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Posted by justyourlaugh on March 8, 2004, at 9:16:56
my t told me to tell c how awful i was feeling lately and that i was hiding my hair pulling...
he said i would be surprised how compassionate and concerned he would be..
he wasnt..
he was very abusive and told me he was not coming home tonight..
i hope i never see him again.
Posted by All Done on March 8, 2004, at 9:42:01
In reply to i know more...., posted by justyourlaugh on March 8, 2004, at 9:16:56
I'm sorry, jyl. Have you followed up with your T to let him know what happened? Or do you have another session scheduled soon? It might not be a bad idea to call.
(((((jyl)))))
Take care of yourself and post as often as you need.
Posted by Penny on March 8, 2004, at 9:52:37
In reply to i know more...., posted by justyourlaugh on March 8, 2004, at 9:16:56
((((((((JYL))))))))
Oh JYL, I'm sorry things are so rough for you right now. :-(
I wish I could do something to make this easier for you...wish there was something I could say...
Just know that I care about you a great deal and I'm sending you hugs and much love.
Take care of yourself. You can always email me if you need to - penny1076 is my yahoo ID.
P
Posted by tinydancer on March 8, 2004, at 9:55:09
In reply to i know more...., posted by justyourlaugh on March 8, 2004, at 9:16:56
> my t told me to tell c how awful i was feeling lately and that i was hiding my hair pulling...
> he said i would be surprised how compassionate and concerned he would be..
> he wasnt..
> he was very abusive and told me he was not coming home tonight..
> i hope i never see him again.
>That is sad JYL. Why do you think your T felt you would be met with understanding by C? I know how terrible it can be to be met with anger when you need understanding. I think men often have a problem hearing about these kind of problems because it makes them feel helpless. Not to excuse C's behavior. What are you doing now? You must be feeling very alone. I'm sorry for that, hope that we can offer some comfort and support to you.
Posted by Dinah on March 8, 2004, at 10:03:41
In reply to i know more...., posted by justyourlaugh on March 8, 2004, at 9:16:56
I think maybe therapists have a view of humanity that is very positive. I'm sure it serves them well in their work. But sometimes, unfortunately, we know better than they do the personalities of the people closest to us.
I'm sorry C. reacted as he did. :( I wish I could make everything all better. My first thought was to suggest that your therapist talk to you and C. together, but I remember that that didn't go very well with the pdoc.
Would it help to give your therapist a call and let him know what's going on?
Posted by tinydancer on March 8, 2004, at 10:12:09
In reply to Re: i know more.... » justyourlaugh, posted by Dinah on March 8, 2004, at 10:03:41
> I think maybe therapists have a view of humanity that is very positive. I'm sure it serves them well in their work. But sometimes, unfortunately, we know better than they do the personalities of the people closest to us.
I haven't ever experienced it before except for my current T, and I find that he has an extremely human approach to other people and respects people as human beings,alive and having a soul. He said it much better than I did (I am terrible paraphrasing people) but basically his statements about the human race somehow gave me some hope about people and about the fact that I did belong, no matter how weird I may be, and that other people's opinions about me doesn't alter my worth as a human being. I especially like his ideas about "..The worst thing that could ever happen to anyone is to become a thing."
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> I'm sorry C. reacted as he did. :( I wish I could make everything all better. My first thought was to suggest that your therapist talk to you and C. together, but I remember that that didn't go very well with the pdoc.
>
> Would it help to give your therapist a call and let him know what's going on?That was a good idea, Dinah. I agree that it might be a good idea to touch base since his suggestion went so wrong.
Posted by Fallen4myT on March 8, 2004, at 15:28:48
In reply to i know more...., posted by justyourlaugh on March 8, 2004, at 9:16:56
I don't have anything smart to add here as I do not know the situation and all but wanted YOU to know how sorry I am that this C person mishandles your heart :( I wish C could/would get some help cause that was NOT nice or good for you. PLEASE call your T and maybe talk it out it might help?
HUGE HUGS
> my t told me to tell c how awful i was feeling lately and that i was hiding my hair pulling...
> he said i would be surprised how compassionate and concerned he would be..
> he wasnt..
> he was very abusive and told me he was not coming home tonight..
> i hope i never see him again.
>
Posted by fallsfall on March 8, 2004, at 16:18:39
In reply to i know more...., posted by justyourlaugh on March 8, 2004, at 9:16:56
JYL,
I'm so sorry that c. couldn't come through for you. You are such a sweet person, you deserve to be surrounded and loved by sweet people.
Please call your therapist. I know that mine would be unhappy if I DIDN'T call under these circumstances.
Posted by noa on March 9, 2004, at 18:15:56
In reply to Re: i know more.... » justyourlaugh, posted by fallsfall on March 8, 2004, at 16:18:39
JYL,
I'm sorry this happened to you. It's awful.
As for T's optimism about humanity--yes, I would hope Ts have a positive outlook, but a little realism too!
Do let your T know what happened.
Also, you've mentioned a couple of times some issues with your T. Have you considered getting a consult/2nd opinion from another T?
JYL, Take care, hon.
Posted by gardenergirl on March 9, 2004, at 23:41:27
In reply to Re: i know more...., posted by noa on March 9, 2004, at 18:15:56
jyl,
Nothing to add except that I am sorry this happened. You are too special for that. I wish only the best for you!take care,
gg
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