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Posted by jlynne on October 9, 2004, at 14:47:27
Mama, I’m sorry you were given a life that was filled with pain and struggle. You never had a chance to relax and enjoy the simple pleasures that come naturally to so many. Your tender heart was scarred so early and you never learned how to feel safe and secure in this world.
If I had been your mother, I would have taken special care to give you the extra nurturing that you required, and I would have protected you from your abusers. But your mother was struggling, too, and she didn’t know how to do things any different.
I had glimpses of the real you, from time to time, but your illness got in the way and even though you were still here physically, I felt that I lost you in my youth; I hated you for leaving me then. Now I am learning more about myself, and as I do I am learning more about you. Your choices were taken from you, but because you lived I am able to create my own choices. Thank you for your courage.
I’m sorry, mama . . . if it had been up to me I would have made you a princess in a kingdom full of love and happiness, and you would have been waited on and cared for, and everyone would have adored you.
I think you knew that I loved you; I could see it in your eyes. I’m glad your death was without pain, and I want you to know that your life was not without purpose. Goodbye mama . . . I will carry on from here.
Posted by Jai Narayan on October 9, 2004, at 17:40:48
In reply to Good-bye, Mama, posted by jlynne on October 9, 2004, at 14:47:27
Dear jlynne your post to your mother was very moving.
My goodness.
I send you my caring....my energy.I too had such a mother.
Your moving tribute to your mother moves my feelings about my mother.Did your mother die? Recently? Are you alright?
My heart goes out to you tonight jlynne.
yours
Jai
Posted by jlynne on October 9, 2004, at 18:21:36
In reply to Re: Good-bye, Mama, posted by Jai Narayan on October 9, 2004, at 17:40:48
Thank you, jai . . . mama died a couple months ago. She strolled into my thoughts today, and I was overcome with grief; I had to let it out somehow. I'm so glad we have this board.
. . . jlynne
Posted by Jai Narayan on October 9, 2004, at 19:52:37
In reply to Re: Good-bye, Mama » Jai Narayan, posted by jlynne on October 9, 2004, at 18:21:36
so am I sweetie....
yours
Jai
Posted by TofuEmmy on October 10, 2004, at 8:51:41
In reply to Good-bye, Mama, posted by jlynne on October 9, 2004, at 14:47:27
Oh Jlynne, your post brought tears to my eyes. I too had a troubled mom. This line especially touched my heart:
"if it had been up to me I would have made you a princess in a kingdom full of love and happiness, and you would have been waited on and cared for, and everyone would have adored you."
I believe our moms finally have that now. In the end, my mom could no longer smile. She was simply too sad. But after her death, I was sure she smiled down on me. I could feel it, and decades later I still do.
Thank you for sharing. Emmy
Posted by jlynne on October 10, 2004, at 20:57:40
In reply to Re: Good-bye, Mama » jlynne, posted by TofuEmmy on October 10, 2004, at 8:51:41
> I believe our moms finally have that now. In the end, my mom could no longer smile. She was simply too sad. But after her death, I was sure she smiled down on me. I could feel it, and decades later I still do.
>
Emmy, thank your for sharing, too. I had a similar experience after my mama died; I could see her in my daddy's arms and they were both healthy and sane and loving each other the way god meant them to. I believe that with all my heart.. . . jlynne
Posted by fayeroe on October 11, 2004, at 15:58:57
In reply to Good-bye, Mama, posted by jlynne on October 9, 2004, at 14:47:27
What a beautiful way you chose to honor your mama. I am so touched by what you wrote. And there's no doubt in my mind that you will carry on and she will be proud of you, very proud. Pat
Posted by jlynne on October 11, 2004, at 23:11:22
In reply to Re: Good-bye, Mama » jlynne, posted by fayeroe on October 11, 2004, at 15:58:57
Posted by Shar on October 13, 2004, at 1:45:49
In reply to Re: Good-bye, Mama » Jai Narayan, posted by jlynne on October 9, 2004, at 18:21:36
Yes, me, too! That's how grief occurs, I think. A thought at a time, a remembrance, a song you hear...
I have not read all of these posts, but I hope you are ok, and I'm so glad you appreciate your mom's hard life (and will not use it to justify any hard times you experienced at her hand). I'm in a VERY similar situation, although my mom is still alive.
Shar
> Thank you, jai . . . mama died a couple months ago. She strolled into my thoughts today, and I was overcome with grief; I had to let it out somehow. I'm so glad we have this board.
>
> . . . jlynne
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