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Posted by coral on April 28, 2003, at 18:53:24
Has anyone seen the movie "The Secretary"?
The plot: A young woman is released from a mental institution and she self-injures. She goes to work for a very exacting, domineering and demanding boss. He instructs her not to SI anymore and she complies. He, then, begins to spank her when she's made mistakes which she finds erotic, as does he. She battles to keep the relationship when he exhibits vulnerability. She does so by exhibiting absolute compliance to his wishes and the movie ends in a very tender scene where he's bathing her.
What I saw in the movie was a connection that SI could be successfully replaced by a BDSM relationship and, frankly, thought people who were SI'ers as well as people who were BDSM'ers would be offended.
I would dearly love to hear others' thoughts.
Coral
Posted by Dinah on April 28, 2003, at 20:03:58
In reply to CAUTION: Question re: SI, posted by coral on April 28, 2003, at 18:53:24
I didn't see the movie, but I would tend to agree with you. My reasons for self injury are myriad, and I self injure at different times for different reasons, but never for love of pain or excitement from pain.
Of course, I can only speak for myself.
Posted by shar on May 4, 2003, at 1:26:24
In reply to CAUTION: Question re: SI, posted by coral on April 28, 2003, at 18:53:24
Hmmm, do you think maybe this movie was supposed to just be primarily erotic in nature, and not quite so psychological? I mean, mainly appealing to the D/S'ers out there? So, the SI was mainly a way to get the plot moving. It sounds like it would be taken as: she was always submissive but didn't realize it, had troubles and started to SI and ended up in a mental hospital, got out, and discovered her 'true' submissive nature when she hooked up with her dominant boss--which, of course, solved her problems (at least the SI...).
Some folks see a certain beauty in the S/D relationship, and the Dominant one not only dispenses discipline (spanking) but love beyond love (the bathing scene) that the submissive partner has never had.
That is an interesting plot twist with the D showing vulnerability, and a predictable response from the S to keep him in role. Which, from the way it sounds, all worked ok.
Obviously, I haven't seen the film, so this is all just speculation.
??? Shar
Posted by coral on May 4, 2003, at 3:06:55
In reply to Re: CAUTION: Question re: SI » coral, posted by shar on May 4, 2003, at 1:26:24
That's what had me wondering. To the best of my knowledge, both the SI and the D/s aspects were accurately depicted. (No judgment here on either one, BTW) It was the transformation from SI to sub (and your assessment is correct, methinks!), that hit my "rant" button.
My presumption of the movie was that the movie proferred the thought that SI can be replaced w/D/s and fulfillment is achieved.
I'm fascinated by the concept but then, I once spent twenty minutes watching a Yellowjacket eat a tiny bit of chocolate.
xoxo
Coral
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