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Posted by terrics on November 3, 2004, at 6:46:20
Hi gg, I don't remember if I thanked you for previous info. I read Linehan's book. After you answered my question I tore the house apart looking for it ,but it is lost. I bought a new one...$57.00 ouch. Anyway my T went on vacation and came back totally different. (She is not using rudeness as part of therapy....irreverence in a mean spirited way). She is not using it at all. She is also allowing a bit of herself into therapy. She said that she thought over everything I said to her about rudeness. I would say she has let her guard down a bit. It is very difficult and wearing to treat only borderlines and I am aware of that. The 'vacation' did her good. I can now let my guard down a little too. Just thought you might like a follow up. And although I think the skills in dbt are corny, they work. good luck, and think twice if you choose to treat borderlines. You may be taking more vacations then you like. terrics
Posted by fallsfall on November 3, 2004, at 8:59:36
In reply to gg/dbt/T. follow up, posted by terrics on November 3, 2004, at 6:46:20
This is such good news - all of it.
That you could tell her that her "rudeness" bothered you.
That she took your comments seriously.
That she considered whether her stance was appropriate.
That she was willing to decide to make changes.
That she told you about the changes.
That you feel more comfortable.
That you have optimism for the future with DBT.
This is how therapy is supposed to work!
Posted by Dinah on November 3, 2004, at 9:39:35
In reply to gg/dbt/T. follow up, posted by terrics on November 3, 2004, at 6:46:20
That sounds great, Terrics. She was able to stand back and evaluate her own techniques. That's the sign of a good therapist.
Posted by gardenergirl on November 3, 2004, at 17:57:18
In reply to Re: gg/dbt/T. follow up » terrics, posted by Dinah on November 3, 2004, at 9:39:35
That's great terrics! I'm so glad that you and she were able to talk about this and that she has made some changes. I was glad to help with dbt stuff, too. It was helpful for me to try to articulate some of it, too.
Let us know how it goes!
gg
Posted by corafree on November 6, 2004, at 16:02:58
In reply to Re: gg/dbt/T. follow up, posted by gardenergirl on November 3, 2004, at 17:57:18
Just messaging to say that I believe Terric's therapist must be a bit like mine - willing to admit her errors, and I spot them, sometimes not right away, but catch 'em later and bring them up. She owns up to them. She speaks directly to me, looking me in the eyes, slowly, so that I can understand and if she sees maybe I don't; asks. She keeps telling me 'don't worry...you're doing fine', and has even offered to see if I can join the group, the group that they have every week for grads of DBT?! Hope they'll let me (the clinic peeps). cf
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