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Posted by sunnydays on December 28, 2006, at 21:59:54
I miss my T. I really really do. I'm so far away from him, and it's hard at home. I miss him.
sunnydays
Posted by Daisym on December 29, 2006, at 0:31:18
In reply to i miss him, posted by sunnydays on December 28, 2006, at 21:59:54
Of course you do. It is normal to miss people we care about when we don't see them for awhile. The more we care about them, the more we miss them.
I think we also miss how they make us feel - safe, or warm, or happy or heard. When we are with other people who can do this for us, the missing doesn't hurt as much. When we are with people who don't do this for us, the missing is worse.
So - what can you do to help yourself feel a little more secure and a little more taken care of? Your therapist would want you to be taking care of yourself. Can you write to him, journal or send an email? Even if you don't actually send it, sometimes having a conversation with him will really help. Can you escape into a really good book, where you connect with the characters and feel good things through them? Movies can provide the same comfort and escape too. Try to sleep late and eat right and get out and walk a little every day. The weeks will go by and soon you will get back to your normal routine.
And keep posting. It always helps me when I'm feeling lost and sad.
Hugs,
Daisy
Posted by muffled on December 29, 2006, at 0:46:07
In reply to i miss him, posted by sunnydays on December 28, 2006, at 21:59:54
Sorry SD, time moves slow somtimes.
My T is back Jan 9
When you back to yours?
I kinda dread seeing mine.
But that don't stop me from listening to her message 'how I regard you does not change'lotsa times....
Sigh.
Take care,
Muffled
Posted by Dinah on December 29, 2006, at 9:39:58
In reply to i miss him, posted by sunnydays on December 28, 2006, at 21:59:54
I understand. I miss mine too.
Working twelve hour days has helped a bit, but I've been resorting to unhealthy coping mechanisms like internet shopping as well. :( Plus the risperdal, which I'm quitting today because I see him Sunday, and I'm gaining a ton of weight.
When do you see him next? Are you half way through yet?
((((sunnydays))))
Posted by Frida on December 29, 2006, at 10:11:35
In reply to Re: i miss him » sunnydays, posted by Dinah on December 29, 2006, at 9:39:58
Waiting is so hard - I understand...
my T will be back in February =( and I miss her already.
it's hard - I feel there's no one to talk to apart from her about what is really going on inside me...and it feels so isolating and hard to put things on hold...
and the irrational fears of losing what we've built...of disappearing in her heart.
I understand..Daisy has good suggestions...books and movies are of great help to me too to stop thinking..doing something for my T too..
one hour at a time and before you know it you'll see your T again
Frida
Posted by rubenstein on December 29, 2006, at 11:22:40
In reply to Re: i miss him » Dinah, posted by Frida on December 29, 2006, at 10:11:35
I miss mine too. I know he will be there when I get back to school, but I just get so nervous that he won't and I won't be able to cope. I am aounting the days. I see mine on the 9th too like someone said in the thread above. I am a little nervous about seeing him, sometimes I want to be the "perfect" client and I am certainly a needy client right now, oh well, he told me its okay to be needy. Wish I could get that in my head. I am thinking of you. Hug a bear, it helps me. :)
rubenstein
Posted by LittleGirlLost on December 29, 2006, at 12:17:13
In reply to i miss him, posted by sunnydays on December 28, 2006, at 21:59:54
((((Sunnydays)))) I haven't even had a break, but I know the pain of missing your T. I'm sorry you are hurting, and I hope the time goes quickly for you. Would it help you to call him and hear his voicemail? (Sometimes that helps me, but sometimes make it just hurt more!) Just another idea for you. Hang in there.
lgl
Posted by Poet on December 29, 2006, at 12:56:48
In reply to i miss him, posted by sunnydays on December 28, 2006, at 21:59:54
Hi Sunnydays,
I agree with Daisy, keep posting. It's natural to miss your T, especially when you're having a hard time at home.
Hang in there.
Poet
Posted by sunnydays on December 29, 2006, at 13:47:56
In reply to Re: i miss him » sunnydays, posted by Daisym on December 29, 2006, at 0:31:18
> Of course you do. It is normal to miss people we care about when we don't see them for awhile. The more we care about them, the more we miss them.
**** Yeah. And thinking about that is weird for me, because then I start thinking about how I don't miss my family at all when I'm away at school. But there's reason for that.
> I think we also miss how they make us feel - safe, or warm, or happy or heard. When we are with other people who can do this for us, the missing doesn't hurt as much. When we are with people who don't do this for us, the missing is worse.
**** Yeah, I agree. And feeling any of warm, safe, happy, or heard does not happen in my family. I really miss that feeling of being with my T because he accepts everything about me so completely. It's so nice.
> So - what can you do to help yourself feel a little more secure and a little more taken care of? Your therapist would want you to be taking care of yourself. Can you write to him, journal or send an email? Even if you don't actually send it, sometimes having a conversation with him will really help.
****Yeah, I've been emailing a lot. He was going to check his email once during this week, but he hasn't. He probably forgot or got too busy, but I worry he got hurt or something. It does help some to email, except I start to worry when I think maybe he'll be mad when he sees how much I wrote. But he doesn't check his email unless he's at work, so I guess I'm not really interrupting his vacation.
Can you escape into a really good book, where you connect with the characters and feel good things through them? Movies can provide the same comfort and escape too. Try to sleep late and eat right and get out and walk a little every day. The weeks will go by and soon you will get back to your normal routine.
**** I'm trying to take care of myself as much as possible. It's hard though. I can't seem to get a minute of peace and quiet, though - something is always loud in my house. I'm sad.
> And keep posting. It always helps me when I'm feeling lost and sad.
> Hugs,
> Daisy
***Thanks Daisy. I'll try. But it's hard for the words to come when I feel sort of trapped like this.sunnydays
Posted by sunnydays on December 29, 2006, at 13:49:22
In reply to Re: i miss him » sunnydays, posted by muffled on December 29, 2006, at 0:46:07
Thanks muffled. Sorry you're dreading seeing your T. But I'm sure it will be fine. She's handled so much so well with you. I don't go back until January 17th. Yeah, I called his voicemail once and listened to the message, but it doesn't sound like him.
sunnydays
Posted by sunnydays on December 29, 2006, at 13:50:24
In reply to Re: i miss him » sunnydays, posted by Dinah on December 29, 2006, at 9:39:58
Hi. I'm not sure when I'm half-way through. I don't think I'm quite there yet. I go back January 17th. I'm sorry you're missing your T.
sunnydays
Posted by sunnydays on December 29, 2006, at 13:53:23
In reply to Re: i miss him » Dinah, posted by Frida on December 29, 2006, at 10:11:35
> Waiting is so hard - I understand...
>
> my T will be back in February =( and I miss her already.**** Oh, I'm sorry. That does seem like a long time. Of course you miss her.
> it's hard - I feel there's no one to talk to apart from her about what is really going on inside me...and it feels so isolating and hard to put things on hold...**** Yeah, I know what you mean. There's no one in real life I would really want to burden with these feelings, is how I think about it. But it makes it harder when my T is gone.
>
> and the irrational fears of losing what we've built...of disappearing in her heart.**** Exactly. Disappearing in his heart would be the worst thing imaginable. I get so scared the connection won't be there when I go back.
>
> I understand..Daisy has good suggestions...books and movies are of great help to me too to stop thinking..doing something for my T too..*** Yeah, I'm trying.
>
> one hour at a time and before you know it you'll see your T again
>
> Frida
>
****Thanks for your caring. I'm sorry you're missing your T too.sunnydays
Posted by sunnydays on December 29, 2006, at 13:54:19
In reply to Re: i miss him, posted by rubenstein on December 29, 2006, at 11:22:40
Thanks. Yeah, I'm hugging my stuffed animals and petting my cat a lot. I'm sorry you're missing your T too.
sunnydays
Posted by sunnydays on December 29, 2006, at 13:55:17
In reply to Re: i miss him » sunnydays, posted by LittleGirlLost on December 29, 2006, at 12:17:13
Thanks, lgl. Yeah, I called his voicemail just to listen to it, and it helped a little, but it doesn't sound as caring as he always sounds.
sunnydays
Posted by sunnydays on December 29, 2006, at 13:55:43
In reply to Re: i miss him » sunnydays, posted by Poet on December 29, 2006, at 12:56:48
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