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Posted by orchid on April 6, 2006, at 14:38:45
I have always found it incredibly hard to accept when I find that people don't apologize, even when they know what they did is wrong.
How come people don't apologize if they hurt you or do something wrong to you?
I have been wondering how my dad never really apologized to me - he talks about being self-critical, being truthful, doing good to others etc etc - all big talks, but never really apologized for the hurt he caused me - not an honest and sincere apology. I don't hold it against him, but every now and then it really irritates me.
How can a person not apologize? Or offer some explanation? Or make efforts to make things better when they know they are the ones who made it worse in the first place?
It is something that I have been wondering for quite a long time, and how, persons who talk of all this big grand things, when it comes to their personal behavior fall so short.
Posted by special_k on April 7, 2006, at 2:33:15
In reply to Why don't some people apologize?, posted by orchid on April 6, 2006, at 14:38:45
i don't know.
sorry.
heh heh.
i tend to fall over myself apologising...
but i think there is a happy medium...
which involves apologising when you know you have done something wrong...
and showing some sympathy when people feel hurt.i think maybe sometimes people have trouble with seeing that they did anything wrong...
(but they can still show some sympathy when people feel hurt. but sometimes people aren't so good at that)
sometimes people's ego can be to fragile to admit they did wrong too.my dad doesn't apologise for anything either.
nope.
Posted by curtm on April 21, 2006, at 10:03:22
In reply to Why don't some people apologize?, posted by orchid on April 6, 2006, at 14:38:45
I don't know why some people don't apologize either. Don't expect any behavior or action from anyone. We know what is right and proper behavior, so we do what WE feel WE should do. Recently someone who offended me greatly, apologized to me. I gazed blankly. Then he waited as if I was supposed to say something. He said, "I said I was sorry." He was expecting something in return, which is not a fully sincere apology to me.
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