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Posted by Rigby on March 7, 2004, at 10:34:16
In reply to Re: Most Embarrassing Therapy Moment » Rigby, posted by Fallen4myT on March 6, 2004, at 23:09:26
Hi Fallen!
Nope,didn't share a boyfriend--this was one of her old flames that put up a page on her. It was amazingly weird to read this stuff about her.
Occassionally it'll come up and she always asks if I want to discuss it further but it actually made me like her a bit more since it showed she was a wild child so I don't have problems with it. She had said that she and I were alot alike--both really rebellious and from this page I could understand that statement a bit more!
> Rigby...?? You shared the same boyfriend at one time in your life as you T ??? LMAO I am sorry but these are funny I am not as nice as you I don't think I would have told my T cause then they know you GOOGLED them :) I bet your face was red. I wish I was a fly on the wall to all these posts
Posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 11:46:27
In reply to Re: Most Embarrassing Therapy Moment » Fallen4myT, posted by DaisyM on March 6, 2004, at 20:31:32
wow, if you were bold and wanted to seduce your t, you could have a lot of fun with stairs. i'm having some "basic instinct" types of thoughts. :)
Posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 11:49:44
In reply to Re: Most Embarrassing Therapy Moment » DaisyM, posted by Fallen4myT on March 6, 2004, at 20:38:36
you lmao'd reading this but it's also not funny: your husband talks to you like that?
> OMG No stairs fo me lol IF he did I would *maybe* force myself to say..can you go first please I have a dress on but as shy as I am I would make a fool of myself first lol
>
> Oh Daisy I learned long time ago to watch how I answer a phone. My husband once was sleeping in the chair and his cell phone rang it is for work..I hit the on button and shook him...he said WHAT &^^# DO YOU WANT A@#MUNCH...to me but said it into the cell then BURPED....it was one of his workers on 3rd shift ...I loled my head off. WHAT DID you say to you T ??? I would have loled and died :) way too funny I can tell I am going to like this thread
Posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 11:51:58
In reply to Re: Most Embarrassing Therapy Moment » Fallen4myT, posted by DaisyM on March 6, 2004, at 21:47:29
Daisy, your T just calls you out of the blue for no reason? No fair, I'm so envious. I wish my T would do that. She never does, and despite this fact, every time my phone rings my first hope is that it's her. Pathetic, huh.
Posted by shortelise on March 7, 2004, at 14:13:04
In reply to Okay, here goes...., posted by KindGirl on March 6, 2004, at 22:50:35
lolol kindgirl
Posted by shortelise on March 7, 2004, at 14:24:54
In reply to envy » DaisyM, posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 11:51:58
You want embarrassing?!
My husband and I were leaving to go camping right after my app't with my therapist. A couple of days later, when we pulled into a town where I thought I should look sort of nice to walk around, I got out the throusers I was wearing when I saw my therapist. To my horror, there was a huge, and I mean HUGE, hole in the crotch. I sit on a sofa opposite my shrink, and I often will sit cross-legged, or with my feet curled under me, etc.- I make a point of leaving my body to express what it will. Chances are if that hole didn't happen in the few hours I wore those pants after I saw him, that I sat there with my white cotton undies showing for part of the session. Believe me, there would have been nothing even remotely erotic about this sight.
I have no conscious desire to have physical contact with my shrink, aside from wanting to lean against him and suck my thumb.
Another moment: I got myself a nice little stuffed animal, a sweet little soft thing that I was carrying around with me - just a whim. One day, the girl who went my therapist office when I left was carrying a big stuffed animal, so I thought, what the hell, if she can, I can. So next time I took my animal with me, and told him that I'd seen the girl with hers, and he said, ah, er ... her's is a backpack.
Red in the face ShortE
Posted by Dinah on March 7, 2004, at 15:38:18
In reply to embarrassing ..., posted by shortelise on March 7, 2004, at 14:24:54
LOL. Don't be embarassed! I went for several months with one of those My Twinn dolls I had gotten. The ones you can get to be made up to look like you? I had one made to look like me as a little girl and brought it in to try to get in touch with the little girl inside. But it was also good for hugging.
I got some odd stares in the elevators sometimes, but most people just thought the doll was pretty and lifelike. No one, of course, caught the resemblence.
Posted by DaisyM on March 7, 2004, at 18:29:40
In reply to stairs » DaisyM, posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 11:46:27
Not if you've seen my rear! My eyes are my best feature so front works so much better!!! LOL
Posted by DaisyM on March 7, 2004, at 18:34:38
In reply to envy » DaisyM, posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 11:51:58
There is usually a reason -- like he knows something "big" is happening at work or we had a really hard session and he is checking in. Typically I've left a message but I have a hectic schedule and so does he so we play cell tag.
Sometimes I worry that he is *too* accessible, but usually I like that he is around when I need him.
Posted by Raindancer on March 7, 2004, at 19:20:49
In reply to embarrassing ..., posted by shortelise on March 7, 2004, at 14:24:54
I took my old teddy for a while and still do occasionally. It's perfectly O.K. and i bet it happens often. All the best. R
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 19:23:17
In reply to Re: Most Embarrassing Therapy Moment, posted by tinydancer on March 7, 2004, at 8:23:51
I envy that in you Tinydancer cause I wish I would just stick to my mission to get what I want :)
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 19:26:17
In reply to Re: Most Embarrassing Therapy Moment, posted by Rigby on March 7, 2004, at 10:34:16
Rigby I would like her more too by knowing HOW human she is...but still it must be embarassing lol I bet she was stunned to know that info...no doubt but :)
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 19:27:35
In reply to stairs » DaisyM, posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 11:46:27
Mega loling Crushed you crack me up we are both like minded :) THAT way lol
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 19:32:09
In reply to that's hilarious but also not » Fallen4myT, posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 11:49:44
Oh God Crushed yes my husband has called me worse. Once at the petfood store when I went to get money out he called me a retard ..the girl behind the counter looked at him like she wanted to KILL him and her angry eyes NEVER left him.
On the cell call it was extra funny because of all the stuff he does and sez to me. He is a big shot at work...and didn't know who he was speaking to and said it just like John Wayne...he could have lost his job if the guy reported him OR if it had been his boss :) I loled for WEEKS and he didnt KNOW what all he said and that he burped he was half asleep...made it really sweet :)
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 19:37:40
In reply to embarrassing ..., posted by shortelise on March 7, 2004, at 14:24:54
ShortE, the pants ....I rotfflmao at that I would have never gone back lol :) My mom always taught me always wear clean undies when you go out you never know if you will be in an accident, as I grew up I took it a step further and its always NICE panties NOW, ON T day...its the BEST and sexiest of panties and STILL I would not want them to be seen "THAT WAY" :) HAHAHA SORRY THATS JUST TOO FUNNY :D
Posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 19:56:36
In reply to Re: envy » crushedout, posted by DaisyM on March 7, 2004, at 18:34:38
so typically, it's because you've called him and he's just calling you back but sometimes he just initiates the calling to check up on you (albeit because he has reason to believe something in particular is going on)?
that's pretty cool. i wish my T would do that. but then it might give me the wrong idea.
why would you worry that he's too accessible? because it makes you too dependent or something?
> There is usually a reason -- like he knows something "big" is happening at work or we had a really hard session and he is checking in. Typically I've left a message but I have a hectic schedule and so does he so we play cell tag.
>
> Sometimes I worry that he is *too* accessible, but usually I like that he is around when I need him.
>
Posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 19:59:25
In reply to Re: stairs » crushedout, posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 19:27:35
Posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 20:02:34
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » crushedout, posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 19:32:09
that's pretty funny. i hope it doesn't bother you. at least, if i were you, i wouldn't feel the least bit guilty for having a crush on my T with a husband like that.if your T offers to run away with you, i'd give him the old heave-ho.
;)
> Oh God Crushed yes my husband has called me worse. Once at the petfood store when I went to get money out he called me a retard ..the girl behind the counter looked at him like she wanted to KILL him and her angry eyes NEVER left him.
> On the cell call it was extra funny because of all the stuff he does and sez to me. He is a big shot at work...and didn't know who he was speaking to and said it just like John Wayne...he could have lost his job if the guy reported him OR if it had been his boss :) I loled for WEEKS and he didnt KNOW what all he said and that he burped he was half asleep...made it really sweet :)
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 20:07:51
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Fallen4myT, posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 20:02:34
Yeah Crushed it was and still is SO funny and I could hear the guy at the other end all stumbling for words.
You can bet unethical or not if my T said "Hey babe lets run off to Tahiti" or something I would :) My T and my pets are the only GOOD things in my life really sad but true...I do have food and stuff but you know what I mean.
Posted by Apperceptor on March 7, 2004, at 21:34:20
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » crushedout, posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 20:07:51
Fallen-
I'd like to mention this in a different thread, but I do apoligize for insulting your life at this point in another thread.
Anyway, I was very caught by the statement that your therapist and your pets are the only positive thing in your life right now. I bet you're right, and I think I know the feeling. I want to see if you can find something else that's positive...not because I want to do therapy with you, or because I'm challenging you, but because I really want to see it happen.
Please recognize, for you benefit and for your friends', that you've a great support network here...dare I say where nobody else could understand? And here's my cheesy alert...because that's what this will sound like...but you've got very strong inner resources, as I hope I've told you before.
The integrity of most people on this list has really impressed me, and shamed me for how I initially entered it based on a few select posts that weren't representative of people's actual feelings. Good job, to you Fallen, and to all of you.
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 22:00:23
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not, posted by Apperceptor on March 7, 2004, at 21:34:20
Aw, Apperceptor, Thank you that was a really sweet and nice post and I like cheese :) Please don't worry about what all was said before that is past and this is today :)
And yes, my pets and T are the best things in my life right now and my T often sez things about my strength and inner resources. I simply think like that old Tom Petty song sez " You can stand me up at the gates of hell but I won't back down" applies to me. I can hang in there like you would NOT believe and put up with a lot of stuff here but I do O.K :)
HUGS
Posted by DaisyM on March 7, 2004, at 22:47:36
In reply to Re: envy » DaisyM, posted by crushedout on March 7, 2004, at 19:56:36
I think I worry because I'm always concerned that my stuff is too hard...too much and my distress over the memories is sometimes expansive. Plus when I started therapy I had no intention of talking about or dealing with all this stuff so I tell him a lot that "he didn't sign on for this" nor did he know what he was getting. Working with abuse victims is really hard. Not that he isn't just great! :) There is a small part of me that is just *sure* at some point he will be overwhelmed and will refer me out. That part gets smaller all the time though.
I think I'm lucky. He tells me that learning to trust him and know that he is there for me is a large part of the therapy we are doing. It wouldn't occur to me to get the wrong idea, guess I'm dense?!
Posted by Apperceptor on March 7, 2004, at 22:51:47
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor, posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 22:00:23
I really like that you made the distinction between "best things" and "only things." That meant a lot to me.
That is a GREAT song. Hold on to that...I love Tom Petty too.
Your ability to forgive wil get you very far. I feel like I've been playing book publicist tonight, but I read an EXCELLENT book a few years back called "A Return to Love," by Marianne Williamson, that talks about the incredible power in forgiveness. What I said earlier without taking the time to understand fully the situation was hurtful, and how you are now reacting to and supporting me is very admirable. You have so much power in your ability to love other people.
Thank you for existing -
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 23:19:39
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Fallen4myT, posted by Apperceptor on March 7, 2004, at 22:51:47
Apperceptor, I am *truly touched* by what you have just posted. I really am speechless/typeless. All I can say is WOW thank you :)
I am a huge music fan from Classical to Rap and everything inbetween
Now, lets hope out of this my T got the hint I want a current non-net picture lol :P
Posted by Apperceptor on March 7, 2004, at 23:30:50
In reply to Re: that's hilarious but also not » Apperceptor, posted by Fallen4myT on March 7, 2004, at 23:19:39
Well...in light of what you know I've said in the past....I'm just going to trust you have a strong connection with your therapist that isn't my business to understand, and that's great. I like the approach...I wish I remember who said it (?)...of saying you like pictures of those who mean a lot to you. If you can muster the inner strength to promise yourself you won't do anything that will disrespect your therapist OR disrespect yourself, I would simply present it as that. But really, Fallen, I'm convinced I don't have enough understanding in your unique situation to give strong advice...so if this helps, I'm thrilled, and if it doesn't, LET ME KNOW how it goes!!!! :-)
And remember it takes a lot to consider so many sides of the situation you are in, as you clearly are attempting (and succeeding) to do. I don't hear of all too many being able to manage it, although I'm being very pleasantly surprised by much of the integrity I'm seeing on this list.
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