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Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 1, 2008, at 19:04:57
I having a even a rougher time with things, over the weekend there was this burglar who broke in to our neighbors house, used my wooden edging to break in their windows. So even though it wasn't my house they broke into, they were in my yard next to my house. This has triggered back memories of the times when we had our house broken into. One time was the day after Xmas,and I was home alone with my kids. I suffered PTSD then, even though I didn't know it was called that. All this today while I am fighting a migraine too.
Then also today I watched my kids compete in this triathlon, and it just freaked me out to see my kids in the deep end of the pool. I don't know how to swim because I have an intense fear of deep water. When I was 2 or 3 my mom threw me in the lake, thinking I would learn to swim like she was taught. Well I didn't and went under 2 times before my dad rescued me. I know i took in water and almost died, they got me breathing again somehow. I never knew about this until my early teens and overhearing them one night when they thought I was asleep. Plus the same night I found out I was only conceived to prevent my dad from going to Nam.
Well I emailed my T about all of this, and she emailed me right back. She was just so gentle telling me to use some of the techniques she taught me to calm myself and to remember I am an adult. She also said I am having normal reactions to abnormal events. But she also thinks my PTSD is bubbling up.
I remember one time with my old man T, I called him when I was upset over some nightmares I was having, I just wanted some reassurance that I was okay. Well he thought I was having a panic attach and he purposely didn't call me back till the next day to prove I can handle it myself. He maybe be a long time veteran expert in panic attacks but to me he let me down when I needed him.
But with my lady T, she is okay with email contact to help some of us get through the week. It is like she understands the need for contact when things are difficult. I have my session tomorrow and she said it sounds like it will be a hard working session. We are doing hard work, it scares me, but I feel like I can count on my T. That feels good to feel.
Posted by no_rose_garden on December 1, 2008, at 22:50:02
In reply to PTSD , *child abuse triggers**, my T is awesome, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 1, 2008, at 19:04:57
Wow...that sounds really great 4S. Especially with the short time you've been seeing her. I'm so glad you found her and hope things continue to go so well!
I can only imaging how scary it was for you, though.
(((you)))
Posted by Recently on December 1, 2008, at 23:25:15
In reply to PTSD , *child abuse triggers**, my T is awesome, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 1, 2008, at 19:04:57
I'm sorry to hear you are going through a rough time. But I am glad to hear that your therapist is being kind and supportive of you. Seems like a keeper!
Posted by Phillipa on December 2, 2008, at 12:58:28
In reply to Re: PTSD , *child abuse triggers**, my T is awesome, posted by Recently on December 1, 2008, at 23:25:15
Great that you now have a T who listens and supports and understands. hang in there. Love Phillipa slugger
Posted by rskontos on December 2, 2008, at 16:38:44
In reply to PTSD , *child abuse triggers**, my T is awesome, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 1, 2008, at 19:04:57
SoSlided,
I explained in a previous post to your earlier thread, I just can't call you slug......, so SoSlided it is, I really think a female t is just want you needed. I am so glad this one is seeming to work out. If you can work through all this crap I think she is the one that can see you through it.
it will get better I think in the end. The light is at the end of this long tunnel.
rsk
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 2, 2008, at 23:27:49
In reply to Re: PTSD , *child abuse triggers**, my T is awesome, posted by Phillipa on December 2, 2008, at 12:58:28
LOL PHillipa, I kinda like the name slugger! But you can me anything I don't care. My T is really good and I am wishing you to find someone to help you, it is so worth it. You seem so depressed lately, and I wish you could feel better, you deserve it.
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 2, 2008, at 23:29:51
In reply to Re: PTSD , *child abuse triggers**, my T is awesome, posted by no_rose_garden on December 1, 2008, at 22:50:02
Thanks Rose,
I do feel so fortunate to have her. It is a very scary process, but I feel I am already making some progress with her. Thanks for all your support! I hope your therapy is going well, did you have your 2nd visit yet?
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 2, 2008, at 23:31:42
In reply to Re: PTSD , *child abuse triggers**, my T is awesome, posted by Recently on December 1, 2008, at 23:25:15
Thanks Recently,
She is a keeper I think! Thanks for responding and your support.
> I'm sorry to hear you are going through a rough time. But I am glad to hear that your therapist is being kind and supportive of you. Seems like a keeper!
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 2, 2008, at 23:37:14
In reply to Re: PTSD , *child abuse triggers**, my T is aweso » SlugSlimersSoSlided, posted by rskontos on December 2, 2008, at 16:38:44
Thanks Rk,
You can call me anything you like, it is okay. Just because I feel like a slug, doesn't mean you have to agree. lol
I am not sure if the female thing is as significant as I once thought. She is truly amazing at what she does, like an angle or something. ;-) But for some reason I am able to tell her things I have told NOBODY ever, even on Babble. I told her that today and she said she treasures the gift I have given her plus she understand how vulnerable I must feel for confiding. I believe I can trust her, that she won't use it against me to hurt me.
> SoSlided,
>
> I explained in a previous post to your earlier thread, I just can't call you slug......, so SoSlided it is, I really think a female t is just want you needed. I am so glad this one is seeming to work out. If you can work through all this crap I think she is the one that can see you through it.
>
> it will get better I think in the end. The light is at the end of this long tunnel.
>
> rsk
Posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 3, 2008, at 0:23:39
In reply to Re: PTSD , *child abuse triggers**, my T is aweso » rskontos, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 2, 2008, at 23:37:14
I told her about when I was 16-18, that I paid for my own food, toiletries, etc. My mom took all the dishes and pots and pan out of the house when my dad added a video rental to his business. They ate the shop, and if we wanted a meal (dinner at 3pm) I had to go there. Well I was in after school events and work, so I fended for myself and my brother, and I also bought my own lunches at school.(Plus I really didn't want to be around them anyway). The only thing at home was beer and popcorn. It wasn't because we were poor either, we were middle class.
I guess I just did what I had to, even now I wasn't thinking it was that bad, it seemed like the physical abuse was so much more, or at least I thought it was.
Well my T asked me what I would think if a mother did that to MY kids. um, wow! Okay, now I can see how bad it really was, by putting my kids into the situation I lived in. She said it was amazing that I survived and thrived the way I did.
This may be a reason I am overweight too. I was always hungry as a child, but now, I have plenty of food available. So am I overeating because I need to be safe? I am not sure, but it has me thinking. I do feel so much comfort in having a full pantry and fridge. She told me it was very devastating the neglect I suffered and she is sure it has effected me, i just don't see it yet.We talked about so much more, I don't have the energy to write about right now. But something very enduring happened at my session today, I will write more later about it.
Posted by Phillipa on December 3, 2008, at 19:19:11
In reply to My session today has me thinking again, posted by SlugSlimersSoSlided on December 3, 2008, at 0:23:39
Slugger hummm as Mother always sick or in hospital never had a family meal ate the cafeteria food at school and then at the hospital if I walked there. House always empty???? Love Phillipa
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