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Posted by curtm on June 29, 2006, at 20:18:38
Does anyone tell their parents what is going on? I feel very uncomfortable about bring up issues like mental illness and problems thereafter. I don't know if they will understand. I don't know if they will try to become too much help. I don't know if they will be disappointed. They know many things aren't right and that I'm not very happy, but they don't know everything and how it all ties together. They don't know how much I am going through and who or what I do to try and fix it. I don't know if I want them to know. They would gladly listen and give their "advice" but I know exactly some of the things they would say and I don't want to hear those things AGAIN. ((((((((parents))))))))
Posted by jammerlich on June 29, 2006, at 21:04:51
In reply to Parents, posted by curtm on June 29, 2006, at 20:18:38
I try to tell mine as little as possible. A lot of the time I end up regretting the little bits I do share. Right now is one of those times. I'm getting divorced, so I HAD to tell them; but I surely wish there'd been some way around it. They've only made things worse.
I was just talking with my T on Tuesday about this very thing. How hard it is to have parents who constantly try to "fix" and "advise" and can't just throw their arms around you and offer comfort and support. Actually, we talked about how they can offer that comfort and support to my soon-to-be ex, but not to me.
I don't know what to tell you other than I feel your pain. It really sucks, doesn't it?
Posted by curtm on June 29, 2006, at 21:12:00
In reply to Re: Parents » curtm, posted by jammerlich on June 29, 2006, at 21:04:51
Posted by cubic_me on June 30, 2006, at 7:57:29
In reply to Re: Parents » curtm, posted by jammerlich on June 29, 2006, at 21:04:51
My parents don't know anything, I find the whole subject very uncomfortable with them. When I was 16 my school rang my parents to tell them they thought I might be depressed (the school never discussed this with me), my mom especially thought it was hillarious and told all her friends how stupid it was and that I didn't look depressed to her (you get good at pretending). That was really the nail in the coffin for talking to them about it. They've never been people I've confided in so I don't feel I need that support now, and even if they turned in to warm fuzzy people I still wouldn't want it.
It's hard though, when things are going on and you have to constantly hide things, both emotional and physical from them. Every time I go home to visit I hope they won't find my meds, or see any cuts. If I go shopping with mom she still insists on sitting in my changing room while I try things on, aargh!
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