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Posted by B2chica on January 6, 2006, at 9:09:22
yesterday my T told me that he was offered a job on the west coast. i'm very very happy for him. i knew this day was coming. but i think i just started to get comfortable that he was here. i was taken off guard yesterday by this and i don't think i reacted right. i went numb and showed i was happy for him. i think he expected at least a little disappointment. but i hide any feelings like that. i just can't get out of that mode. i know after our last session i will be bawling like a baby.
but all i can think now is that at least i have another month with him.
still 'stunned' b2c.
Posted by gardenergirl on January 6, 2006, at 10:17:44
In reply to T is leaving, posted by B2chica on January 6, 2006, at 9:09:22
Oh my gosh. I'm so sorry. What a blow. I'd be bawling, too. And I think I would have reacted in a similar manner in the moment, too.
I'm so glad you will have some time to work through his leaving.
Does he have a referral for you?
(((((b2chica)))))
gg
Posted by B2chica on January 6, 2006, at 10:27:32
In reply to Re: T is leaving » B2chica, posted by gardenergirl on January 6, 2006, at 10:17:44
i'm glad too (for the extra time) a month seems so soon, but i did know he would be leaving before we started therapy we just didn't know when.
he does have a referral for me (a female) which would be difficult for me, but HE recommends her AND she's in the same office. that office has reached a comfort zone for me.
but my pdoc says he will help too if he can.the thing is, after he leaves whomever i see i don't think that i will allow them to see my file. i think one of the reasons i did pick him is because i knew he would be moving and all my sick sh@t would be going along with him. when he leaves i don't want to reopen this stuff. i want to be done with it. and since i can't really open up to women, though this one is nice i think i would keep it at a pretty shallow basis. but i'm going to try to go off meds in march so i might need some 'backup' just to keep me in check, so i would go to her for that.
thanks for the hugs gg.
b2c.
Posted by fairywings on January 6, 2006, at 11:55:29
In reply to T is leaving, posted by B2chica on January 6, 2006, at 9:09:22
(((B2))) What a blow, I'm so sorry. Even though you knew, I'm sure it's so difficult to accept. I couldn't. You are strong to have a postive outlook and frame of mind, but I hope you don't go off meds while you're confronting your loss. I hope the new T works out, I hope she's the perfect one for you. I agree about the file, you should be able to start anew, and have the new T gain her own insight.
fw
Posted by happyflower on January 6, 2006, at 15:29:29
In reply to Re: T is leaving » B2chica, posted by fairywings on January 6, 2006, at 11:55:29
((((B2)))) This must feel awful after finally reahing a milestone in therapy. I wish he could stay with you, you two are doing such fine work. I hope your new T will be able to help. But I think you should grieve your current T too. Will there be any contact after he has left? I am so sorry for you B2. (((((B2))))
Posted by Dinah on January 6, 2006, at 18:19:50
In reply to T is leaving, posted by B2chica on January 6, 2006, at 9:09:22
I hope you can reach some closure in that month. Allow yourself to grieve or to cry. A therapy relationship is a significant one in the life of the client.
Posted by ghost on January 7, 2006, at 10:38:47
In reply to T is leaving, posted by B2chica on January 6, 2006, at 9:09:22
Posted by B2chica on January 9, 2006, at 9:29:11
In reply to Re: T is leaving: I'm sorry :( (nm) » B2chica, posted by ghost on January 7, 2006, at 10:38:47
i was fine at first, but i cried this weekend. i've decided to give him one of my paintings as a going away/thank you gift. it's one he liked. maybe knowing he has that piece will help me to let go.
he did say that he may come back a month or so after he leaves and asked if i'd like to set up a time.
i jumped at that chance. i think that will definately help with closure.
b2c.
Posted by muffled on January 9, 2006, at 11:18:43
In reply to Re: T is leaving, posted by B2chica on January 9, 2006, at 9:29:11
He sounds sweet, so sorry he has to go :(
Posted by B2chica on January 9, 2006, at 11:28:34
In reply to Re: T is leaving » B2chica, posted by muffled on January 9, 2006, at 11:18:43
i can't even think about it. it's like i've gain this best friend, someone who knows the REAL me and still accepts me. someone to support me. someone who's there just for me.
we have great conversations, have very similar interests.
now he's going to disappear out of my life. the only thing that partially helps is that i'm happy for him and his new job, i'm happy that he will enjoy this new place better than here. and i'm glad he's alive. i'd much rather loose him this way rather than death. and besides, maybe our time is just up, i got out what i needed and it's time for him to move on and help others, to be there for others the way he has for me.no, i just can't think about it. it makes me ache inside.
b2c.
Posted by muffled on January 9, 2006, at 14:06:53
In reply to Re: T is leaving...the ache., posted by B2chica on January 9, 2006, at 11:28:34
Posted by gardenergirl on January 9, 2006, at 16:09:12
In reply to Re: T is leaving...the ache., posted by B2chica on January 9, 2006, at 11:28:34
I remember how much you liked him after you met him, and I was so happy for you. I think the idea of giving him one of your paintings is wonderful. What a thoughtful gift. Whenever he looks at it he can be reminded of your relationship and the good work you did together.
I'm sure this is so hard and painful. We're here for you. Take extra special care of yourself in this process.
((((B2chica))))
gg
Posted by Dinah on January 9, 2006, at 16:39:48
In reply to Re: T is leaving, posted by B2chica on January 9, 2006, at 9:29:11
The painting sounds like a lovely gift.
I'm glad he offered you the chance to see him one last time.
I can now know what you're going through, and I'm so very sorry.
Posted by rubenstein on January 9, 2006, at 17:49:07
In reply to T is leaving, posted by B2chica on January 6, 2006, at 9:09:22
I am so sorry. It is something I always worry about. I know you can get through this. It will be tough, but you are such a strong person, this too will pass someday. My thoughts are with you
rachel
Posted by B2chica on January 10, 2006, at 9:38:42
In reply to Re: T is leaving, posted by rubenstein on January 9, 2006, at 17:49:07
it's amazing what a loss it is. not just someone that i can totally trust and confide in, but someone who listens to me and understands me. i wish i could work side by side with him. i would LOVE it.
but yesterdays session we talked a little about how i was feeling and i showed him my poems.
he said he loved them, we talked and talked about them. he really 'gets' it.
he also mentioned maybe keeping in contact when he leaves (if i wanted to) i said YES!so
maybe we'll write or email a few times and then drift into our own lives. or maybe we can become 'outside therapy' friends. who knows what cards lay before us.
but i'll take the hope for now.thanks for caring all.
b2c.
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