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Posted by Dinah on May 7, 2006, at 15:41:44
But after my husband told me we weren't moving, I was so disappointed that I'm now leading the charge to move. Even though it means leaving my beloved therapist.
It's still iffy as it depends a lot on timing and his company coming through with our instructions before the houses we were looking at are gone.
Life is strange isn't it.
I think I made my therapist cry Tuesday, and he didn't seem much happier today. I think he does really care about me, even if he finds me irritating at times and says so.
Posted by madeline on May 7, 2006, at 17:10:34
In reply to You won't believe this, posted by Dinah on May 7, 2006, at 15:41:44
Well, part of making a big decision is changing your mind and going back and forth and forth and back and then back again. It's all a part of the process.
I am curious though, what changed your perspective on moving?
Why do you think your therapist started to cry? What were you talking about?
That would totally rip my guts out. Are you okay?
Maddie
Posted by annierose on May 7, 2006, at 18:24:07
In reply to Re: You won't believe this, posted by madeline on May 7, 2006, at 17:10:34
It is a hard decision. I understand why you waver back and forth. Good Luck in whatever you decide.
Posted by Racer on May 7, 2006, at 19:55:57
In reply to Re: You won't believe this, posted by annierose on May 7, 2006, at 18:24:07
When my husband was laid off, and kept saying we were moving to this area, or that area, it was very hard on me. Finally, when things were down to the wire and we were talking about putting everything in storage and staying with my Aunt -- well, that was pretty horrifying, because said Aunt installed many of my worst neuroses. I went through a lot of things during that period, but finally buckled down and started making plans. Found a place to work down there, etc.
And then he changed his mind.
And, much as I hadn't wanted to move down there, I was devastated! All that tension built up over so long, finally getting my head around the idea of the move -- and KABOOM!
I think, Dinah, that you may have gone through something similar: it took so much for you to get your head around the move, and now that it's gone, you feel kinda like a deflated balloon? I did, at least.
Whatever happens, Dinah, I wish you the best
Posted by Dinah on May 7, 2006, at 20:03:57
In reply to Re: You won't believe this, posted by Racer on May 7, 2006, at 19:55:57
I am really ok with whatever happens. I can see positives and negatives to both. I'm mostly at peace. I'll shed a few tears either way, but ultimately I'll be ok. I actually told my therapist that today. Instead of asking him if everything would be ok, I smiled and told him that no matter how things worked out, everything would be ok. All right, there might have been a tiny question mark at the end.
I feel a bit disloyal to turn my back on my home city in its time of need.
I'm not sure he cried or if he just felt like crying. Not sure if I want to talk details on it, it was a pretty special moment to me. I think it might have been what made it ok for me to move, if that makes sense.
We did agree to try to keep on with phone sessions and I'll try to come here every quarter, ostensibly for work and to visit my mom, but really to see him. I guess they'll catch on when I'm only here for an hour. lol.
Posted by Dinah on May 7, 2006, at 20:42:11
In reply to Thanks guys, posted by Dinah on May 7, 2006, at 20:03:57
Yet here I am five minutes later fighting back tears while I nurse some rum.
Y'all should probably disregard *everything* I write for a few weeks.
Posted by Dinah on May 7, 2006, at 20:46:13
In reply to Gee, that sounded so grounded, posted by Dinah on May 7, 2006, at 20:42:11
I know sometimes it's hard to tell without visual cues. But I'm not upset about being tearful. I'm more amused.
My mood swings are making me dizzy.
Posted by fallsfall on May 8, 2006, at 7:33:10
In reply to That was said in humor, by the way., posted by Dinah on May 7, 2006, at 20:46:13
(((Dinah)))
You'll still find Babble in the same place, no matter where you are.
Peace
Posted by happyflower on May 8, 2006, at 8:22:14
In reply to Re: That was said in humor, by the way. » Dinah, posted by fallsfall on May 8, 2006, at 7:33:10
Hey what is it with us Babblers lately? It seems like when the sky falls, it does for everyone at once.
I think we know you well enough by now, Dinah, on how you feel even though your words might say something else.
Sometimes I know what I SHOULD say, but it isn't how I feel , but yet I want to be strong so I say it anyways. But you can't hide the feelings. Okay, I know I am babbling away, but Dinah, I think you are doing fine and what is going on with you would make us all feel like you or simular to you. So don't be so hard on yourself. Okay? (((((((((Dinah))))))
Posted by happyflower on May 8, 2006, at 8:23:32
In reply to Re: That was said in humor, by the way. » Dinah, posted by fallsfall on May 8, 2006, at 7:33:10
Posted by Dinah on May 8, 2006, at 8:38:36
In reply to I mean to say fallsfall, well said! (nm), posted by happyflower on May 8, 2006, at 8:23:32
Yes it was.
I'm in a very odd place...
Very odd indeed.
Posted by rubenstein on May 8, 2006, at 14:31:38
In reply to You won't believe this, posted by Dinah on May 7, 2006, at 15:41:44
I am sure your therapist cares about you...my heart goes out to you during this difficult time.
rachel
Posted by fairywings on May 9, 2006, at 0:02:52
In reply to You won't believe this, posted by Dinah on May 7, 2006, at 15:41:44
When I read this, I was so touched that your therapist cried. It feels so good when you know someone really cares. Made me feel warm inside, but stirred emotions too.
It's good to hear you'll be okay whatever the decision.
Hugs,
fw
Posted by Dinah on May 9, 2006, at 7:49:18
In reply to Re: You won't believe this » Dinah, posted by fairywings on May 9, 2006, at 0:02:52
Well, at the time I wrote it, it was true.
But my mood swings wildly from day to day or minute to minute.
Yesterday I took steps smoothing the way to... Well, you know.
We'll probably make a decision any day now, and I can't bear to stay and I can't bear to go. It went from looking like either way would be ok to looking like either way would be unbearable.
I guess when there are so many legitimate pros and cons that things are practically even rationally, it's easy to have the results shift like one of those magic pictures. Look at it from the right and it's Thumbelina floating on a leaf. Look at it from the left and it's Thumbelina about to be eaten. Or something like that.
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