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Posted by muffled on January 23, 2007, at 22:31:53
My T said today that next week we had to start to talk bout what I am gonna do when she is away for a long time(6 wks?, can't remember) in a coupla months(can't remeber, she mentioned it a long time ago). Mebbe only a month?
I feel like a basket case cuz she organizing me so far ahead and that she even feels the NEED to organize me. I am doing WAY, WAY better.
But its very responsible of her I guess.
Good to know she on top of things.....
Sh*t anyways eh?
Muffled
Posted by one woman cine on January 24, 2007, at 7:50:28
In reply to UGH T away for long time in awhile, posted by muffled on January 23, 2007, at 22:31:53
"I feel like a basket case cuz she organizing me so far ahead and that she even feels the NEED to organize me. I am doing WAY, WAY better."
Nah, I don't think she thinks that you are a basket case. If a therpaist is going to be away awhile - that means they are pretty decent in trying to prepare for the separation. That's a good thing, not a bad thing. Long separations are hard when your working on issues.
Have you come up with any ideas on what to do while she's away?
Posted by mair on January 24, 2007, at 12:59:47
In reply to UGH T away for long time in awhile, posted by muffled on January 23, 2007, at 22:31:53
I know what you mean, but I think it's just the nature of your therapy, more than any perception that you're a basket case.
My first T went away for about 2 months a couple of months after I had started to see him. I really didn't want to see anyone else, but finally acquiesced to seeing his partner while he was gone. It was probably better that I did. It wasn't like we could accomplish much, but I think it helped keeping to a schedule and it kept me from obsessing about what I was missing.
mair
Posted by LadyBug on January 24, 2007, at 14:53:26
In reply to UGH T away for long time in awhile, posted by muffled on January 23, 2007, at 22:31:53
That's always hard for me to have my T gone! I guess because I have abandonment issues. Funny thing she just told me today that she'd be gone for 3 weeks in July. She's never been gone for more than 10 days so I hope I'm doing ok then so I can tolerate her going. It makes me sad for you cuz I know how it feels. It takes something out of us even preparing for it. I know I will have to come up with some good things to help me while she's gone. And I hope you can do the same.
We always have camp comfort! When is it that your T leaves?
LadyBug
Posted by Frida on January 24, 2007, at 15:27:15
In reply to Re: UGH T away for long time in awhile » muffled, posted by mair on January 24, 2007, at 12:59:47
Hi..
it's always hard when our T leaves..mine is away right now, last time I saw her was Dec 28th. I am counting the days till she is back.
It really is hard...
but it's good that you can talk about it with her. One thing that helps me is to have something tangible, something to feel connected. I always ask her for a book, she has told me the book she was reading at the moment or the book she was planning to read, so just having a book I know she's reading helps me feel connected.
but it gets hard, I have no one else I can tell her the "dark stuff" so I isolate myself.
I try to distract myself, movies help.
Fortunately somehow a month passes even if it seems like a long time...You'll be fine...I hope you can talk to your T and find ways to feel connected during that time.
but I understand how hard it is.
Frida
Posted by littleone on January 24, 2007, at 20:23:26
In reply to UGH T away for long time in awhile, posted by muffled on January 23, 2007, at 22:31:53
> I feel like a basket case cuz she organizing me so far ahead and that she even feels the NEED to organize me. I am doing WAY, WAY better.
You are definately not a basket case. I'm already stressing out that my T is going away for Easter.
T's being away *are* very stressful for us and it makes sense to plan it out well in advance. Plus, I find that when it's just left up to me, I put it into a forgetting box until the day before he goes and then there's trouble. Planning it out in advance is a much better way to go. Gives you both time to think about what sort of things can be done to help you through it. I hope you both come up with some good coping strategies. I'd love to hear what you guys come up with.
Sorry, but did you mean that she will be gone for 6 weeks, or is it 6 weeks until she goes?
> But its very responsible of her I guess.
> Good to know she on top of things.....She's a good T.
> Sh*t anyways eh?
You can say that again.
Posted by muffled on January 25, 2007, at 0:13:34
In reply to Re: UGH T away for long time in awhile » muffled, posted by littleone on January 24, 2007, at 20:23:26
Thanks you guys. I find out more next Tues.
I keep pushing it from my mind.
I just feel so darn silly.
Anyhow, I will keep ya posted.
I suspect I gonna start a DOOZY of a camp comfort thread then!!!
Muffled
Posted by Llurpsie_Noodle on January 25, 2007, at 16:41:27
In reply to Re: UGH T away for long time in awhile, posted by muffled on January 25, 2007, at 0:13:34
did you know that the thread-counts on the sheets of the poster beds at Camp comfort are a minimum of 800?
I think your T cares a lot for you. Maybe she wants to make sure to mention it at several sessions just in case on of your inside people is off on vacation during a session. You know, touch bases with the whole crew.
She'll be coming back hoping to find you even better than when she left you, and prepared to find you worse than when she left you. The most IMPORTANT thing though, is that she WILL be coming back, and wants to make sure that you will be too.
I think your T has a really big heart. I hope you'll be able to remember something about her that will help you through times when you don't have weekly support. It's kind of like faith, in a way. You DO have faith in her, and she has faith in you too. Just because you have faith, though, doesn't mean that you can't be prepared, and prepare yourself for the break.
Also, maybe she really cares for you, and wants to quell her own insecurities that when she comes back she'll have none of her favorite clients who visit her every week (or 10 times a week or whatever your habit is).
(t)
my t is very conscious about how things (even small things) might affect my experience with and relationship with her.
that's what good T's do. they try to be sensitive and sensible.
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my kind advice to you- get prepared. prepare for the worst. hope for the best.
Who is your emergency back-up support? (sometimes you have crises and I don't want you to hurt).
Who will you see every week just to "check-in" and say "hi, my name is muffled, I'm 15 years old and I'm angry inside, and oh yeah, did I mention that I enjoy walks on the beach and that seroquel gives me the munchies?"
As soon as you know the answers to these questions (on next Tues) then you WONT have to worry anymore (yay!!!!)
-Ll
Posted by muffled on January 28, 2007, at 22:53:59
In reply to Re: UGH T away for long time in awhile » muffled, posted by Llurpsie_Noodle on January 25, 2007, at 16:41:27
> did you know that the thread-counts on the sheets of the poster beds at Camp comfort are a minimum of 800?
WHOAH.
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> I think your T cares a lot for you. Maybe she wants to make sure to mention it at several sessions just in case on of your inside people is off on vacation during a session. You know, touch bases with the whole crew.*maybe, but I don't think she like my people :(
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> She'll be coming back hoping to find you even better than when she left you, and prepared to find you worse than when she left you. The most IMPORTANT thing though, is that she WILL be coming back, and wants to make sure that you will be too.*maybe, gonna talk to her tomorrow
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> I think your T has a really big heart. I hope you'll be able to remember something about her that will help you through times when you don't have weekly support. It's kind of like faith, in a way. You DO have faith in her, and she has faith in you too. Just because you have faith, though, doesn't mean that you can't be prepared, and prepare yourself for the break.*yeah, OK. This good.
Like one time or mebbe another SHE phoned ME, and i think its cuz she WANTED to, not cuz she HAD to, though there was reasons always.
And she found me when I hid in the hall, and didn't get weirded.
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> Also, maybe she really cares for you, and wants to quell her own insecurities that when she comes back she'll have none of her favorite clients who visit her every week (or 10 times a week or whatever your habit is).*1x/wk
> my t is very conscious about how things (even small things) might affect my experience with and relationship with her.
> that's what good T's do. they try to be sensitive and sensible.*ya mines doing better that way
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> *********
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> my kind advice to you- get prepared. prepare for the worst. hope for the best.*everything will be fine. I tooken care of myself for a long time, even small. I don't NEED nobody.
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> Who is your emergency back-up support? (sometimes you have crises and I don't want you to hurt).*I been trained , I SO WAY safer now.
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> Who will you see every week just to "check-in" and say "hi, my name is muffled, I'm 15 years old and I'm angry inside, and oh yeah, did I mention that I enjoy walks on the beach and that seroquel gives me the munchies?"*LL you make me smile :)
I dunno, I talk to t tomorrow
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> As soon as you know the answers to these questions (on next Tues) then you WONT have to worry anymore (yay!!!!)* I not worried. I just nothing at all. S'ok.
Take care my friend.
Muffled
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