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Posted by Scentedgarden on December 23, 2006, at 19:51:47
we all miss our t's ...and the above posts on taking arisk are amazing fromsart to finish....there's talm baout ...taking them in....and fel the connection...
My next feeling /thought is does anyone here think or know for sure if the T also takes us in....does a t ...a good one....does a good t connect to us...or is it only us whjo take them in.../.?
anyone here been a t ? anyone know first hand ...? as i miss mine too and yes the pain is sometimes beautiful....but is it only me that connects to her my t/?
im just asking....for others opinions , to share if it matters to the other patients/clents on here...
what the therapist feels....does anyone think their therapist will want to spend christmas with any one of their patients...i hopw you all share your thoughts ...even if they are just what you think they think, or wish they think ..
merry christmas to everyone...especially muffly...god bless all babblers on this board and anyone just reading who never posts....god loves you, even if u dont jnow anyone else ...god loves us all...thank you for sharing or just for reading over this difficult time for those of us on the road to recovering our lives..and healing in our soul.. take care !!! X
Posted by sunnydays on December 23, 2006, at 22:31:53
In reply to plz does th t feel th connection we feel too?!, posted by Scentedgarden on December 23, 2006, at 19:51:47
I don't know that he would want to spend Christmas with me - I just don't know him that well (although I do want to spend it with him). But I know he does care - I said to him once, "I wish you could be my parent." and then I was very scared that I had said something wrong and he said very gently, "Sometimes I wish I was your parent too." So they definitely take us in somewhat.
sunnydays
Posted by muffled on December 24, 2006, at 10:25:29
In reply to plz does th t feel th connection we feel too?!, posted by Scentedgarden on December 23, 2006, at 19:51:47
Good question SG. I do wonder how much training your average T gets for this sort of thing? Its such an intense trust that we goto have for our t, to be able to do the work that we do. Its a strange thing all round. Its not natural. Hell its bloody ridiculous and hard and confusing. I have a feeling my t tries hard NOT to think bout clients when she on holiday. A self preservation thing she needs to do. I dunno though, cuz she did say that she would pray fro me over the holidays? So I dunno?
Crazymaking.
Have good holidays,
Take care,
Muffled
Posted by pegasus on December 27, 2006, at 9:51:47
In reply to plz does th t feel th connection we feel too?!, posted by Scentedgarden on December 23, 2006, at 19:51:47
My ex-T says that when he moved away and closed his practice it was really hard and sad to leave all of the people (clients) that he had developed close relationships with. He also told me once that there is some great research that shows that when one person feels a connection to the other person, almost always it's because the other person feels it too. Apparently they've done some kind of brain imaging that shows synchronicity between the brains of the connecting people. His point was that if I feel connected to him, it's because the two of us have a connection, not because I'm making something up that he doesn't feel.
And I've spoken to other Ts who talk about their bonds with clients, from their side. (I'm in a M.A. program for counseling psych, and all my teachers are practicing Ts.) Of course, it's different for them, because the therapy is so focused on the client's experience. But I think a good T really does feel the connection.
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