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Posted by widget on February 3, 2007, at 23:03:30
I have been wondering if anyone can give me some advice about loving two men at the same time. I love my husband dearly and could not live without him and at the same time I love my psychiatrist, too. I am at the point where I think I must simply accept that this is true. I love two men; the two men in my life. Has anyone else had this happen and any comments?
Posted by Dis Traught on February 4, 2007, at 3:24:08
In reply to love two men at the same time, posted by widget on February 3, 2007, at 23:03:30
Oh, yes. I didn't know if I was in heaven or hell. But I think that whatever works for you is OK.
There's a wonderful short story about loving two men written by a therapist. Her name is Amy Bloom, the book is titled Come to Me , and the story is titled is "Love is Not a Pie". Not only is she a wonderful writer, but she also manages to piece together the complexities of human relationships in her stories.Penny
Posted by annierose on February 4, 2007, at 7:32:19
In reply to love two men at the same time, posted by widget on February 3, 2007, at 23:03:30
Your post struck me. Of course you can love more than one person. Do you have children? I have two plus a husband. And siblings, and friends, etc. Love is not limited in numbers, it expands and grows and multiplies.
I imagine you love different qualities in each man. And the love you feel for your psychiatrist is a different type of love all together. It's hard because we only get to see one side of our therapists, the side that is kind, gentle and understanding. I love my therapist too but not in a romantic sense.
I think it's healthy to love your psychiatrist as long as neither acts on the sexual feelings.
Posted by widget on February 5, 2007, at 12:13:42
In reply to Re: love two men at the same time » widget, posted by annierose on February 4, 2007, at 7:32:19
Thanks to both of you for the feedback and support. I think I just need to accept that I do love my psychiatrist but cannot act upon it. This seems tragic but it certainly does happen. I think I will trust my feelings which is really important for me to do. I only wish the psychiatrist could accept these feelings in me. Although, he told me it wasn't necessary for us to agree on this and it doesn't have to be a struggle for me. So, acceptance is the answer I assume.
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