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Posted by lemonaide on September 3, 2008, at 20:57:50
Well before I saw him, I asked his secretary if she has noticed anything, and she said she did. So at least I know I am not imagining it.
Well when I walked in I noticed him and he had a bleeding finger. I guess he closed it inside his desk drawer before I walked in. I told him he better gets some ice so he left and cleaned it up. But in the meantime one of my old professors come walking by and see's me in his office waiting. I know he has seen be in there before, but I still have classes to take from this guy, it feels a little uncomfortable and reveling to me. But there isn't anything I can do about that now.
So I was a little reluctant to talk about my T's forgetfulness after he went into a small rant about how clumsy he is. But I brought it up and he said he didn't feel his memory was any worse than before. But then he tells me he talks about his with his friend who is a neuro psychologist before his check up appointment with his neurologist. They told him it was nothing to worry about.
Well now I am wondering what he thinks. He said that he knows I am attuned into things more than most people but no other client has said anything. There must have been so worry for him to ask his friend about this. He said he was okay that I asked, but i hope I didn't worry him now.
My session was a tell all. I told him how irresponsible I am being , like a teenager. I am no longer depressed but I still don't feel like doing my household responsibilities, I just want to read all day and stay up late. He thinks it is just a phase I am going through. I was never allowed to be carefree as a kid or teen, so I am just doing it because I can right now. He says I need to work on the guilt about it.
Posted by Dinah on September 3, 2008, at 21:22:36
In reply to I told my T, posted by lemonaide on September 3, 2008, at 20:57:50
Maybe he's noticed, but he's in denial that anyone else has? Has convinced himself that it doesn't hurt anyone? That he is as competent as ever?
My therapist recently did something similar.
I guess you have to consider if it's permanent or temporary, how destructive it is to your therapy, and whether it's something you're willing to live with to get the good things you get from your therapist.
I don't know the proper answer to that. It's so bad for me when my therapist is not doing well that I'm not sure it's wise for me to stay. But if I didn't absorb him quite so much it might only be an annoyance.
If it's any help, my therapist has always had a rotten memory, and I've learned to work a little background into my conversations to let both of us maintain the illusion that he remembers.
Posted by lemonaide on September 3, 2008, at 21:33:57
In reply to Re: I told my T, posted by Dinah on September 3, 2008, at 21:22:36
Hi Dinah,
I think it is probably temporary, my daughter had some memory issues for a few months after she had a simular heart surgury. But if it isn't, I am still willing to work with him. I don't take it personally that he forgets, and for me that is big. He works with my issues and I work with his. Maybe it is about acceptance, maybe I am growing?
It only mildly bothered me when he has forgotten, but I realized he didn't intentionally do that, when he is with me in session, he is with me, he is there in the moment.
So maybe I will have to adjust somewhat like you. Maybe a sentence or two of background when I bring up the old stuff. He also has ADD too, but I haven't noticed at all. But when it comes down to it his bad is way better than the last T's bad, and his good is very good, so that is good enough for me. So I am going to go with the flow and hope I can still accomplish stuff in therapy.
Posted by Dinah on September 3, 2008, at 21:37:32
In reply to Re: I told my T » Dinah, posted by lemonaide on September 3, 2008, at 21:33:57
That sounds like an important realization.
Posted by Phillipa on September 5, 2008, at 16:17:17
In reply to Re: I told my T » Dinah, posted by lemonaide on September 3, 2008, at 21:33:57
Lemonaide your Daughter had heart surgery. Wow you have been through so much. Love Phillipa
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