was just before her death. She was so supportive of me - encouraging me to stand up to my roommate, to take care of myself, to do what was best for me, to take a hospital "break". I feel confident that she played a large part in my survival.
Gracie was an amazing woman, one who cared so much for others, and I miss her terribly.
P
Posted by rainyday on May 3, 2004, at 17:38:39
In reply to Re: In memory of Gracie, posted by Penny on May 3, 2004, at 10:25:39
I found this forum after Gracie had abruptly left. However, with the posts that Dr Bob listed and all the wonderful people who loved her, I wish I had had the chance to know her, based on the words she left behind.
She was a wordsmith. She so eloquently described what so many of us feell but cannot articulate. She was able to reach out to us in all but her very deepest despair.
I wish I had had the privilege to have known her.
Posted by gabbix2 on May 12, 2004, at 21:52:14
In reply to To be remembered and loved, posted by rainyday on May 3, 2004, at 17:38:39
I'll miss you Gracie, damnit, we never did get to watch that movie.
You were some kinda woman.
Posted by shar on May 16, 2004, at 22:43:34
In reply to Re: To be remembered and loved, posted by gabbix2 on May 12, 2004, at 21:52:14
I know she would have taken that as a huge compliment!
xoxo
Shar
Posted by kara lynne on May 19, 2004, at 2:18:46
In reply to 'Some kinda woman' totally describes her! » gabbix2, posted by shar on May 16, 2004, at 22:43:34
I would really like to know, if there is a thread where I can find out the information.
I saved her 'personal' ad:
"To all you available men: soon-to-be-single white manic depressive searching for the next place to park my emotional baggage. I'm looking for that special man with comprehensive medical coverage, PPO preferred but will consider a good HMO with low co-pays.I have green eyes, red hair, and a truly impressive drug tolerance. My interests are sleeping, obsessing and feeling guilty. I enjoy routine drives to the pharmacy, long walks to the hospital cafeteria and smoke breaks. I'm a great housekeeper in manic cycle, and I can tell a Valium from an aspirin at 20 yards.
I don't spend a lot of money on frivolous things like haircuts and nice clothes. I'm a down-to-earth, scrubs-and-sweats kind of gal. I dislike sunshine, loud noises, 4-point restraints and generic Xanax. I'm usually willing to try new things, like ECT and different phobias.
If you're not into timid, dependent types, I'm your dream girl. I've scared off police dogs and gang members. If you need lots of "space", I'm often emotionally distant or committed elsewhere. So, as you can tell, I won't be available for long. Take a chance with me, gentlemen, and never
risk boredom again!
-GracieI remember wondering how someone could come up with that kind of humor and insight, having gone through what she did. She was a beacon for me when I was going through my darkest hour. My deepest prayers are with her.
Posted by kara lynne on May 19, 2004, at 2:34:00
In reply to Do we know what happened?, posted by kara lynne on May 19, 2004, at 2:18:46
I just saw Shar's original post. Now I can't help thinking of things she said, that indicated she was afraid of her husband. But in the end it seemed like he got what he wanted, he got the divorce, so I don't get it....? Yet I know she needed to protect herself greatly from him. I can't stand the idea that she was not protected enough. Of course I know no details, so I will say no more.
Posted by shar on May 20, 2004, at 22:24:43
In reply to Do we know what happened?, posted by kara lynne on May 19, 2004, at 2:18:46
Kara,
What a great post! That is the 'quintessential' Gracie! I'm so glad you saved it!!!
Unfortunately, no, I don't know what happened. I'm still working on it. I've written her biological mom with no reply. I haven't yet contacted her stepmom and dad.
Thank you for a chuckle at yet another of her funny, feisty, wonderful posts!!
And, thanks for recognizing her value.
Shar
> I would really like to know, if there is a thread where I can find out the information.
>
> I saved her 'personal' ad:
> "To all you available men: soon-to-be-single white manic depressive searching for the next place to park my emotional baggage. I'm looking for that special man with comprehensive medical coverage, PPO preferred but will consider a good HMO with low co-pays.
>
> I have green eyes, red hair, and a truly impressive drug tolerance. My interests are sleeping, obsessing and feeling guilty. I enjoy routine drives to the pharmacy, long walks to the hospital cafeteria and smoke breaks. I'm a great housekeeper in manic cycle, and I can tell a Valium from an aspirin at 20 yards.
>
> I don't spend a lot of money on frivolous things like haircuts and nice clothes. I'm a down-to-earth, scrubs-and-sweats kind of gal. I dislike sunshine, loud noises, 4-point restraints and generic Xanax. I'm usually willing to try new things, like ECT and different phobias.
>
> If you're not into timid, dependent types, I'm your dream girl. I've scared off police dogs and gang members. If you need lots of "space", I'm often emotionally distant or committed elsewhere. So, as you can tell, I won't be available for long. Take a chance with me, gentlemen, and never
> risk boredom again!
> -Gracie
>
> I remember wondering how someone could come up with that kind of humor and insight, having gone through what she did. She was a beacon for me when I was going through my darkest hour. My deepest prayers are with her.
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