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Posted by LadyBug on May 22, 2006, at 16:38:54
Have you heard anything from your T. or seen him at the gym? I'm sad for you cuz I know your heart is hurting. Let me know ok?
And here's a hug ((((((HF))))))
LadyBug
Posted by happyflower on May 22, 2006, at 17:36:42
In reply to HAPPYFLOWER~~~, posted by LadyBug on May 22, 2006, at 16:38:54
Thanks Ladybug for your hugs and yes I am hurting , not just from my Dr. Big Jerk but the stuff I needed to talk to him about, mainly my self esteem issues. No, he hasn't called me, it has been 5 days. So I guess he figures that I have quit for good and I am sure he is happy that he doesn't have to put up my stuff anymore. Him not calling, even knowing how distressed I am , sort of shows me what I mean to him even as just a client. NOTHING So I guess I just except that.
Maybe it is time to look for another T. I don't know if I am "fixable" anymore so I don't know if I should even try again.
I have only been at the gym once, and I haven't see him. I am not looking for him, if anything I am trying to avoid seeing him. But tomorrow I have yoga, so I plan on going, gotta have my yoga, it the only thing keeping my sanity now days. But if I do run into him at the gym I don't plan on even looking at him and especially not going to talk to the big jerk. Thanks for caring, how are you?
Posted by wishingstar on May 22, 2006, at 19:04:19
In reply to Re: HAPPYFLOWER~~~ » LadyBug, posted by happyflower on May 22, 2006, at 17:36:42
{{{{{{{happyflower}}}}}}}}}
I'm feeling sort of bad about therapy myself right now, so I'm having a hard time putting coherent words together to make you feel better.. but I just wanted to say that I'm sorry you're having to go through this. I know it must be hurting a lot. We're all here for you. Hang in there.
Posted by LadyBug on May 22, 2006, at 19:22:59
In reply to Re: HAPPYFLOWER~~~ » LadyBug, posted by happyflower on May 22, 2006, at 17:36:42
Happyflower,
I've been in a simular situation to where I'd tell my T I quit and wasn't coming back. I'd ALWAYS end up calling her back within a week. I wanted her to call me and ask me to come back, but when I did return, she told me she would have waited about 2 weeks before she called me if she didn't hear from me first. Putting the ball in my court, I quit, did I want to keep it that way was up to me. So he might be playing this hard nose game too. Letting it be your choice and him not interfering. We want them to read our minds. And they seem to get us hooked on them and then it is us who suffer, not them. Sometimes I felt like such a number. I would ask myself this if I were you:
1. Can I go the rest of my life and not talk to him and wonder what happened and not be able to work it through with him?
2. If I do quit and never see him, can I live with that? How will it affect me in the other area's of my life?
3. Can I go to a different T and make more progress, and have to pay someone else to work through what happened to you and your current T?
4. I wouldn't be willing to tell him for 90 bucks how you feel either. Leave him a message and tell him how it makes you feel to have him ignore you!
I don't know, follow your gut? I'm so stuck in therapy, stuck on my therapist. She's so awesome, my safe place to land.
One thing I have learned, and it's only taken me 9 years, is that it's not therapy nor my therapist that causes me pain like I wanted to believe. (It had to be her, or therapy, everytime I left her office I felt more pain than I could handle.) It's my freakin marriage and my husband doing it all. He can't seem to believe that?!?!?!
My husband and my youngest daughter have been in Washington DC for my step son's graduation from Medical School. It's been such a relief to have him gone for 5 days. He will be back tomorrow. The stress level will return as soon as I see his face. I miss my daughter, but not him. I'm working towards leaving, I'm just financially stuck at the moment. Thanks for asking though.
Hugs and DO keep in touch. Let me know what your plans are from here. I know how hard and how painful it is. Dam**t All!!!!!!!
LadyBug
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