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Posted by pegasus on March 24, 2006, at 11:41:43
So, I went back to my most recent T last week, and we had a conversation about my self-destructive habits. In the past, when stressed, I've had this very large and aggressive part of me that took over and started behaving badly. Lately, though, I seem to have a new layer of myself that can often look at it logically, and say, "No, it's ok if I don't do that now. It's ok to just have a bad day."
My T says the old part is a "complex" in the Jungian sense, and the new part is my real self. We talked a lot about how I would recognize a real self, versus a complex, and what that means. We also talked about how this relates to being a mother.
So, then yesterday I got a receipt from her in the mail, and on it she attached a note, which includes this statement:
"I meant to remind you about the health in having flexible ego states. Mothering demands it!"
I'm going to see her again in a couple of weeks, probably. But in the meantime, what do you suppose she meant? I know ego states are parts of our personality, such as an "inner child" and etc. But, is she saying my complex is one ego state and my new part is another one? And it's good to have both? I'm kinda baffled.
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Posted by B2chica on March 24, 2006, at 11:52:32
In reply to odd note from T: flexible ego states, posted by pegasus on March 24, 2006, at 11:41:43
i think that having flexible ego states allows you to feel different ways and using what you need, when you need it. also it allows you to not be black and white. having flexible ego states and having control of them allows you to go where you need to go emotionally but still have enough control to bring you back when you need to.
i think...;^)maybe others can explain better.
b2c.
Posted by pegasus on March 27, 2006, at 8:20:36
In reply to Re: odd note from T: flexible ego states, posted by B2chica on March 24, 2006, at 11:52:32
OK, that makes sense. That sounds good. Maybe she was meaning that my lack of a sense of self could be seen as flexible ego states? It'll give me something interesting to talk about when I see her in a couple of weeks.
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