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Posted by happyflower on September 24, 2005, at 17:18:55
Hi. I was wondering what happens during therapy sessions before termination? I guess most of us haven't got to this point yet, so maybe the T's in training can answer this. My T says there is a beginning, middle, and end.
I still have problems with my marriage but I think I can solve my them myself. I think I am ready to termainate therapy and want to bring it up with my T to see if he thinks I am ready. My T said it is up to me when to end therapy, so I think I am almost to that point. I think I am okay now. How should I bring this up to my T ?I think the hardest part will be that I will miss talking with my T. We have a lot in common and I enjoy talking with him about stuff that doesn't have anything to do with my therapy, but I can't stay in therapy just to socalize with him. LOL That will get too expensive, ya I know! I guess at least I will see him once in awhile at the gym, so that will be nice. What do ya all think?
Posted by Tamar on September 24, 2005, at 18:12:39
In reply to What happens during last sessions b4 termination?, posted by happyflower on September 24, 2005, at 17:18:55
Hi Happyflower,
When I terminated we talked a few sessions beforehand about how many more sessions we’d have and what we’d work on in those sessions. And then in the very last session we only talked about finishing therapy and how I felt about it… We talked about the resources I have outside therapy and about ways to keep an eye on my mental health (signs of depression to look out for etc).
But I guess it’s different for everyone. If you feel you’re ready to talk about termination with him, then maybe it’s a good idea to find out how he likes to approach it.
I think it is nice that you might see him at the gym from time to time. It might be a bit hard at first, but I have to say I think I would have found it easier if I’d happened to see my therapist occasionally after therapy, just to be sure he still existed. I used to hope I’d bump into him at the supermarket or something. But so far I haven’t laid eyes on him… Sigh.
The only thing I’d say is: do think carefully about how you might solve your marriage problems outside therapy. I’m sure you don’t need me to tell you that! My marriage has been a bit hard recently; therapy helped, but it’s easy to fall into old patterns. I’m planning to do some marriage counselling sometime (when I get around to it!).
I hope it goes well when you talk to your therapist about all this.
Tamar
Posted by lookdownfish on September 27, 2005, at 15:04:15
In reply to What happens during last sessions b4 termination?, posted by happyflower on September 24, 2005, at 17:18:55
Hi there
I'm talking to my T about termination at the moment. Her approach is to set a date - it could be 6 weeks away, 6 months, whatever feels comfortable for me. She wants me to come up with this date. I think we will spend a lot of time in the final sessions talking about how I feel about losing her. Also I will be trying to wrap up some of the issues I have that are still causing me problems, and hopefully talking about ways to cope in the future. I think setting an end date will provide focus and means that I will talk about the stuff that really matters. I have been bringing up termination with her for ages and several times she has put me off the idea. Now she seems to think it's the right time. I must be boring her senseless ;) Good luck.
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