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Posted by wildcard2009 on July 15, 2009, at 11:46:47
My first try at grad school, I was basically kicked out. I spent 2 years away, bartending, snowboarding, etc... but now I'm going back for a PhD program in the fall. I have really bad self confidence issues. I feel like I fooled everyone, and really I'm not smart enough to do this. It's almost a feeling of panic & dread. Does anyone else feel this? I felt this way before I went to my last program, and it's as if it became a self-fulfilling prophesy. I've also had problems with depression in the past, and I'm very shy/don't like meeting people, and have a hard time in class discussion & horrible fear of public speaking. When taken together, I wonder why I am even attempting to go back to school. Any feedback? Should I be on medication?
Posted by fleeting flutterby on July 22, 2009, at 10:01:14
In reply to going back to grad school, posted by wildcard2009 on July 15, 2009, at 11:46:47
Just by chance I came by this forum and saw your post. Welcome! sorry it's not very active in this particular forum..... maybe you could also post in "social" or "self-esteem" , that way you will perahps get more replies.
> My first try at grad school, I was basically kicked out. I spent 2 years away, bartending, snowboarding, etc... but now I'm going back for a PhD program in the fall.<<
---flutterby: I find anyone that has gone 4 years of college and finished- awesome in my book! that is a great accomplishment that I hope you are proud of.
>> I have really bad self confidence issues. I feel like I fooled everyone, and really I'm not smart enough to do this. It's almost a feeling of panic & dread. Does anyone else feel this?<<
----flutterby: Oh yes, I am just like that. I didn't finish college and have bounced from job to job to job.... I get panicked and feel dread that I'm fooling people about being a good worker so I quit jobs frequently.
<<I felt this way before I went to my last program, and it's as if it became a self-fulfilling prophesy.<<---flutterby: I've been told --that which one thinks and believes often becomes their reality.
>> I've also had problems with depression in the past, and I'm very shy/don't like meeting people, and have a hard time in class discussion & horrible fear of public speaking. When taken together, I wonder why I am even attempting to go back to school. Any feedback? Should I be on medication?<<
---flutterby: I think you attempt to go because that tiny inner self that believes in you is trying to get you to listen. I'm not a big advocate for drugs-- but maybe just for a bit it would help you, to get off on the right foot. anti-anxiety maybe??
wishing you the best and again-- Welcome! :o)
flutterby-mandy
Posted by floatingbridge on August 16, 2009, at 18:03:58
In reply to going back to grad school, posted by wildcard2009 on July 15, 2009, at 11:46:47
Hey wildcard,
I don't frequent this board, so a month has passed since you wrote. Have you posted on any of the other boards and received any responses?
Kudos to you for going for your phd. I was too shy to continue, myself, after my masters. I wish I had. When I was doing my masters, and afterwards, I was diagnosed with Social Phobia. I realized that my social phobias and anxieties really held me back in life (and still do). If this rings a bell for you, check it out--it can be very treatable. Please don't let it (if indeed this is what you 'have') hold you back from goals. Plenty of people here have varying degrees of social phobias and anxiety--or had them and worked them through.
good luck, and carry on! Feel free to ask me any questions if you like--I'll try and help!
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