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Posted by cubic_me on October 20, 2004, at 14:25:29
I had my last ever (I hope!) session with my therapist today. The following is an extract from my online journal:
It went pretty well, considering I've been seeing her for nearly 2 years. We generally went over all of the people that had been metaphorically 'in' the room over that time, and how things were going with them now. Looking back on things has really brought it home how much I've changed in a positive way. I'm 10x more confident and accepting of myself, I'm not ruled by what my parents (and other people) think of me, I've got a boyfriend who knows as much of me as anyone is ever going to know, and I'm not half as scared of admiting I have feelings as I was.
Of course when I started therapy I'd lost my best mate to suicide not 2 months before, and I was hurting beyond comprehension, but that was the excuse I needed to be able ask for the help that I had really needed since I was 13. If she hadn't died, who know's what state I'd be in by now. I suppose that's partly what made me go back to her office, week after week, to feel stupid, useless, dependent and inadequate (and like I wanted to hide under a big duvet in the corner of the room). Who'd have thought, from that description, that therapy could ever do anyone any good!
We discussed how suicidal I'd been, and I said how it had really helped to tell someone how I was feeling without them seeming petrified that I might walk out and into the path of a bus (although I often felt like it). She admitted that she was really worried about me at times, which is mightily sweet of her, and means quite a lot to me now I look back on it, especially as she seemed to understand just *how* close I was to acting on my thoughts.
Although I know that I am likely to encounter similar lows in the future, I know that I can get through them, and even though life isn't always rosey, I won't always feel suicidal. I have also learned, over the past 2 years, that asking for help isn't always weak, and people won't think less of me for it; and also that sometimes all of us are attention seeking because we *need* attention, and it isn't always a bad thing.
I would send this to her in the card I'm going to write to thank her, but that would be showing my feelings when no-one is sat there waiting for me to express them, and I'm still working that!
Posted by cubic_me on October 20, 2004, at 14:37:13
In reply to A very long resume of my final session, posted by cubic_me on October 20, 2004, at 14:25:29
Or should I send it anyway? I'm so indecisive, I need to change that.
What do you guys think I should do?
Posted by Annierose on October 20, 2004, at 14:40:15
In reply to A very long resume of my final session, posted by cubic_me on October 20, 2004, at 14:25:29
That is so sweet. And I think she would like to hear those words too. Myabe you could send it to her. There is nothing to lose. I hope the group works out for you, and if not (due to lack of people) I hope your T left the door open for you to come back if you needed to. Good Luck. You seem well on your way.
Posted by Bent on October 20, 2004, at 15:07:48
In reply to A very long resume of my final session, posted by cubic_me on October 20, 2004, at 14:25:29
I think it would be nice if you sent it. Most of the time my feelings and thoughts dont really come together until after a session. I think a thank you and some final thoughts would be nice and I bet your T would be touched. And like Annierose said, there is really nothing to lose.
Glad things are coming to a close smoothly for you. I am thinking that leaving therapy will be a great step but a hard one. Your post sounds very confident. Good job and good luck.
Posted by tryingtobewise on October 20, 2004, at 16:17:45
In reply to A very long resume of my final session, posted by cubic_me on October 20, 2004, at 14:25:29
What a great journal entry. I definitely think you should send it. If I was a T I'd be so pleased to receive something like this. And, I do work for a group of Ts and I know they would be totally receptive if a client sent something like this. Everyone likes to know their "work" has been appreciated & useful.
Congratulations.
:) Kim
Posted by antigua on October 20, 2004, at 16:20:46
In reply to Re: A very long resume of my final session, posted by tryingtobewise on October 20, 2004, at 16:17:45
Posted by Dinah on October 20, 2004, at 19:15:18
In reply to Send it! (nm), posted by antigua on October 20, 2004, at 16:20:46
Posted by mandinka on October 21, 2004, at 0:53:38
In reply to A very long resume of my final session, posted by cubic_me on October 20, 2004, at 14:25:29
:)
Posted by cubic_me on October 22, 2004, at 9:40:36
In reply to A very long resume of my final session, posted by cubic_me on October 20, 2004, at 14:25:29
...but I'm planning to. I promise!
I'm really glad that I wrote something positive down after my last session, just so that I can look back on it when I'm feeling down and see how far I've come.
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