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Posted by justyourlaugh on June 5, 2003, at 22:48:45
ive been so clean..
yet the need to cut is taking over me and i cant understand why,,or am not smart enough to express it..
i feel violent..yet still maintain some control
i sleep on this couch every night while my family lays upstairs..
i am detached..
alone...
i dont know how to ask for more help
i am ashamed
Posted by Dinah on June 5, 2003, at 23:23:22
In reply to triggerish, posted by justyourlaugh on June 5, 2003, at 22:48:45
Hi JYL,
No need to be ashamed. It happens that way sometimes. Are you maybe angry about something? Anger is always my biggest trigger. My therapist always wants me to find other ways to express it than by cutting. And honestly, when I'm able to talk it out, I can often stop from acting it out. My therapist wants me to use art to express my anger, but I can't really find a way to do that.
I've found that the best way to ask for help is a straight out "Help!!", along with what I would like, or if I don't know what I need, at least a statement that I don't know what I need. Perhaps a therapist would help some? Sometimes families are too close to give us what we need. They're afraid, or we don't want to scare them.
Do you know what you need right now? (Other than to cut.) Is there another way to release the pressure valve on the feelings of violence? To let it out at a manageable rate? I think it's different for everyone.
Have you visited
http://www.palace.net/~llama/psych/injury.html
Take care, JYL.
Posted by fallsfall on June 6, 2003, at 7:33:14
In reply to triggerish, posted by justyourlaugh on June 5, 2003, at 22:48:45
Asking for help is so hard. What do you ask for? Who do you ask? Do you have the right to ask? Will you hurt someone by asking for help? What happens if you ask for help and noone can give it?
But when you don't ask for help then you are left with only your thoughts and opinions and ideas. And if you are currently miserable, those are probably not enough. You need new ideas and new strength. You will only get those from outside yourself.
You can start small. Ask your wife for a hug. Tell a friend that you feel lousy, but you can't talk about it yet - you just need them to know you feel lousy. Post a message on a message board. Go somewhere (anywhere, grocery store, park, downtown street) where there are people - you don't have to talk to them, just be in the same place they are. The point is to show yourself that there are other people and they won't hurt you (and lots of them will want to help).
But you have to make the first move. You don't want things to stay as they are (if you did, you wouldn't have posted this message). Just a small step.
Good Luck.
Posted by judy1 on June 8, 2003, at 12:32:44
In reply to triggerish, posted by justyourlaugh on June 5, 2003, at 22:48:45
Please don't feel ashamed, many of us SI- it's the only coping skill many people have. I've learned not to feel guilty, but if I do cut, I make sure to take care of it properly or get professional help when needed. I hope you do the same. Try to see your therapist as soon as you can and discuss why you're feeling this way. best of luck-judy
Posted by fallsfall on June 9, 2003, at 7:07:16
In reply to triggerish, posted by justyourlaugh on June 5, 2003, at 22:48:45
JYL -
Are you there? Are you OK?
Posted by justyourlaugh on June 12, 2003, at 18:32:13
In reply to Re: triggerish » justyourlaugh, posted by fallsfall on June 9, 2003, at 7:07:16
fall,
i am doing much better,thank you for asking:)
j
Posted by fallsfall on June 12, 2003, at 20:35:06
In reply to Re: triggerish and handleing it » fallsfall, posted by justyourlaugh on June 12, 2003, at 18:32:13
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