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Posted by Karolina on May 9, 2006, at 23:31:41
If you had a sexual dream or fantasy about your T and you got the courage to tell them about it (even if you weren't attracted to them but still dreamed about them in that way) how do you think they'd react? Flattered? Uncomfortable?
The sexual dreams I've been having about my T lately are torturing me! I want to talk about them but I'm so embarassed...especially because I am attracted to him. I almost can't even see a point in bringing them up if it makes him feel uncomfortable, or if he ends up getting defensive explaining that nothing could ever happen, because that would make me feel incredibly rejected. I don't know what to do!!!
-Karolina-
Posted by eyes2ursoul on May 10, 2006, at 6:05:03
In reply to sexual dreams/fantasies..., posted by Karolina on May 9, 2006, at 23:31:41
Hi there Karolina!
Far as I can tell from the advise i've been given here and from my own experience in therapy, the thing to do is to tell your T about your dreams.
Sure some T's don't put too much weight onto ours dreams e.g. CBT therapists. But mine does CBT and telling her some of my sexual dreams helped me to not obsess about them. She was really cool about it. I asked her if she was angry or repulsed by my dreams and she said 'No, A dreams a dream'.
I also may venture to add that in the case of you worrying about your T being uncomfortable, I could be wrong, but I was under the impression it wasn't the patients role to look after the comfort etc of out T's in our sessions.
So i hope that is a little bit of help in helping you decide what you feel is best for you.
Take care
p.s. TO THE BABBLERS WHO HELPEDE ME >I would like to say sorry to all you babblers who i still haven't got back to. the ones who answered my thread and gave me their advice about my "sexual lesbian feelings fantsy for my T". I have not been feeling up to any babble since then. I know it was a week or so ago, actually it was 30/4/06, I would like to thank you all for your help and advice. THANKS !! Thanks!! THANKS!!
And, I hope you will forgive me for not replying at the time. I was just so mixed up and talking on here to everyone who replied to me really helped me alot. THANKS AGAIN!!! to >Veracity. >Happyflower. >Barna. >Annierose. >Fallsfall. >Gardenergirl. & >Tabitha. YOU ARE VERY GOOD BABBLERS AND I APRECIATE YOUR HELP!!
Posted by milly on May 10, 2006, at 9:03:49
In reply to sexual dreams/fantasies..., posted by Karolina on May 9, 2006, at 23:31:41
Hi karolina,
Don't worry about your T it probably won't be anything he hasn't heard before.
It takes guts to tell them these things but it is often much easier once it has been voiced than before.
If he's a good T he won't make you feel rejected
milly
Posted by Karolina on May 10, 2006, at 20:16:23
In reply to sexual dreams/fantasies..., posted by Karolina on May 9, 2006, at 23:31:41
Thanks eyes2ursoul and milly.
I do think that being able to talk about them would be like a huge weight off of my shoulders. problem is, I get so nervous before appointments that I have trouble bringing up issues like this and then I feel frustrated for holding myself back. I don't know why I freeze up like that but it's getting annoying, I end up getting mad at myself.
It's like I can't make myself calm down...I'm not obvious about it; my voice doesn't shake and I can sit still but it's like I'm nervous on the inside to the point where it's almost impossible for me to talk about the harder stuff. The reason why I feared it being awkward for my T is because he's been seeing me since I was a teen and I think he's always seen it as more of a father-daughter type relationship.
Anyway, any tips on how to open up better, be less nervous? Thanks you guys.
-Karolina-
Posted by happyflower on May 10, 2006, at 21:18:18
In reply to Re: sexual dreams/fantasies..., posted by Karolina on May 10, 2006, at 20:16:23
Hi Karolina,
How about writing down what you want to say and having it with you in case you freeze up?
I have had sexual dreams about my T and they are wonderful by the way, but I have never told him directly that they were about him. Even though I think he figured it out. LOL
If you feel you need to talk about it, then you probably do. Good luck, it is a tough thing to talk about for anyone. When is your next appointment?
Posted by happyflower on May 10, 2006, at 21:31:20
In reply to Re: sexual dreams/fantasies..., posted by happyflower on May 10, 2006, at 21:18:18
In fact I was feeling gulity about fantasing about someone other than my DH, and my T said to put a movie on for the kids and go in another room and go to it for 2 hours. LOL
Posted by Karolina on May 22, 2006, at 23:16:53
In reply to Re: sexual dreams/fantasies..., posted by happyflower on May 10, 2006, at 21:18:18
Thanks happyflower, sorry I just now am responding. I had lost this post!!
lol your T sounds like he has a good sense of humor, and I think that's good in therapy. I hope that I will be able find the courage to address some of my dreams with my T but maybe do like you did, describe it without actually saying it's about *him*, even though he might figure out that it's him anyway. oh well =)
-Karolina-
Posted by susan47 on May 26, 2006, at 13:07:50
In reply to Re: sexual dreams/fantasies..., posted by happyflower on May 10, 2006, at 21:31:20
Sorry to bring this up at this late date if you're still reading HF but I do hope your therapist WAS talking about you going at it with your DH for two hours not fantasizing, if he thought it was about him, because that would make him ... kind of scary :]
Posted by happyflower on May 26, 2006, at 18:14:06
In reply to Re: sexual dreams/fantasies... » happyflower, posted by susan47 on May 26, 2006, at 13:07:50
Hi Susan,
Nope he meant fantazing about however I was thinking about who I had erotic dreams about (which was him, but I didn't tell him that). He might of guessed to himself, I don't know, but I didn't say who I was fantazing about.
Posted by happyflower on May 27, 2006, at 7:41:36
In reply to Re: sexual dreams/fantasies... » susan47, posted by happyflower on May 26, 2006, at 18:14:06
Boy do I miss those good dreams, now they are replaced by nightmares of my mother lately. I don't know how I am going to be able to run in the 5k in less than a week and I can't get a good nights sleep. Plus the race as moved to 6:30 am!!!!
Posted by Karolina on May 27, 2006, at 23:07:22
In reply to Re: sexual dreams/fantasies..., posted by happyflower on May 27, 2006, at 7:41:36
aw...hope you start sleeping better soon, good luck at the race you will do great!!
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