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Posted by madeline on April 4, 2006, at 12:49:20
Let us know, we've all been thinking about you okay?
Maddie
Posted by TherapyGirl on April 4, 2006, at 14:35:45
In reply to Milly, How did it go? Are you okay?, posted by madeline on April 4, 2006, at 12:49:20
Yes, please let us know how you are when you get a chance.
Posted by LadyBug on April 4, 2006, at 14:42:22
In reply to Milly, How did it go? Are you okay?, posted by madeline on April 4, 2006, at 12:49:20
Milly,
I've been thinking bout ya today and wondering how things went for you? I hope you're doing ok. I know you might be on the road by now, but let us know when you can ok.
Thanks and take care.
LadyBug
Posted by milly on April 7, 2006, at 5:32:59
In reply to Milly, How did it go? Are you okay?, posted by madeline on April 4, 2006, at 12:49:20
I can't tell you how it felt to get back and venture onto babble late last night (too late and shattered to post) to see your messages. It mean't soooooooo much to me, thanks.
Well the day and the hour arrived and I had written a letter so that I wouldn't end up forgetting to say anything (even then I keep thinking of stuff)and I read it to him.
It felt good to be so honest and truthful and accepted and loved.
We discussed the pain of time limited therapy and he told me my options and what he 'hoped' for me, which is to leave therapy in the NHS because he knows that if after i'm assessed I would again be offered time limited therapy (if offered anything at all)and how powerless I feel with the 'system'. He is writing to me to give me names of collugues who would 'suit' me. I asked the BIG question about whether he has private patients. He does, but he can't take me on because he isn't allowed but also because the 'feelings' in the room are mutual and although it hurts like hell to part it would do neither of us any good to continue.
It was one of the most painful but beautiful hours of my life! i gave him my sculpture and he cried.
We talked about 'our' journey and how we had both changed through taking it together.
Anyway I survived, thanks for caring. I expect I'll share more later but it is all so raw at the moment
milly
Posted by TherapyGirl on April 7, 2006, at 8:18:56
In reply to Hi I'm back!, posted by milly on April 7, 2006, at 5:32:59
Milly, I'm so glad you're back. It sounds like you did exactly what you needed to do to achieve whatever level of closure you can out of a difficult situation. I'm so proud of you!
Posted by madeline on April 7, 2006, at 16:27:00
In reply to Hi I'm back!, posted by milly on April 7, 2006, at 5:32:59
I thought about you every day.
I'm so glad things went well with your last visit. It sounds as though it went as well as it could.
Like your T, I hope that you will continue on with therapy and can use this experience as a spring board to so many good things.
You loved someone!! They loved you back!!! It's wonderful, and I'm sure it is just the beginning.
Limited time therapy is awful, but you managed to turn it into a good experience.
Ah.. Paris!
Love you,
Maddie
Posted by Daisym on April 7, 2006, at 23:36:08
In reply to Hi I'm back!, posted by milly on April 7, 2006, at 5:32:59
Wow Milly,
Your post made me cry. What a powerful exchange. Sounds like your therapist was really touched by your heart and your pain. How nice he could be honest and share it with you. Hang in. We are here.
Posted by milly on April 8, 2006, at 7:37:33
In reply to Re: Hi I'm back! » milly, posted by Daisym on April 7, 2006, at 23:36:08
> Wow Milly,
>
> Your post made me cry. What a powerful exchange. Sounds like your therapist was really touched by your heart and your pain. How nice he could be honest and share it with you. Hang in. We are here.** hi daisy
I am desperatly trying not to miss him but he is in my thoughts so much.I took in a tiny bunny who i had named after him and asked if he wanted to meet 'Bunny xxxxxxxx' and he said yes and held it for a while, as you can imagine 'Bunny xxxxxxx' never leaves my side! (does that sound pathetic?)I had bought it because it has such a blank expression on it's face which I am sure my T must practise infront of a mirror (and often told him so, which would result in him having to work hard not to laugh!)Anyway I started to read your thread below (but didn't get very far in so if I'm off track please tell me,) but it doesn't matter if you can't 'give' at the moment just try and be content to be 'held' by others, YOU matter daisy, not what you give to others (which is alot) YOU
milly
Posted by LadyBug on April 8, 2006, at 12:00:28
In reply to Hi I'm back!, posted by milly on April 7, 2006, at 5:32:59
((((((Milly))))))
I'm so glad to hear from you. I am really touched by you giving him your sculpture and that he cried. You touched each other in ways that are so deep and so personal. I can imagine the hour being so bitter-sweet. I'm glad you could make it positive. You will be in each other's hearts forever. Neither of you ever forgotten. How beautiful is that? I don't look forward to the day I do this. I think I would break. I'm proud of you. I hope you have a wonderful time in Paris and do send him a post card for sure.
Keep in touch with us too....
Hugs
LadyBug
Posted by milly on April 10, 2006, at 15:41:52
In reply to Re: Hi I'm back! » milly, posted by LadyBug on April 8, 2006, at 12:00:28
Thanks ladybug for your really affirming post, it really was very special, he really is very special and the connection we shared will always be very special
milly
Posted by milly on April 10, 2006, at 15:45:38
In reply to Re: Hi I'm back! - yeah! Missed you, posted by madeline on April 7, 2006, at 16:27:00
> I thought about you every day.
** Oh thank you that is sooooo sweet
> I'm so glad things went well with your last visit. It sounds as though it went as well as it could.
>
> Like your T, I hope that you will continue on with therapy and can use this experience as a spring board to so many good things.
>
> You loved someone!! They loved you back!!! It's wonderful, and I'm sure it is just the beginning.** I know, it took me a long time to trust what I felt but when I eventually 'got it' it was worth all the pain
>
> Limited time therapy is awful, but you managed to turn it into a good experience.
>
> Ah.. Paris!Must go and pack for Paris now as we are catching the 6am train which means leaving here at 5:15am!!!!
much love milly
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