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Posted by LittleGirlLost on December 4, 2005, at 20:37:58
Bear with me while I worry out loud a bit. We are moving Tuesday morning.
How am I going to do/get through anything If I'm not going to be able to go to the bathroom?!!
It keeps going over and over in my mind... non stop! I can't think about anything else. I can't sleep, I can't eat, I'm nauseous; I'm a nervous wreck.
I'm worried about going to <new location>... period!
I'm worried about getting there on time (it's further away... and I am always running late.)
I'm worried about having to get up earlier
I'm worried about the people
I'm worried about what's going to happen
I'm worried about not being able to come home for lunch if need be
I'm worried that I'm not going to fit in
I'm worried that noone is going to like me
I'm worried about missing everyone left behind
But....
How will any of this matter if I'm unable to use the bathroom; which I am worried sick about.
Everything else will just be an adjustment that (hopefully) gets better over time, but I'm going to have to go to the bathroom on the first day. How?
I'm trying to tell myself, you just do it. There is no explanation; you just have to.
I just can't get that first thought out of my head. THAT is my biggest worry... and it won't stop in my head.
Besides all of this (and schoolwork that I am neglecting), the weekly feelings after seeing my therapist are extremely, extremely, intense this week. I don't know how to help myself; nothing I try is helping. I just want to go back by her, now. If I can hide there, then I won't have to move; but aside from that, if I were there, it would be one less painful thing to deal with now. I just want to go back!Don't mind me... I just had to get some of this out. I do plan on trying some of the suggestions that you gave me in my previous thread... I'm just so nervous.
I don't see my T till Thursday and I am just trying to get this ruminating thought out of my head... plus I will have to go potty before thursday. :(
lgl
Posted by alexandra_k on December 4, 2005, at 20:48:29
In reply to Worrying out loud...., posted by LittleGirlLost on December 4, 2005, at 20:37:58
hmm.
how about...
go out to a public bathroom and drink a couple glasses water and try... the paper down the bog trick.
really.
(or maybe practice at home first so you work out how much to put down there)
practice makes perfect ;-)
Posted by Gee on December 4, 2005, at 22:10:38
In reply to Re: Worrying out loud.... » LittleGirlLost, posted by alexandra_k on December 4, 2005, at 20:48:29
At school we use to hate people hearing us and what not, so we would turn on the hand dryers, or the sink. That way other noises were in there too.
And yeah, putting paper on the seat is another good trick.
Good luck with the move. Let us know how it goes!!
Posted by Shortelise on December 5, 2005, at 1:47:46
In reply to Worrying out loud...., posted by LittleGirlLost on December 4, 2005, at 20:37:58
I hope you feel better now that you've written it out. What a lot of worries you have!! No wonder you're beside yourself.
Please let us know how the first day went. I'll send long deep breaths, and as much reassurance as I can get the wind to carry.
((lgl))
ShortE
Posted by B2chica on December 5, 2005, at 11:30:59
In reply to Re: Worrying out loud.... » LittleGirlLost, posted by Shortelise on December 5, 2005, at 1:47:46
lgl, i am so sorry you have so much anxiety about this. i know its hard but try not to worry too much about the negative. make a list of things you need to accomplish that day, maybe worrying about what's on the list and getting it done might take your mind off the bathroom stuff too. and you're certainly not alone there.
i'm sending you lots of good vibes to you...>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>
can you feel them? i right here next to you to help you out all i can.
cares
b2c.
Posted by B2chica on December 5, 2005, at 11:31:35
In reply to Re: Worrying out loud.... » Shortelise, posted by B2chica on December 5, 2005, at 11:30:59
Posted by muffled on December 5, 2005, at 12:06:15
In reply to Re: Worrying out loud.... » Shortelise, posted by B2chica on December 5, 2005, at 11:30:59
Posted by happyflower on December 5, 2005, at 14:58:28
In reply to (((LGL)))) (nm), posted by muffled on December 5, 2005, at 12:06:15
They say moving is one of the most stressful things to do in life. You will do fine and will adjust fine, keep smiling, fake till ya make it! :)
Posted by LittleGirlLost on December 5, 2005, at 20:36:19
In reply to Worrying out loud...., posted by LittleGirlLost on December 4, 2005, at 20:37:58
I'm pressed for time this evening, but wanted to thank you all for your support. I would like to respond individually, but I can't tonight. I had a busy day at work, and my coworker was out today also. I got all packed though... and boy did I stall. The movers are coming 9am tomorrow. I just feel like I'm in a fog. I just can't be as worried as I am; hence the fog.
On another note, I emailed my T a very similar version of my "Worrying" post. She agreed that everything will be an adjustment, but thinks we would do well to address the bathroom thing. I know she's right, so why can't I talk about this? It's just gross! A "gross" kind of gross. Does that make sense? I mean, abuse is gross and difficult to talk about, but somehow this is different...a different kind of gross... and I haven't figured out exactly what that difference is. It's just gross and embarrassing.
(I hope that didn't come out wrong... I'm just trying to understand why talking about this is impossible for me.)So, my computer should be hooked up by the afternoon. Hopefully I will be able to check in. (I'm starting to feel guilty for being so needy lately.) But as I read your responses, I feel you guys cheering me on. Hopefully I can reread the thread before I venture to the ladies room tomorrow... which will probably be unavoidable. :(
lgl
Posted by fallsfall on December 5, 2005, at 22:47:30
In reply to Thanks Everyone / Update, posted by LittleGirlLost on December 5, 2005, at 20:36:19
I have my p*m-p*ms out, ready to cheer you on!!
Posted by Tamar on December 6, 2005, at 7:09:13
In reply to Thanks Everyone / Update, posted by LittleGirlLost on December 5, 2005, at 20:36:19
Good luck with the move. I’ll be thinking about you today.
> On another note, I emailed my T a very similar version of my "Worrying" post. She agreed that everything will be an adjustment, but thinks we would do well to address the bathroom thing. I know she's right, so why can't I talk about this? It's just gross! A "gross" kind of gross. Does that make sense? I mean, abuse is gross and difficult to talk about, but somehow this is different...a different kind of gross... and I haven't figured out exactly what that difference is. It's just gross and embarrassing.
> (I hope that didn't come out wrong... I'm just trying to understand why talking about this is impossible for me.)I think what you’re saying makes a lot of sense. Maybe part of the reason it’s difficult to talk about is that it might feel a little ‘weird’. After all, you might reason, no one else has this problem, so you must be really crazy. Except that in fact lots of people have the same fear and none of those people (including you) are crazy. People can be afraid or grossed out by anything; it’s not crazy and it’s not shameful. But I can understand that it might feel that way because I can relate to it.
I’m desperately afraid of slugs. Specifically, I’m afraid they’re going to attack me. When I see a slug I’m afraid it will jump at me and bite me. I know this is completely illogical, and yet simply seeing a slug triggers intense anxiety and revulsion for me. I know people who have the same reaction to fish and moths and snakes that I have to slugs. Can’t be near them; can’t look at them; can’t think about them.
I haven’t dealt with the slug thing yet because it doesn’t interfere with my life as much as the other stuff I have to deal with. But my friend with the moth phobia dealt with hers and although the idea of dealing with it was terrifying, the end result is amazing. She barely notices moths now. They don’t bother her at all.
So keep your eyes on the prize. It will probably feel very difficult to talk about at first. But keep reminding yourself that your life will be immeasurably easier when you no longer feel this anxiety on a daily basis.
Hope it goes well.
Tamar
Posted by happyflower on December 6, 2005, at 9:55:50
In reply to Re: Thanks Everyone / Update » LittleGirlLost, posted by Tamar on December 6, 2005, at 7:09:13
Hey, something we have in common, I HATE SLUGS!!!!! They can all go back to h*ll where that climbed deep up from to invade us humans.
But I hate spiders worse, they totally freak me out! I swear they are going to climb down into the air and bite me. I hate those invisable webs. :)
Posted by LittleGirlLost on December 7, 2005, at 10:26:55
In reply to Thanks Everyone / Update, posted by LittleGirlLost on December 5, 2005, at 20:36:19
So we moved yesterday morning. I went to our old office to make sure the movers took everything, and to say goodbye to everyone. I also went to the bathroom before I left.
It was pretty well into the afternoon by the time we were up and running here. But... I didn't eat or drink all day because I didn't want to have to venture into the bathroom. Luckily I came straight home from work! Though I decided I cannot do that again. I can't make it a habit of not going to the bathroom all day because I think that will only make it harder when I eventually do have to go.
So I decided that today I am just going to go. That's it! I cannot think about it. I think I just have to realize when I feel like I have to go, and go at that moment. I think that will help, if it seems like more of an automatic response/behavior, rather than the "project" it is in my mind.
Sure it sounds easy, but I have had to go for the past hour... and I still haven't. Ugh.
lgl
Posted by Gee on December 7, 2005, at 11:39:48
In reply to And another update, posted by LittleGirlLost on December 7, 2005, at 10:26:55
Posted by Dinah on December 7, 2005, at 12:40:00
In reply to And another update, posted by LittleGirlLost on December 7, 2005, at 10:26:55
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