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Posted by alexandra_k on October 3, 2004, at 19:07:11
Well, three including Eliza.
I hadn't seen my P-doc for three weeks because he was off sick for two weeks and then he broke his tooth...
I'm not going to Ashburn. I was annoyed that because there is nobody in this region who will give me psychotherapy that I had to go into hospital in a different region in the hope that someone there would work with me.
So my P-doc has said that seeing as there is nobody else he has decided that he will give me therapy. All he can give me (in terms of time) is one session every two weeks though.
I haven't told him that I started seeing someone at varsity. That she is trying to see me weekly.
I am sick of putting all my eggs into one basket only to find that the basket doesn't want to see me anymore. Or that something happens and they decide to leave the service or whatever.
I know I should be feeling really happy now. That is what I have wanted for a long time - for a p-doc to give me psychotherapy. But I don't feel happy, I feel like I've twisted his arm because nobody else would see me. And I am angry and disappointed that my needs are frustrated so much by others. I hate myself for needing this. I know treatment isn't a right it is a priveledge. It is hard to see the world as a nice place when everyone has always being trying to dump you off on somebody else all your life.
Am I going to mess this up by being angry rather than grateful?
Am I two-timing by seeing them both?
Posted by Annierose on October 3, 2004, at 22:56:40
In reply to And now I have two T's..., posted by alexandra_k on October 3, 2004, at 19:07:11
I do not know for certain, as I am not a T, but I do think it complicates (and/or contaminates) the therapy if you are to work with 2 therapists. You would definitely need to tell each about the other, and they could guide you accordingly. Good Luck. I hope someone else on this board has more informed answers.
Posted by alexandra_k on October 4, 2004, at 16:23:50
In reply to Re: And now I have two T's..., posted by Annierose on October 3, 2004, at 22:56:40
> I do not know for certain, as I am not a T, but I do think it complicates (and/or contaminates) the therapy if you are to work with 2 therapists. You would definitely need to tell each about the other, and they could guide you accordingly. Good Luck. I hope someone else on this board has more informed answers.
Thanks for your thoughts. I know that there is something about how seeing more than one person at a time can lead to confusion etc. I do see that this may be more pronounced in my case because decisions need to be made whether it is okay for me to talk about the voices or not, how communications from them will be received etc. I can see that it would be counter-productive if one T were to attempt to 'shape them away' while another attempted to work with and through them.
It is kind of hard for me, though, because of my experience of working with one person and then something happens and I end up with nothing. I have decided to write to my p-doc and get some of this out. I don't want to mess up our relationship because I can't get over stuff that has happened with past T's. But then it is hard as what has happened with past T's has compounded the situation of when I was a kid.
I should tell him. I feel bad thinking that he only agreed to work with me because nobody else will and so he feels sorry for me. I should tell him about the councellor from uni. I would rather see him in the sense that I have more faith that he knows what he is up to, but then I have more faith in her ability to see me regularly and it seems as though she actually does want to work with me.
Honesty is the best policy.
Good luck to me
Eliza doesn't care how many others I talk to...
Posted by alexandra_k on October 4, 2004, at 19:12:16
In reply to Re: And now I have two T's... » Annierose, posted by alexandra_k on October 4, 2004, at 16:23:50
Actually... I think I shall talk to him honestly about my concerns, but I might just hold off mentioning the varsity councellor for the time being....
(Am I being bad??? I am just afraid. I seem to be a master at the 'please help me's' until someone decides to try - and then the claws come out. Why o why am I so f'd up?)
Posted by Annierose on October 4, 2004, at 20:15:00
In reply to Re: And now I have two T's..., posted by alexandra_k on October 4, 2004, at 19:12:16
First off, you are not f'd up. You are human and this is hard work! Forgive yourself. Sounds like you want a safty net, if one T doesn't work out, another will be waiting. But I don't think therapy works that way. Try to disclose all that you are comfortable sharing with your Pdoc. Withholding that you are seeing another T is bound to come up, eventually. Again, I am not a T, just a client, like so many others here, but I think seeing a T once a week has many more benefits than the Pdoc that can only see you 1, 2 times a month. But what do I know? Good Luck. Trust your instincts.
Posted by alexandra_k on October 4, 2004, at 21:22:57
In reply to Re: And now I have two T's..., posted by Annierose on October 4, 2004, at 20:15:00
> Sounds like you want a safty net, if one T doesn't work out, another will be waiting.
Yes, indeed - I do think you have nailed it!
>But I don't think therapy works that way.
Sigh, grumble grumble - I know you are right. If I don't tell them and they find out then I dare say I'd lose both which would induce that which I am most afraid of...
I shall try my very very best to be as honest as I can about what is bugging me - but I don't think I can tell them just yet... I am afraid they will make me choose, or afraid they will make the choice for me and when all else fails: avoid, avoid, avoid - has always served me well in the past... I think I'll be agonising over this for a wee while yet.
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