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Posted by healing928 on July 30, 2008, at 15:15:54
Do you ever feel like your t is your conscience? Lately, if I feel like doing something self destructive or impulisve, I think would would he say or think about me doing this?
Posted by no_rose_garden on July 30, 2008, at 15:25:19
In reply to Ever feel like you t is your conscience?, posted by healing928 on July 30, 2008, at 15:15:54
I used to do things that were good for me or do the homework only because I would imagine him being proud of me if he was there or if I would tell him. I would play it all out in my head of him being really happy for me.
I think maybe, at least for me, it helped that there was somebody who actually seemed to care (or at least i pretended).
Now that i don't feel like he cares any more, it's easier not to do homework and easier to do things i shouldn't.
...just a thought
Posted by Cal on July 31, 2008, at 10:31:06
In reply to Ever feel like you t is your conscience?, posted by healing928 on July 30, 2008, at 15:15:54
> Do you ever feel like your t is your conscience? Lately, if I feel like doing something self destructive or impulisve, I think would would he say or think about me doing this?
>
>Oh yes this happens more and more. Its part of the internalisation process of the good enought mother, and we will only internalise that which is already a part of our thinking and moral code.
Posted by Daisym on July 31, 2008, at 14:45:46
In reply to Ever feel like you t is your conscience?, posted by healing928 on July 30, 2008, at 15:15:54
Yes. And he knows it. This is particular to suicidal thoughts.
When I ask, "will you be here Monday?" he turns it back on me, "Yes, will you?" When I make him promise, he makes me promise too. And while he always says that he wishes there were other reasons to want to live (there are), for now, he'll take being the anchor. I don't ever want to hurt him and he told me once how devasting it is to lose a patient.
I think it is totally OK for your therapist to assume this role for you as you grow your own core that will take over this role. Self-psychology is sort of premised on this.
Have you told your therapist this? Sounds important...
Posted by healing928 on July 31, 2008, at 15:00:33
In reply to Re: Trigger, maybe, posted by Daisym on July 31, 2008, at 14:45:46
Not yet. I fired him, and now going back to see him. I have attachment issues with him and thoughtnot having him in my life would be better. Realized that wasn't working, and needed his help on sorting out the attachment issues and just need him to be my t again.
Posted by Amanda29 on August 9, 2008, at 21:06:25
In reply to Ever feel like you t is your conscience?, posted by healing928 on July 30, 2008, at 15:15:54
I went through this weekend where I had gone out of town and for whatever reason, I had "taken" my therapist with me...in my mind. His voice stayed in my head for the entire weekend and it was great because if I was about to get in an arguement or do something that I wasnt supposed to be doing...I could hear him talking to me...it was really cool. If I needed to clear my mind I would go for a walk on the beach and it was like I could hear him talking to me in my mind...it was weird.
I came back home and talked to him about it and I told him I felt guilty having him in my mind and he said it was OK..that it was a good thing that I could use that as my help when he wasnt actually there to listen to me. He said something to the effect of when you care about someone deeply you carry them in your heart or mind and it just so happens that I have placed him there and he is honored to be there.That made me feel good. :)
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