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Posted by gardenergirl on February 7, 2005, at 22:46:39
In reply to Re: Who is ignored? » Annierose, posted by bent on February 7, 2005, at 18:31:31
I don't have much more to add. I feel the same as others who read a lot and post when they feel they have something to add.
Some days, even if I would normally respond, I just feel mentally dull or too wiped out to type. I feel a bit guilty, then.
And I can't say I've actually felt ignored, but I have had posts that just sort of either killed a thread or just kind of got lost in the shuffle. It always stings a bit, but I try not to personalize it.
Good topic,
gg
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 7, 2005, at 23:29:00
In reply to Re: Who is ignored?, posted by gardenergirl on February 7, 2005, at 22:46:39
OK so maybe I over analized and maybe Ignored was the wrong word. I am not feeling ignored or anything in particular and I hope I didn't throw anyone off with the idea....But I have been sortof curious I guess after Fallens post on disorders clicking and stuff.
Ive been straining my brain trying to tthink of a topic and Ive been scanning these boards and noticed some trends. But I guess In reality all that you guys said makes sense; time, substance etc. My theory may be wrong that certain illnesses don't click well...I dunno? i need to think harder on this topic I guess lol. BUt it sounded COOL.
Thanks for the replys!!ANyone other ideas are welcome :)
Posted by alexandra_k on February 8, 2005, at 3:46:56
In reply to To Everyone, posted by rainbowbrite on February 7, 2005, at 23:29:00
Aaaah but who's to say that we aren't just offering rationalisations? That we aren't conscious that this is what we are 'really' up to??? Sounds to me like some serious research is needed... Still sounds like a cool topic to me :-)
Posted by cubic_me on February 8, 2005, at 10:46:39
In reply to Re: To Everyone » rainbowbrite, posted by alexandra_k on February 8, 2005, at 3:46:56
I'm the same as the others in that I only tend to post when I relate to something or someone, but I read based on the subject line rather than who is posting. There are probably some interesting posts that I miss because I wasn't drawn in by the subject line, but I don't have time to read every post.
I've never felt particularly ignored, and to some extent I don't expect to get many responses to my posts because I don't post all that often.
Posted by ghost on February 8, 2005, at 20:35:22
In reply to Who is ignored?, posted by rainbowbrite on February 7, 2005, at 13:14:13
i dont ignore people, but sometimes i just scan for subject lines, because i'm not feeling up to reading all the posts. "it's not you, it's me." ;)
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 9, 2005, at 10:38:08
In reply to Re: To Everyone » rainbowbrite, posted by alexandra_k on February 8, 2005, at 3:46:56
>Aaaah but who's to say that we aren't just offering rationalisations? That we aren't conscious that this is what we are 'really' up to??? Sounds to me like some serious research is needed... Still sounds like a cool topic to me :-)
See that was my thought exactly! Of course we don't have time to answer everyones posts , but do we make more effort to particular types of posters??...hmmmm.... lots more research!Thanks, I think it is a cool topic too! :-)
Posted by sunny10 on February 9, 2005, at 12:09:14
In reply to Re: To Everyone » alexandra_k, posted by rainbowbrite on February 9, 2005, at 10:38:08
an important distinction, I think.
Some topics just push all of my buttons and I don't react well, emotionally, so my posts come out wrong. My mind is so twisted up that I can't type out my answer (doesn't help that I think conceptually, rather than linearly;it is dyslexia-like in that I cannot make myself understood)Then I feel horrible because "no one understands me, boo hoo, me"...
It took me a long time to figure out when NOT to post just to save my own feelings (not to mention everyone else's!)...
Posted by Shortelise on February 9, 2005, at 12:53:46
In reply to Who is ignored?, posted by rainbowbrite on February 7, 2005, at 13:14:13
I don't ignore posts, I don't always read them all, I just read some, not depending on who writes them but depending on ... something ... I don't know what.
But to think I haven't read a post because I don't respond would be incorrect. I don't have a response to everything I read.
ShortE
Posted by Susan47 on February 9, 2005, at 13:17:23
In reply to no one » rainbowbrite, posted by Shortelise on February 9, 2005, at 12:53:46
That's also true for me, it's usually a lack of anything to say. And sometimes even when I think I've said something, I've failed. So then, fortunately for everyone, I actually think first. That actually happens more than it used to. Even when I'm a bit manic. :)
Posted by pinkeye on February 9, 2005, at 18:55:02
In reply to Re: To Everyone » alexandra_k, posted by rainbowbrite on February 9, 2005, at 10:38:08
I think it is a fair amount of mix of everything for me - if I know the poster, whether this partular subject line seems interesting, whether I got anything worthwhile to say and also stress at work, time I got to spend, if I can relate to the issue myself. etc. I don't read everything. In fact I read only a few - since I got no time and browse it at work in between my daily work. I agree I might be unconsciously drawn to certain type of posters - we all do, but that is very minimal compared to the drawing in power of the subject at discussion.
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 9, 2005, at 19:59:57
In reply to Re: To Everyone » alexandra_k, posted by rainbowbrite on February 9, 2005, at 10:38:08
hmmm, so I may ditch my topic. thanks for all the responses! I also choose by the subject line or the amount of repys a post has, if I can answer somthing then Ill try. I was trying to go deep into something but it now seems way off lol. I searched on it and found that some posters have in the past felt left out so at least I know I wasn't imagining things lol. But I still think it was an interesting idea...back to the drawing board....
Posted by alexandra_k on February 9, 2005, at 20:52:48
In reply to Re: To Everyone, posted by rainbowbrite on February 9, 2005, at 19:59:57
See now if you knew all our diagnoses / personality types or however you wanted to define 'different kinds' of people...
... Then it would be interesting to look at whether people direct more of their posts to people in the same type or a particular kind of different type...
(That bit you could get by looking at all of a posters posts)
But you don't have all of our diagnoses or personality types (unless you wanted to make up your own way of classifying us into different types)... So that would be hard to do...
Not that that would be terribly easy anyway...
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 9, 2005, at 22:35:26
In reply to Re: To Everyone » rainbowbrite, posted by alexandra_k on February 9, 2005, at 20:52:48
lol yeah I obviously hadn't thought about it eonough.... that part about knowing diagnoses wasn't thought out. Something I read triggered the idea, oh well. :-) I think I will do my essay on interent addiction lol
Posted by alexandra_k on February 10, 2005, at 4:16:06
In reply to new idea » alexandra_k, posted by rainbowbrite on February 9, 2005, at 22:35:26
You could ask Dr B for a 'watch yourself' personality inventory (or once off assessment) to be completed and saved on the server...
It could be done...
But it might be a thesis...:-)
I don't think you would be allowed anyways...
Sorry.
You just got me thinking..
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 10, 2005, at 19:45:13
In reply to Re: new idea » rainbowbrite, posted by alexandra_k on February 10, 2005, at 4:16:06
Heres a new topic.... can One be civil and still be sensitive to many subject matters.....and is the who is sensitive being sensitive and civil to the one who is not triggered by the same subject matter?
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 10, 2005, at 22:00:09
In reply to Newer idea » alexandra_k, posted by rainbowbrite on February 10, 2005, at 19:45:13
CAN ONE BE CIVIL AND STILL BE SENSITIVE TO MANY SUBJECT MATTERS.......IS THE ONE WHO IS SENSITIVE BEING SENSITIVE AND CIVIL TO THE ONE WHO IS NOT TRIGGERED BY THE SAME SUBJECT MATTER?
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 10, 2005, at 22:23:23
In reply to oops typo and..... meant for all!, posted by rainbowbrite on February 10, 2005, at 22:00:09
Intellectualization on the net as it applies to posters on psych boards, Ive recently been to 5 psych boards and seen this.
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 10, 2005, at 22:37:29
In reply to OR..., posted by rainbowbrite on February 10, 2005, at 22:23:23
Im just trying to get a brilliant idea for an essay topic and I want soemthing really differnet...in case anyone got lost in the thread. I also like the idea of manic people who hang out together cycle together.
Posted by jujube on February 10, 2005, at 23:00:50
In reply to still looking for a topic, posted by rainbowbrite on February 10, 2005, at 22:37:29
What about looking at the pros and cons of chatroom interaction, looking at such things as how it affects IRL relationships (i.e., do some people stop communicating or reduce their communications about certain things with family and friends or does it enable people, in some cases, to be more open and trusting IRL); its effect on a person's ability to socialize and develop meaningful relationships IRL (i.e., do some become more introverted and avoid IRL social contact) . . .
I don't know . . . Probably not what you are looking for.
> Im just trying to get a brilliant idea for an essay topic and I want soemthing really differnet...in case anyone got lost in the thread. I also like the idea of manic people who hang out together cycle together.
Posted by Susan47 on February 11, 2005, at 1:19:59
In reply to Re: still looking for a topic » rainbowbrite, posted by jujube on February 10, 2005, at 23:00:50
What's intellectualization by posters on psych boards mean?
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 11, 2005, at 21:31:43
In reply to Re: still looking for a topic » rainbowbrite, posted by jujube on February 10, 2005, at 23:00:50
OOOOO I like IT !!! Thank you!!!
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 11, 2005, at 21:33:46
In reply to Rainbowbrite, posted by Susan47 on February 11, 2005, at 1:19:59
intellectualization is a defense mechanism that uses reasoning to block out emotional stress and conflict *I am not saying anyone here uses that defense mechanism* just that it may be a good topic for my paper.
I dunno, I like your suggestion about manic people who cycle together as well....
Posted by jujube on February 11, 2005, at 21:53:40
In reply to Re: still looking for a topic » jujube, posted by rainbowbrite on February 11, 2005, at 21:31:43
You're very welcome.
Another topic may be the impact internet usage has on learning and whether the education system (early, primary and secondary primarily) might need to undergo a comprehensive review and be overhauled to meet the increased knowledge base children are acquiring by self-learning/education through internet use. Maybe this is already being done on some level. I am not in the education field, so I don't know what is being done in that regard, and thought I would just put it out there for consideration.
Posted by rainbowbrite on February 11, 2005, at 22:05:44
In reply to Re: still looking for a topic » rainbowbrite, posted by jujube on February 11, 2005, at 21:53:40
Interesting, Ive never thought about that. Its very true! hmmm what happens if I get too many good topics lol
Posted by jujube on February 11, 2005, at 22:25:26
In reply to Re: still looking for a topic » jujube, posted by rainbowbrite on February 11, 2005, at 22:05:44
Maybe if you get too many topics, you could look at how they could be blended together by trying to develop an over-arching theme (i.e., the internet and society and the impact, positive and negative, internet access and use has on things like societal values, educational programs, childhood/youth development (are kids growing up too fast?); lifestyle (are we, as a society, looking maybe at children and teens in particular becoming more sedentary and spending more time behind a computer screen), etc.
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