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Posted by annierose on January 20, 2006, at 15:22:12
This is just an update to my earlier thread re: my angst over scheduling snafus w/my T. It took 3 sessions, but I'm finally at peace again.
We both made assumptions on what the other person was saying (or not saying). Clearly my T felt offended that I accused her of "bumping me" in favor of another client. She now understands I did feel that happened, but she has assured me that next time she will be more careful with the words she uses when there is a scheduling conflict.
We talked a lot about anger, and what it brings up for me. Then she suggested that I try to meditate. I wanted to laugh. I don't think that it is possible for me to stay still and quiet for any reasonable length of time. But I will look into it. Her reasoning is that the pain and hurt I feel is so overwhelming for me and my psyche, that it gets streamed into anger ... in order not to feel the disappointment. I feel the pain is there, but just out of reach. And I figure, why try to access it anyway ... to feel worse?
We talked about that too.
Oh and she did secure my Tuesday appointment time, so I don't have to change that one too.
I hope there aren't too many more weeks like this one ahead. I can only take on so much. It's amazing how this stupid little incident impacted me on so many levels.
Thanks to everyone that offered such insightful and helpful advice ... you know who you are!
Posted by fallsfall on January 20, 2006, at 16:31:59
In reply to Reconciliation with my T, posted by annierose on January 20, 2006, at 15:22:12
Good for you for working it through to the end. This can remind you that conflicts aren't the end of things, that things can be discussed and worked through, that when two people want to make something work it can be done. I know it was hard, but thank goodness for frequent appointments. Can you imagine trying to live through that if it took a month?
My massage therapist recommended a video to me for meditation. I've only done it a couple of times, but I'll do it more in the future. It gave me a framework for meditation. You might give it a try: "Shirley MacLaine's Inner Workout"
I'm glad things worked out for you.
Posted by Dinah on January 20, 2006, at 18:40:20
In reply to Reconciliation with my T, posted by annierose on January 20, 2006, at 15:22:12
I'm so glad you worked it out. I was sure you would.
And you get to keep the appointment time you liked best? That's extra good.
Posted by Tamar on January 20, 2006, at 19:25:19
In reply to Reconciliation with my T, posted by annierose on January 20, 2006, at 15:22:12
Glad you worked it out. These things are so hard! They take so much energy and cost us so much emotion. But it can be very rewarding to get through it all... And I'm glad your T seems to acknowledge that she wasn't perfect in all this...
Tamar
Posted by annierose on January 21, 2006, at 8:43:10
In reply to Re: Reconciliation with my T » annierose, posted by fallsfall on January 20, 2006, at 16:31:59
I agree, if I only went once a week, this pain would have been overwhelming ... at the least, much harder. I told her I felt desperate to rid myself of these feelings, panic striken. She feels this is all old pain and that I really need to stop distracting myself from it, hence the meditation.
I'm glad I have my safe spot back. I go to New York for business this upcoming week, and then she goes on vacation for 10 days (who's counting?).
You were such a BIG help. Thank you.
Posted by annierose on January 21, 2006, at 8:46:13
In reply to Re: Reconciliation with my T » annierose, posted by Dinah on January 20, 2006, at 18:40:20
Yes, that is the ironic part. In the end, I am much happier with my new schedule. And she obviously asked the other client if they could come at another time. Two scheduling mis-steps within 2 weeks was more than my brain could handle.
Thanks for lending your support.
Did you see CNN last night? They broadcasted from New Orleans and updated some Katrina stories. All very sad, all depressing ... nothing you don't already know.
Posted by annierose on January 21, 2006, at 8:47:55
In reply to (((((Annierose))))) » annierose, posted by Tamar on January 20, 2006, at 19:25:19
Thank you Tamar. You are so generous. I know what a tough time you are going through right now. Is there anything I can do to help?
I really liked what you wrote to Happyflower. I had to re-read it 3 or 4 times to soak all the words up. I think you are right too. And smart. Very smart.
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