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Posted by Daisym on May 5, 2006, at 23:22:36
We have turned into a whole family in therapy. Is that weird? My husband has found a therapist and has now seen her twice. He thinks she is good and he already feels better. He said he understands what is happening to me now (My own therapist laughed and said, "Could someone tell me!") and he knows what he needs to work on. I'm coping with his going better, though I still find myself upset at times.
I, myself, feel very lucky to have the support of two very good therapists. They are very different but both are so available and so kind...and right now they are propping me up in different ways.
My son's therapist is available by both email and phone. He is focused on helping my son stay out of the middle of "those darn parents." They have developed a whole strategy to "duck the flying t*rds." It might sound weird but it is the perfect metaphor for a 14 yr old boy. I have long been impressed with the work they are doing, but I didn't expect my son's therapist to extend himself to me for added support in the way he has. He reminds me to take care of myself and has been great about advice with how much to share...or not. I worry a little that this is unfair to my husband but the truth is that I have developed a relationship with this therapist and my husband has never even met him. The kid has been going to therapy for 3 1/2 years and dad's never met him....
My own therapist is being super supportive. He tells me he is in this with me and that just because I found the strength to do this, I don't have to be strong all the time and manage everything on my own. I'm so relieved. I get scared about what comes next and how tough I'm supposed to be. Somehow I've convinced myself that I have to give up therapy as I'm "giving up" so many other things. It is twisted and all mixed up with the younger parts of me.
I'm sort of floored that even with all of this going on, I'm still in parts and pieces in therapy. There are tons of flashbacks and I'm needy and clingy. We've been talking about how moving out and taking a stand represents so many things that should have been done when I was a child. There is so much anger unleashed, and I'm terrified that I will dump it out on my therapist and cause him to back away when I need him most. I can't tell anymore if it is old or current or both. I just know that it is scary.
I have no idea why I'm posting all of this. I guess I don't want to "give up" you guys too. I'm trying so hard to stay connected when all I really want to do is hide under my bed. Don't let me stay there too long, OK? Someone promise to come and drag me out.
Posted by antigua on May 5, 2006, at 23:50:07
In reply to Too Many therapists?, posted by Daisym on May 5, 2006, at 23:22:36
I'll come and get you.
antigua
Posted by fallsfall on May 6, 2006, at 3:18:46
In reply to Too Many therapists?, posted by Daisym on May 5, 2006, at 23:22:36
Oh, Daisy!!!
I have COW here......
It is nice and hot and has butter and honey on it...
Posted by madeline on May 6, 2006, at 6:08:59
In reply to Too Many therapists?, posted by Daisym on May 5, 2006, at 23:22:36
Can I get under the bed with you? Sometimes hiding under the bed seems like the most reasonable thing to do. :)
Take care Daisy, I'm very proud of you and admire your willingness to change.
Maddie
Posted by annierose on May 6, 2006, at 7:22:35
In reply to Too Many therapists?, posted by Daisym on May 5, 2006, at 23:22:36
I'll help too. If it's any consolation, you do sound better in this post, more sure of your decision and recognizing all the support surrounding you.
>>He said he understands what is happening to me now<<<
Your husband's comment is arrogant, and it would send shivers down my spine and cause the defensive cat in me to curl up and show my teeth and claws. I love your T's reply. But I'm glad your husband did say he knew what HE needed to work on --- that shows some insight.
We won't let you hide for too long. You are important to this community.
Annierose
Posted by fairywings on May 6, 2006, at 14:33:56
In reply to Too Many therapists?, posted by Daisym on May 5, 2006, at 23:22:36
You're so sweet daisy, I hope you feel like coming out soon. ((((hugs))))
Glad you're getting so much support from the T's, and glad your son has a good T - with a sense of humor.Feel better.
fw
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