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Posted by sunnydays on April 20, 2009, at 18:48:54
I don't know what's wrong with me tonight - I am so sad and it keeps getting worse. I'm trying to do things to help, but it just seems to be getting worse and worse. I don't understand why this mood thing happens with me. I get so down sometimes and it's for such a short period of time. I know it'll go away, but it sucks right now.
:( :( :(
sunnydays
Posted by rskontos on April 20, 2009, at 19:10:38
In reply to sad, posted by sunnydays on April 20, 2009, at 18:48:54
SunnyD,
I am sorry. I do know the feeling. Today my p-doc said this winter has been particularly hard on people. Maybe that is part of it.
Spring and summer do seem to be easier to be happy in.I hope you feel better:)
rsk
Posted by Annierose on April 20, 2009, at 19:42:39
In reply to sad, posted by sunnydays on April 20, 2009, at 18:48:54
Maybe you talked about this in another thread, so sorry if I'm asking a question you have already answered ... but can you see your therapist more than once a week?
When you are able to see your t more often, it becomes less about what happened during the week and more about your relationship.
I know how much it sucks to be stuck in a sad place. And it would be so nice if there was an easy way to feel better. For me I found it takes time (sometimes too much) and trying to spend time in a calm meditative state --- yoga helps me.
I also think it's important to remember that our therapists can't make us feel better. Happiness is an inside job.
Posted by sunnydays on April 20, 2009, at 20:06:15
In reply to Re: sad, posted by Annierose on April 20, 2009, at 19:42:39
I know he can't make me feel better. It's just this mood thing that's been happening to me probably my whole life. It gets worse at night. No, I can't see him more than once a week. I used to see him twice a week, and that was so much easier for me and I felt like we got a whole lot more meaningful stuff discussed because I could maintain the connection between sessions. But now I get disconnected so easily. I really wish I could do twice a week again, but I can't. I can't afford it right now, and my parents see no benefit in going twice a week and won't help me out with the cost (they think by now I should be going less often than once a week). It's just that my problems are around attachment, so it's hard for me to remember the connection in between sessions. And the little girl part of me gets so so sad sometimes.
sunnydays
Posted by Dinah on April 21, 2009, at 7:45:28
In reply to sad, posted by sunnydays on April 20, 2009, at 18:48:54
Me too.
Even now that I am doing better, there are still times when a wave of sadness washes over me and brings me to my knees.
Maybe it's the nature of the beast.
As you said, it will pass. But is there something in your life right now that's causing it to flare up right now? Are you really tired or stressed or has something happened? Sometimes it just happens I think. But sometimes I think it's our psyche's way of grabbing our attention. A little warning bell, where it pays to take a quick inventory and see if something needs to be done about something.
Posted by sunnydays on April 21, 2009, at 9:49:59
In reply to Re: sad » sunnydays, posted by Dinah on April 21, 2009, at 7:45:28
I'm at the end of grad school and looking for a job - major stress. I have some prospects, but everything's very tentative and I hate tentative things. I'm kind of freaking out about finding a job.
Posted by alexandra_k on April 22, 2009, at 15:17:43
In reply to Re: sad » Dinah, posted by sunnydays on April 21, 2009, at 9:49:59
Yeah, it is hard. Must be harder when parents have expectations, too. About the appropriateness of finding a job, about how much therapy is appropriate etc. Ugh. I can't imagine hitting the job market. Been freaking about it in my own special way and I still have some time to go before I need to do that.
Can you do some nice things for yourself while the feeling is around? Sometimes it can be carthartic to cry. Have a bubble bath or treat yourself to something nice and comforting. Othertimes it can be helpful to do something to take your mind off things. Watch a movie or go for a walk or a run or something. Hang in there. Sorry you are feeling sad :-(
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