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Posted by Recently on April 21, 2009, at 14:55:33
I don't get it. Therapy for me is not magic, or special or nurturing or any of those things. Never has been. I'm definitely jealous of some of the close relationships that have been expressed in this board. I don't doubt the connections any of you have - but it just seems so foreign to me! It must be nice to experience some kind of special connection when interacting with your T.
My T to me is a doctor. She tries to help me and I try to get better. I do not feel close to her emotionally. I had an old T for years and I never even had the slightest spark of magic, over the years. I feel like I could substitute my T with any other T. Maybe it's the Ts but I suspect it's more me than anything. Interesting.
Posted by Dinah on April 21, 2009, at 17:04:25
In reply to What magic?, posted by Recently on April 21, 2009, at 14:55:33
My therapist would say that the magic didn't come from him. And that it didn't come from me. That it came from the relationship.
I don't imagine it would happen in every therapy pair. Nor should it, I imagine. Depending on what you're working on and how you're working on it, it may not be useful or beneficial.
For me, it has been.
Funny, we were talking about that today. I'm feeling rather melancholy about the conversation.
I always tell my therapist he's not a washing machine. I can't move my clothes to the next machine if this one is out of order. It's become sort of a joke between us.
Posted by TherapyGirl on April 21, 2009, at 17:49:35
In reply to Re: What magic? » Recently, posted by Dinah on April 21, 2009, at 17:04:25
<<I always tell my therapist he's not a washing machine. I can't move my clothes to the next machine if this one is out of order. It's become sort of a joke between us.>>
Amen to that, Dinah.
Posted by alexandra_k on April 22, 2009, at 15:13:41
In reply to What magic?, posted by Recently on April 21, 2009, at 14:55:33
Theoretical orientation can be part of it. I've defiantly seen a number of therapists who have a similar view of therapy to the one you expressed here. I've seen other therapists who actively try and create an emotional bond, though. I suspect it is partly about the kinds of issues you are seeking help for as well. Seeking help for relationship trauma, for example, is likely to result in an emotional relationship than seeking help for something else.
Posted by Recently on April 23, 2009, at 10:42:07
In reply to What magic?, posted by Recently on April 21, 2009, at 14:55:33
Thank you for your responses.
I guess I'm surprised I even had any responses, since this board is apparently so full of magical and intimate T relationships. I'm a fish out of water as usual.
Maybe I need to go looking for a new washing machine....
Posted by antigua3 on April 23, 2009, at 11:30:36
In reply to Re: What magic?, posted by Recently on April 23, 2009, at 10:42:07
You OK?
antigua
Posted by Abby Cunningham on April 28, 2009, at 17:28:52
In reply to Re: What magic?, posted by Recently on April 23, 2009, at 10:42:07
Recently,
I feel exactly as you do. I like my psychologist but I do not feel such a great attachment that I would be devastated if she took a four week vacation. I guess I am a bit jealous of the close bonds that many on this board have formed with their therapists and wonder what is wrong with me - of course I blame myself. But after a horribly bad ending with my former psychologist, I wonder if the new one (at the same clinic) is keeping things more distant. Oh well, at $215.00 per 50 minute hour, I think I SHOULD feel a bit more attached?
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