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Posted by sunnydays on May 8, 2007, at 20:19:11
I feel pathetic. I want to talk to my T all the time and I'm seeing him tomorrow, but I still miss him. I was doing so good and I feel like I'm slipping into needy clingy territory again. I just wish I could trust that he'll be there. I wish I could feel his calming presence all the time. Because I can't seem to trust that it's always going to be there. I like him so much, and I just wish I could live with him. I'd be really good and he wouldn't have to yell at me, and I just miss him. God, I am so pathetic!
sunnydays
Posted by susan47 on May 8, 2007, at 21:40:48
In reply to pathetic, posted by sunnydays on May 8, 2007, at 20:19:11
You Are NOT pathetic, do you hear me? You're feeling what's totally normal and natural and Expected, do you hear? This is normal and wonderful and you're allowed to feel like that. You can hopefully find enough trust in him, or if not, in Someone Just Like Him, just as Awesome to you, so that you can work this out to where you can tell him how you feel and you KNOW he absolutely won't reject you in any way. If you don't think you can find that trust then start Searching right NOW to find someone you could tell that to. You're awesome, too, for posting about this and being that brave, (((sunnydays)))
Posted by sunnydays on May 8, 2007, at 21:45:20
In reply to No, Absolutely Not » sunnydays, posted by susan47 on May 8, 2007, at 21:40:48
See, I've told him I love him. And he didn't reject me. He told me he has loving feelings for me to (but like a daughter, not sexual, all that stuff - which is good, because I'd freak if it were sexual). I trust he won't reject me no matter what I tell him, I just can't seem to make myself tell him all the time. There's something tied up in being so personal. I have gigantic trust issues with everyone and anyone, so it's normal it's playing out with my T too, I guess. I'm sure we'll talk about this some tomorrow. It doesn't help this anxious waiting feeling though, and the feeling like I want him to be there all the time. I know it can't happen. But I have definitely told him all of this, and he hasn't rejected me yet. It's just the nasty problem of trust.
sunnydays
Posted by gazo on May 8, 2007, at 23:32:54
In reply to Re: No, Absolutely Not » susan47, posted by sunnydays on May 8, 2007, at 21:45:20
you know sunny.. i have been wanting a voicemail recording from my t... maybe yours would do one for you to play to comfort yourself
Posted by muffled on May 8, 2007, at 23:38:07
In reply to pathetic, posted by sunnydays on May 8, 2007, at 20:19:11
Oh MAN SD you so NOT pathetic....I have had thots of sleeping under my T's back porch...just for the night, so I could be closer and safer(night are always the worst). I have big issues round safety..
Only reason I HAVEN'T slept under her porch is that I dunno where she lives!!!
I DID in the early days of T, once sleep in my car outside her office. In the am I got up, went to bathroom in the blg, washed up, and went to T! I was so desparate I even wanted to find safety being near her office! So I dunno....I pretty pathetic...LOL! But I am OK w/that!
I STILL struggle w/clingyness at times....
But I have more times where I don't, so thats a good thing.
Take care SD.
Muffled
Posted by susan47 on May 10, 2007, at 0:12:20
In reply to Re: pathetic » sunnydays, posted by muffled on May 8, 2007, at 23:38:07
It's not pathetic at all, and I know how uncomfortable and strung-out it feels, it did to me anyway. It was horrible. We're brave.
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