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Posted by Poet on September 16, 2004, at 17:40:37
I disclosed something from my childhood about why I fear abandonment.
I said that I wish I would have had a guardian angel when I was a kid, I wish I had one now, but an angel would probably just hit me. My therapist said *you don't need to be hit, what you need is to be loved.*
I thought I would share this with all of you, because all of us need to be loved, whether we think we're worthy or not.
Poet
Posted by antigua on September 16, 2004, at 17:51:38
In reply to T said I need to be loved, posted by Poet on September 16, 2004, at 17:40:37
Posted by daisym on September 16, 2004, at 19:08:07
In reply to T said I need to be loved, posted by Poet on September 16, 2004, at 17:40:37
Poet,
Last night Falls told me that instead of being furious with my younger self who has all these bad memories and so much pain, I needed to just love her. It is hard to accept for me that love is the answer. And yet, it resonates in a way nothing does. Because it is the fear of being unloveable that makes me sure that everyone I let get close will abandon me, one way or another.
I think it was an incredibly sweet thing for your therapist to say. You do deserve love and I hope you feel it from me, out here in cyber space.
Thank you for sharing
Posted by alexandra_k on September 16, 2004, at 19:45:11
In reply to T said I need to be loved, posted by Poet on September 16, 2004, at 17:40:37
That is beautiful. I remember my T used to say that I needed to learn how to be kind to myself. And of course, I needed (and still need) to come to see that I deserve kindness both from myself and others. I tend to berate myself for my stupidity and beat myself up and be harsh with myself in general - because that is what I deserve, right? But that project doesn't help me change, and it makes me feel bad, and see the world and others in a negative way, and it escalates the situation, and nobody deserves that - not even me.
I am trying to learn to be as kind to me as I am capable of being to others. I still have a lot to learn about kindness. Both to myself and others. But it is reassuring to think that everyone needs love and kindness. That that is not a unrealistic demand, or a need that one should be ashamed of - it is human nature.
Thanks for reminding me of this
Posted by shortelise on September 16, 2004, at 22:24:21
In reply to T said I need to be loved, posted by Poet on September 16, 2004, at 17:40:37
Love is indeed the bottom line.ShortE
Posted by fallsfall on September 16, 2004, at 22:32:25
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