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Posted by michmich on January 30, 2004, at 2:37:08
I dont know what to do....I am a university student, and i used to see a women for counseling for 2 whole years. the supervisor terminated therapy because i have obsessive boughts with her. But we still care for eachother. On monday i got obsessive again, so she said she would not contact me until february cuz she does not want to feed the obsession. since then i have been sending her one line emails that are non threatening but just pathetic...she has not responded. today i actually called her house..and she called my house back and told me not to call her at her house and hung up. i called her back, and told her her not to call my house and asked why is she she doing this to me. she then says "uve been contacting me, emailing me, you called my house, i said u can cantact me in february! you want a future relationship..its impossible like this! if u call again im calling the police" so obviously im not calling again. But im furious...i know i should not do what im doing, but i dont think she wright either. If she wants a future relationship, then she shouldnt ignore me for a week, im not her pateint anymore! anyway, im scared she hates me now, and i dont know what to do. should i still cantact her in february? Im so angry and feel a million other feelings too. Ive been tossing and turning all ngiht. please help. thanks all.
Posted by Penny on January 30, 2004, at 8:31:54
In reply to Oh my gosh, my old therapist hates me., posted by michmich on January 30, 2004, at 2:37:08
Well, truly I think you should not contact her again, for your own well-being. And secondly, I don't think you should really consider having any kind of relationship with this woman in the future. It wouldn't be ethical for her to have a friendship or otherwise with you after having treated you for so long, even if she's not treating you anymore. It wouldn't be good for either of you!
I don't recall, so I apologize for asking if you've said before, but do you have a therapist now? If not, you really should find someone who can help you get over this former therapist. This doesn't sound like a healthy situation for you at all. I'm sorry it's causing you so much pain.
P
Posted by justyourlaugh on January 30, 2004, at 10:32:27
In reply to Re: Oh my gosh, my old therapist hates me. » michmich, posted by Penny on January 30, 2004, at 8:31:54
mich,,
you old t is way out of line..
she is leading you on and hurting you at the same time..
i think she thrives on the power she thinks she has over you and the way she can control you...
she should not call you for any reason..
talk about future relations..
put time lines when you can "feel"
i think she is a "nut" and should be reported asap!
j
Posted by Karen_kay on January 30, 2004, at 19:41:57
In reply to Oh my gosh, my old therapist hates me., posted by michmich on January 30, 2004, at 2:37:08
I think the best thing to do at this point is to find a new therapist if you haven't yet. This relationship doesn't sound healthy. I understand that you are really attached to your old therapist, but it's probably best at this point to start healing those wounds and move on. It won't be easy, but it may be the best for both parties involved.
Also, what did she mean by, "You can contact her in February"? Does that suggest that you could start seeing her again as a client? Or have some sort of an outside relationship?
I honestly think your best option is to start therapy with a new therapist and try to work through the feelings you have regarding your old therapist, as well as your unresolved issues that were neglected by this current (pardon me for saying this) mess that your therapist is putting you through. Isn't it strange though, when you start therapy the issues that therapists add the your plate. Sometimes it just doesn't seem fair... But, was anything like this a problem before you started therapy? (Just asking)
Posted by michmich on January 30, 2004, at 22:43:52
In reply to Re: Oh my gosh, my old therapist hates me., posted by Karen_kay on January 30, 2004, at 19:41:57
Thanks for the feedback everyone. I am seeing a therapist who I used to see in high school. She was wonderful, but at the time I was going to college so the distance was too far. But now I am seeing her again. This weeks session was canceled, but I htink she will be great at helping me through this. As far as me and my old therapist...I hope I can still call or see her (not for counseling) in february like she said. I made an appointment with a secretary im freinds with, who is going to say that i called february 1st and not today. Hoenstly, I think my old therapist is being silly and over reacting. But I also think my response to her is reactive as well. She was a diagnosed borderline back in the day, and is supposedley cured. but i still see it in her. She tries to hide it away by keeping busy or keep very stingent limits with patients. But her heart always shines through no matter what...but this time, im very afraid that she no longer loves me. I guess I will have to wait and see what happen when she greets me in the waiting room wednesday. I am so frightened it will be that cold or indifferent look. I will break if she says we can have no contact what so ever. Im so scared. :(
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