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Posted by blahblahblah on June 11, 2009, at 1:09:46
hey,
just need some support. i'm finding things really hard at the moment. things are starting to come out more in therapy, and the more i realise i am like a 3 year old child with my T, the harder it becomes. I go to sleep sad, dream horrible things, and wake up sad. Kinda at a wit's end not knowing what to do anymore.
Last night i dreamt that my mother was dead, and then it turned out she had lied about her death for attention. it seems the only way i can get my true feelings out is in dreams. i texted my T before but haven't heard back yet. Right now another world seems to be the only place i feel i would be loved, as my grandparents have both passed and that is where they are. How do you all get out of this state of mind. it's weird, ppl tell you there are ppl around to talk to. but all i want is closeness from family, and that is out of the question. :(
Posted by FindingMyDesire on June 11, 2009, at 2:02:08
In reply to needing support, posted by blahblahblah on June 11, 2009, at 1:09:46
Hi blahblahblah,
I'm up late reading your post and just feeling for you. I hear you that you want the closeness of family and can't get it and others just aren't enough.I also get the feeling like a child with your T. I'm having this so much and so deeply recently and this feels mostly new to me after over 2 years with her. It's the hard, hard, now-it's-really-hard stuff.
I'm sorry to hear about all of the sadness. The dreams sound very meaningful and informative, even though I know it's hard to have them. I am hoping you are sharing them with your T and that your T is talking about them with you.
I don't think you can "get out of this state of mind" so much if you want (want is a weird word here) to do the work, but hopefully you can come up with some tools so you don't feel so overwhelmed by it all while you are working so hard on it.
I'm probably too tired to say much helpful. I just know what it feels like to post here and feel like everyone has gone to bed... which I'm going to do now... but wanted to let you know you aren't totally alone.
FMD
Posted by Dinah on June 11, 2009, at 12:11:42
In reply to needing support, posted by blahblahblah on June 11, 2009, at 1:09:46
There are all kinds of families. The ones you're stuck being born in, and the ones you create for yourself. I always suspected that Cheers and Friends appealed to the wish for warmth from a created family.
There are people around to talk to. Are there people around to provide love and support? I always think of Babble as my extended family.
Is there anything I can do to help?
Posted by Phillipa on June 11, 2009, at 12:49:04
In reply to Re: needing support » blahblahblah, posted by Dinah on June 11, 2009, at 12:11:42
Babble is the only place I'm not scared. Real people scare me. Unless I can escape. Phillipa
Posted by blahblahblah on June 11, 2009, at 18:11:14
In reply to Re: needing support » blahblahblah, posted by Dinah on June 11, 2009, at 12:11:42
<Are there people around to provide love and support?
There are people but for some reason i can't feel warmth from them. What i am looking for, i can't find in anyone on earth. It's like you can have a hundred people around you but not see any of them. does that make sense?
Your support in here and people replying does help me a lot. I feel less alone in all this stuff. i look forward to replies, something small but it is big in my day.Sometimes i wonder if therapy is making me worse. I feel like a 2-3 year old wanting love, and as an adult realise all that i missed out on and still don't feel, which makes me even worse. all the grieving of my whole life. could it just be easier to just forget bout all the stuff and look to the future?
FMD- thank you for your message. i am in australia so in the middle of the day when you all go to bed. but at least i wake up to messages which is nice. :)
Posted by fayeroe on June 11, 2009, at 19:35:40
In reply to needing support, posted by blahblahblah on June 11, 2009, at 1:09:46
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