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Posted by memoryleaves on December 11, 2004, at 12:42:57
I've been doing EMDR for a while on other traumas that came after the death my father. He died when I was three and I am only now beginning to understand and feel and make the connection that he was really my dad. The pain and torment is unbearable.
But EMDR is over for a while. And my last session opened this up and I can't shut it down. I actually told my T at the time that I never wanted to bring my father up in therapy because I felt it would be disrespectful. But perhaps it's just what I need to do. Every single year between October and January I am a complete wreck. And it's even worse to be a complete wreck when you don't know WHY you're a complete wreck. At least I know why now. But knowing is not making the pain go away.
Has anyone here used EMDR to help with grief? Is it okay to do that? Is there anything morally wrong it? I get a bit mixed up sometimes because of religious abuse from my childhood as well, so that's why I need to ask for objective opinions.
Thank you,
Memory
Posted by Jai Narayan on December 11, 2004, at 17:17:25
In reply to EMDR for Grief?, posted by memoryleaves on December 11, 2004, at 12:42:57
Hi, my name is Jai Narayan.
I have been doing EMDR for a few years.
This has been very useful for me to over come my childhood traumas.
I did "talk" therapy for years with minimal results.
EMDR is a complete release from old pain.
I am changed since I tackled my worst problems.Do I think you need to hold back on working on pain from your parents death?
No.
Your father wouldn't want you to be in pain.
No parent wants their child to be in pain.
I think your father would want you to be released from any pain you might feel.I encourage you to do what you feel is right.
Jai
Posted by partlycloudy on December 12, 2004, at 9:08:57
In reply to Re: EMDR for Grief?, posted by Jai Narayan on December 11, 2004, at 17:17:25
EMDR has helped me put many deeply upsetting events behind me, where they belong. I agree that you do what you need to do when you to do it.
Good luck.
Posted by memoryleaves on December 13, 2004, at 12:13:45
In reply to Re: EMDR for Grief?, posted by Jai Narayan on December 11, 2004, at 17:17:25
Hi Jai Narayan,
Thank you for responding and sharing your experience with EMDR. I am glad to hear EMDR has had such a positive effect on your life. EMDR has *changed* me too, in some ways. I guess I just never thought it was something that could help with loss of a loved one. I'm realizing now that of course I never thought about it because my grief was blocked all this time. I'm also realizing that grief is grief. All the other traumas I have been working through in EMDR contain grief as well.
I just hope I can get in for one more session at least, before I move away, because I'm just not coping so well.
I think you're right, my daddy wouldn't want me to live this way. He would want me to thrive. Thank you so much for making that point. That has been a huge deciding factor for me. I appreciate your insight.
All the best,
Memory
Posted by memoryleaves on December 13, 2004, at 12:19:24
In reply to Re: EMDR for Grief?, posted by partlycloudy on December 12, 2004, at 9:08:57
Posted by Jai Narayan on December 13, 2004, at 22:28:01
In reply to Re: EMDR for Grief? » Jai Narayan, posted by memoryleaves on December 13, 2004, at 12:13:45
thank you so much, what a sweet post. I was touched.
yours
Jai Narayan
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