![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 6 of 6. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by starrlight on January 14, 2004, at 1:55:30
Parents of bp kids are tested beyond measure. My nerves are awfull and it doesn't seem to be getting any better. My daughters rants and raves are driving me nuts. I can't take her anywhere. My doctor put me on Effexor, but that has deffinantly not helped my nerves one bit. Any suggestions on something a pdoc might prescribe for nerves? At this rate it won't be her getting hospitalized 24/7 it will be me.
Me : 33yo mild depression~Effexor
GFG: tiffany-mood disorder-ADHD-possible bipolar-4yo~ Serequil~clonidine~Adderral
PC:daughter 12yo son 14yo
DEX:Bipolar not two oldest PC's dad
Posted by DaisyM on January 14, 2004, at 10:38:09
In reply to What about the parents of bp kids ??, posted by starrlight on January 14, 2004, at 1:55:30
My son was dx a little over a year ago with an anxiety disorder. He had lots of good reasons to be anxious but I struggled with so much guilt about not being able to make it all better for him. And, I just could not understand how I could have a kid who wasn't resilent (I, the queen of "just deal with it!") It took a good 8 months before my son's Therapist convinced me that I needed support too...I have my own huge basket of stuff to deal with...
Go get yourself some support. At the very least you'll have someone who understands your child's mental health issues. Most of your friends probably don't so they can't know how bad it is.
Everyday I have to cope with my husband's severe chronic illnesses -- and the moods, etc. that come with all of that. It is just as hard to be the support person as it is to be the sick person. (OK, maybe not just as hard, but it is pretty rough sometimes) It helps to have someone care about YOU while you take care of the rest of the world.
It has taken me MONTHS of therapy to write the above paragraph. I still feel selfish about it at least once per week. But, I don't think I would have made it without my Therapist and the support from this Board.
Take care of yourself.
Posted by antigua on January 14, 2004, at 10:57:39
In reply to Re: What about the parents of bp kids ?? » starrlight, posted by DaisyM on January 14, 2004, at 10:38:09
Daisy, you are an inspiration. It's easy to have my own pity party, even though I know I should be grateful for the life I have. While I struggle w/depression and PTSD and wonder if I will ever be "well" (gee, what does that really mean anyway?) I watch you deal w/the hand you have been dealt and I admire you. Can you loan me some of your strenght?
antigua
Posted by naiad on January 14, 2004, at 11:03:33
In reply to Re: What about the parents of bp kids ?? » starrlight, posted by DaisyM on January 14, 2004, at 10:38:09
starrlight,
As the parent of a 19 year old who is ADHD, LD, and a recovering addict, I can only encourage you to get all the help you possibly can. If you don't, it will become even harder.
I used to hear about self-care,but I thought that meant going out to lunch or getting my nails done. Unfortunately I was going out to lunch with people whose kids were "perfect" achieving scholars/athletes/take your pick.
In retrospect, I wish I had been on meds 15 years ago and going to therapy, too. It would have been nice to have my husband on board, as well.
Hang in there. I feel for you. You have a very tough job. Get help.
Posted by DaisyM on January 14, 2004, at 13:40:57
In reply to Re: What about the parents of bp kids ?? » DaisyM, posted by antigua on January 14, 2004, at 10:57:39
What a nice thing to say! I feel pretty good the past 2 days too. Might have something to do with the intense support I'm getting from my Therapist right now.
Isn't is strange how you look at your own circumstances and say, "yeah, but SHE has it really bad" and minimize your own crud? At least, I tend to.
From what I've read, you've had no picnic either. I've found your posts really useful and honest. So allow a pity party as necessary and I'll try to do the same.
Posted by Dr. Bob on January 15, 2004, at 2:08:58
In reply to What about the parents of bp kids ??, posted by starrlight on January 14, 2004, at 1:55:30
> Any suggestions on something a pdoc might prescribe for nerves?
I'd like follow-ups regarding medication to be redirected to (just plain) Psycho-Babble. Here's a link:
http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/20040114/msgs/301012.html
Also, sorry I didn't notice this sooner, but could you please re-register under a different name? I'm afraid this one might be confused with "starlight". Thanks,
Bob
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Psychology | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.