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Posted by bell_75 on May 13, 2004, at 8:31:56
Thank you to the folks who offered an understanding ear, some helpful advice and abit of motivational whip crackin' ((octo))
I didn't call my T nasty names today. We actually had a really good but rather intense session today and i cried. And I think he got abit upset too which was nice in that he knew i was hurting and empathized. We talked about really sensitive issues and he went places that I didnt know would get me so upset.
On a lighter note...wanna hear a funny slip up that he made today in our session and apologised immensely for. We we talking about thought patterns of depressed people and he was telling me some kind of statistic percentage and he meant to say "people without depression" or as he put it "non-depressed people" and instead said "normal people". LOL I accept that hes human and he said that was the dumbest thing he had said all day. I didn't get offended i just made jokes about it :P it was late in the day, i was feeling abit frazzled myself.
I'd like to finish this post off with a question whilst ive got the courage to post in the first place (go me!).
Has anyone ever felt their T is asking questions for their own curiosity and not for your benefit? As though they're saying "I want to help you with this by getting to the bottom of these feelings" but really they're just using you as another casestudy per se. Like what you are/have experienced is enthralling and they want to delicately ask questions but not over step the boundries.
Okay. I gotta conclude this Q :PThanks again to everyone in babble open chat for your love and support. I strongly reccomend that place to anyone who hasnt been there as its a beautiful and comforting place to be.
And the people are loads of fun *hugs*Thank god for the babbles!
Posted by ghost on May 13, 2004, at 10:47:05
In reply to Thank you Open Babblers for your support I saw CB, posted by bell_75 on May 13, 2004, at 8:31:56
you know, i've never had anyone do that (i don't think), but i don't think i'd mind if they had. (mind you, i guess it'd be different if i were in the circumstance, but i'm just guessing right now). i like questions. they improve my self-esteem for the most part in that i figure people wouldn't ask if they didn't want to know the answer (barring that stupid small talk question, "how are you?" of course!).
on the other hand, in one of the groups i attended in the hospital, one of the social workers asked a woman flat-out what her diagnosis was-- and i didn't think that was any of our businesses, and the question *was* a bit more of a curiosity thing (due to the nature of something the patient said) rather than to help the patient deal with the problem. in that respect, i kind of think that was out-of-bounds, but i'm not sure if it's just me being overly sensitive and private or not.
Posted by Dinah on May 13, 2004, at 10:55:33
In reply to Thank you Open Babblers for your support I saw CB, posted by bell_75 on May 13, 2004, at 8:31:56
I'm glad it went well. And he was properly penitant? :)
Posted by pegasus on May 13, 2004, at 11:29:58
In reply to Thank you Open Babblers for your support I saw CB, posted by bell_75 on May 13, 2004, at 8:31:56
Yeah, my old T was the king of asking irrelevant questions. I never minded it. Actually a lot of times it was done very lightheartedly and I enjoyed it. But sometimes I would think back on the session and realize that he must on some level just be a nosy guy. He'd ask me all kinds of things, and usually they were about me: my favorite this or that, have I ever done this, etc. It was kind of flattering that he seemed so interested in that type of minutia about me. Maybe it was all part of a therapy strategy, to make me feel important, or something. But it came across as nosy, in a sort of endearing way, to me.
pegasus
Posted by Speaker on May 13, 2004, at 12:43:07
In reply to Re: Thank you Open Babblers for your support I saw CB, posted by pegasus on May 13, 2004, at 11:29:58
Bell,
So glad things went well! Buuuuuuuuut What did you WEAR :)?????
Posted by DaisyM on May 13, 2004, at 15:03:04
In reply to Thank you Open Babblers for your support I saw CB, posted by bell_75 on May 13, 2004, at 8:31:56
My Therapist asks lots of questions that leave me wondering, "what?!" Like, once I was really upset because I had to do a CPS report on a baby who was being abused and it triggered all kinds of things in me. So I told him I just drove around a bit until I felt calm enough to go back to work. He asked, "where did you go?" Now I'm thinking, "huh?" because the REST OF IT seemed so much more important. Ultimately what he was fishing for is did I drive by or near his office...did I "need" him to calm down. But the question brought me up short at the time.
Therapy is a strange thing...
Posted by bell_75 on May 14, 2004, at 21:15:57
In reply to Re: Thank you Open Babblers for your support I saw CB, posted by DaisyM on May 13, 2004, at 15:03:04
> My Therapist asks lots of questions that leave me wondering, "what?!" Like, once I was really upset because I had to do a CPS report on a baby who was being abused and it triggered all kinds of things in me. So I told him I just drove around a bit until I felt calm enough to go back to work. He asked, "where did you go?" Now I'm thinking, "huh?" because the REST OF IT seemed so much more important. Ultimately what he was fishing for is did I drive by or near his office...did I "need" him to calm down. But the question brought me up short at the time.
>
> Therapy is a strange thing...
>*hugs* Indeed it is.
Without going too much into it, these questions he asked that I thought were not so much for my benefit but his were about why I had such feelings/emotions about an event that happened a long time ago and what was *really* behind these emotions. He made a few suggestions about what might have caused them because I was being hesistant/reluctant to give him an answer and these suggestions were way off and offended me. I guess T was just doing his job. After his suggestions I ended up saying "no" to them and welling up into tears. Ugh...therapy.
As i said, it was an intense session.Funnily enough I've never told him that sometimes in between our sessions when I feel completely helpless, I sit in my car in the car park of his office. I feel content there not only because it symbolizes the security of therapy but also because its in a secluded area where there isnt frequent traffic and I feel as tho im hiding from the world. Mind you, the car doors are always locked whilst I sit there :)
I try not to make too much of a habit of this because his office isnt exactly nearby my house. Its on my route to college tho and when he cancelled on me those times I felt like skipping college and just sitting there in the car park crying and protesting. I didn't tho. My education is important to me.*big big hugs* Hope to catch you in Open oneday :) Its therapuetic itself.
Posted by bell_75 on May 14, 2004, at 21:32:39
In reply to Re: Thank you Open Babblers for your support I saw CB » bell_75, posted by Dinah on May 13, 2004, at 10:55:33
> I'm glad it went well. And he was properly penitant? :)
lol hmmm no actually. There wasn't any mention of his sins against the 11th commandment from the therapist's bible "thou shalt not cancel frequently on client". Maybe he thought he'd exclude it from our session because we talked briefly about it on the phone when he called me.
*sigh* I also didn't call him a 'cancelling b*****d'. Somehow when I went in there and we got to talking all my animosity floated out the window (even tho it was closed). He did however jump off a chair during our session to visualise the point he was trying to make. Which i thought was cool. I just sat there looking worried and even said "don't hurt yourself" lol aye, the lengths T's will go to to make their point.
Posted by bell_75 on May 14, 2004, at 21:49:17
In reply to Re: Thank you Open Babblers for your support I saw CB, posted by Speaker on May 13, 2004, at 12:43:07
> Bell,
>
> So glad things went well! Buuuuuuuuut What did you WEAR :)?????MY BLUE SUEDE SHOES!
The funny thing is..i sat there with my legs crossed most of the times and occasionally i caught my shoes out the corner of my eye and kept thinking "god they're dirty" when I should've been listening to what T was saying. *sigh* all my shoes are dirty and old. I'm paying off new shiny boots but dont have them yet.
Also i wore the un-ironed jeans, and my hair was sort of brushed and back in a ponytail.
He was wearing a sweater, you can tell when winter's approach when T brings out the sweaters lol.
I didn't wear a sweater or any sort of coat and i wished i had because as the sun went down outside i started getting really cold. I was just thinking "I wish I could hug him". I don't think we'll ever go there tho. Oh well.
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