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Posted by peddidle on May 21, 2007, at 17:32:52
I emailed my T two weeks ago about setting up a time for the phone in. I didn't hear back from her, but I got all my grades by Wednesday last week, so I had an excuse to email her again. She emailed back saying she was going away for the weekend, but that she'd email me when she got back to the office on Monday (today) to set up a time.
Well, it's Monday, and I haven't heard from her. It's not unlike her to forget to email me, but I would have thought this was one time when she would remember. If she was back and just didn't get into the office today for some reason, I still think she would have emailed me. I guess it's possible that she's not back yet...
I should probably wait until at least tomorrow before I email her again, right? I don't want to be annoying, and I think she'll remember at some point...
It's times like this when I start to feel like maybe I'm OK, and I don't need to talk to her over the summer-- but not in a good way, if that makes any sense.
What do I do?
Posted by frida on May 22, 2007, at 0:29:58
In reply to Haven't heard from T..., posted by peddidle on May 21, 2007, at 17:32:52
Hi..
knowing me, I think I'd probably email her again tomorrow if she hasn't responded by then. I would say that you were wondering if she was back or still away..and asking her to contact you when she can.
maybe she contacts you tomorrow?
I would email her again or maybe leave a message on the phone if that's an option?
Hope you hear from her soon, i know how hard it can be to wait..
Frida
Posted by Honore on May 22, 2007, at 9:56:09
In reply to Haven't heard from T..., posted by peddidle on May 21, 2007, at 17:32:52
I'd definitely email again, today, if you're concerned about why you haven't heard.
When's your next appointment?
Honore
Posted by muffled on May 22, 2007, at 10:18:05
In reply to Haven't heard from T..., posted by peddidle on May 21, 2007, at 17:32:52
sh*t anyways, hope you get a call today???
Waiting sucks alright.
Posted by peddidle on May 22, 2007, at 12:24:11
In reply to Re: Haven't heard from T... » peddidle, posted by muffled on May 22, 2007, at 10:18:05
Thanks for your responses! I still haven't heard from her... I can't really leave a message unless I call after 5ish. If I call before then, someone will answer. Maybe I'll email her today, I just don't want to seem clingy or nagging.
To answer Honore's question, I don't see her again until school starts again in September, which is why she wanted to have the weekly phone-in over the summer.
This isn't the first time she's forgotten to email me, but it didn't really matter the other times, because I would see her later in the week anyway. I'm not mad at her, it's just annoying.
Posted by muffled on May 22, 2007, at 13:52:09
In reply to no email today, posted by peddidle on May 22, 2007, at 12:24:11
No call yet......
Posted by rubenstein on May 22, 2007, at 16:25:07
In reply to Haven't heard from T..., posted by peddidle on May 21, 2007, at 17:32:52
I hate waiting for e-mails. Not knowing if the person has read them, why they haven't responded. It is really a cause of frustration for me. I am in school as well and it is hard to be away from my therapist. I go back to see him about every 10 days but just being away is difficult. Anyway, just wanted you to know that I was thinking of you.
rachel
Posted by peddidle on May 23, 2007, at 10:59:53
In reply to Haven't heard from T..., posted by peddidle on May 21, 2007, at 17:32:52
Is she waiting to see if I'll email her? No, I know that's not it. But I just can't believe she wouldn't have remembered by now. I don't know. Do you think she'll actually be happy if I email/remind her?
Posted by peddidle on May 23, 2007, at 11:39:44
In reply to Wednesday, and still nothing, posted by peddidle on May 23, 2007, at 10:59:53
Ok, I know I'm being annoying about this, but I have another question. I talked about an insight I had regarding my therapy in an earlier thread (see: going backwards). I sent my T an email about something else, but I also mentioned that I had realized something that I wanted to share with her. I wrote an email about it at the time (two weeks ago), but I haven't sent it yet. It's the kind of thing I really want to tell her in person, or over the phone, but I know I'd never actually do it. So, I decided that I would tell her during the phone call that I was sending it, and ask her to read it while we're on the phone. Well, since I haven't heard from her about setting up a time, would it be weird to send her an email saying that I'm going to send that email, but that I don't want her to read it until we're on the phone?
I know this is my usual passive-aggressive way of dealing with stuff, but it's easier than just sending her an email saying "Hey! Did you forget about me or something?"
Posted by rubenstein on May 24, 2007, at 11:16:48
In reply to Should I send this email?, posted by peddidle on May 23, 2007, at 11:39:44
I think you should send it, it would really ease your worries and if she did forget then it would remind her to e-mail you and you would feel alot better. Go for it!
rachel
Posted by peddidle on May 24, 2007, at 11:58:29
In reply to Re: Should I send this email?, posted by rubenstein on May 24, 2007, at 11:16:48
Thanks for your support! I sent the email. I don't know why this is freaking me out so much...
Basically, I told her that I have this email sitting on my computer, and that I would send it if she agreed not to read it just yet.
Wow, I'm so weird.
I know she won't open it, but I'll wait to send it until I hear back from her.
You know what the worst part about this situation is? It means she hasn't been thinking about me at all. I mean, I can't imagine she's thought about me, but then not remembered to email me.
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