![[dr. bob]](/dr-bob-sm.gif)
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.orgShown: posts 1 to 8 of 8. This is the beginning of the thread.
Posted by lemonaide on August 30, 2008, at 13:29:28
I am not going to my grandson's 3rd birthday tomorrow. He won't know since we don't see him as much and well I just can't take my husband's ex wife and that step daughter from hell either. Plus there is this crazy aunt of my step daughter, (husbands ex wife's sister) that drives me crazy.
She knows I am studying for psychology and well she is a LMSW, and thinks she knows everything. Well also she believes she can speak in toungues and that just freaks me out, she did it around baby Lia when she was alive. She said that Lia was talking to her, etc.
So, I am going to take care of myself and stay home. I need the time along anyway and I don't need anymore stress. I was going to ask my T what he thinks, but decided to make the decision myself. I have had enough to deal with this week, so does this make me a bad grandma? It isn't like he knows who I am yet, so I hope it will be okay.
Posted by rskontos on August 30, 2008, at 13:56:58
In reply to I know this sound like I am a mean person but, posted by lemonaide on August 30, 2008, at 13:29:28
No it doesn't make you a mean person. You do what you need to do for you.
I did not go to my niece's wedding for some extenuating circumstances because I just couldn't deal with it. My t agreed.
You keep yourself safe.
rsk
Posted by Phillipa on August 30, 2008, at 23:39:51
In reply to Re: I know this sound like I am a mean person but » lemonaide, posted by rskontos on August 30, 2008, at 13:56:58
No you're not mean didn't go to a neighbohood thing last night as the people drive me nuts hence on babble all the time. No take care of you. Love Phillipa
Posted by WaterSapphire on August 31, 2008, at 1:19:01
In reply to I know this sound like I am a mean person but, posted by lemonaide on August 30, 2008, at 13:29:28
Do not feel bad. In such a situation, you would end up feeling worse going. Perhaps you could make arrangements some other time somehow to see him. It sounds like there are too many people there that would make this a place you do not belong at. When certain, several family members bad mouthed my husband and I , I have since withdrawn from family get togethers on a larger scale. They all judge me for my mental illness and have no idea really what is going on. They did not bother to be there for me, when I really needed them when things were so bad at home. This one time will not hurt your grandson. If you want to be a bigger part of his life, that is something you will have to figure out how to do without putting yourself in such an uncomfortable situation. Self-preservation is very important.
Have a good Sunday
Chelle
Posted by susan47 on August 31, 2008, at 14:46:43
In reply to I know this sound like I am a mean person but, posted by lemonaide on August 30, 2008, at 13:29:28
> I am not going to my grandson's 3rd birthday tomorrow. He won't know since we don't see him as much and well I just can't take my husband's ex wife and that step daughter from hell either. Plus there is this crazy aunt of my step daughter, (husbands ex wife's sister) that drives me crazy.
> She knows I am studying for psychology and well she is a LMSW, and thinks she knows everything. Well also she believes she can speak in toungues and that just freaks me out, she did it around baby Lia when she was alive. She said that Lia was talking to her, etc.
> So, I am going to take care of myself and stay home. I need the time along anyway and I don't need anymore stress. I was going to ask my T what he thinks, but decided to make the decision myself. I have had enough to deal with this week, so does this make me a bad grandma? It isn't like he knows who I am yet, so I hope it will be okay.Careful about categorizing all those people so much, you're soundy really judgmental and I'm sure you wouldn't want that. Remember how you look at them is what you invite back, so one teensy step at a time if you can't go, you can always make up for it in another way with your grandson maybe a few days hence? Some special time just the two of you, and then you won't have to deal with any adults you don't want to see. I totally understand how it is to feel stressed by people you don't like very much.
Posted by lemonaide on August 31, 2008, at 15:07:40
In reply to Re: I know this sound like I am a mean person but » lemonaide, posted by susan47 on August 31, 2008, at 14:46:43
You are right Susan, I reread my post, and I do sound judgmental. That is why T's shouldn't do therapy with family, right? lol
Posted by susan47 on August 31, 2008, at 15:12:31
In reply to Re: I know this sound like I am a mean person but, posted by lemonaide on August 31, 2008, at 15:07:40
I suspect you're right, lol.
But do let your love for your grandson show, don't let all those difficult personalities stop you from enjoying your life. This is YOUR LIFE, not theirs.
Posted by lemonaide on August 31, 2008, at 16:35:00
In reply to Re: I know this sound like I am a mean person but » lemonaide, posted by susan47 on August 31, 2008, at 15:12:31
Thanks Susan, I try to enjoy him as much as I can.
This is the end of the thread.
Psycho-Babble Psychology | Extras | FAQ
Dr. Bob is Robert Hsiung, MD,
bob@dr-bob.org
Script revised: February 4, 2008
URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/cgi-bin/pb/mget.pl
Copyright 2006-17 Robert Hsiung.
Owned and operated by Dr. Bob LLC and not the University of Chicago.