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Posted by friesandcoke on July 19, 2009, at 19:27:04
Has anyone ever gone back to a T who really hurt them in order to express their pain and "demand" accountablility from the T?
Posted by Dinah on July 20, 2009, at 7:59:48
In reply to giving a therapist who hurt you a second chance, posted by friesandcoke on July 19, 2009, at 19:27:04
My therapist has really hurt me more than once. He even terminated me once, albeit due to circumstances he believed to be out of his control.
I always went back, to express my feelings, to yell on occasion, and ultimately to repair the relationship. Because my therapist isn't a bad person, and the relationship was worth salvaging.
I think if it wasn't worth salvaging, I'd rather not go back. My last session with biofeedback guy was very acrimonious, and I have no desire to see him ever again in my life. Ditto for the pdoc from h*ll.
Posted by Nadezda on July 21, 2009, at 0:04:41
In reply to giving a therapist who hurt you a second chance, posted by friesandcoke on July 19, 2009, at 19:27:04
Would you be going back to give the person a second chance or just to demand accountability?
I'm not sure what accountability would look like, but it's important to be clear about what you can accomplish and what you really want or need. Having realistic expectations and having some reasonable and constructive goal would be important to me, if I were in such a situation.
Many people give Ts a second chance, even if the T behaved badly. People just behave impulsively or thoughtlessly or unfairly at times; if the relationship is worthwhile, it makes sense to talk it through and get beyond it. But going back to express anger might not be very useful or satisfying--unless it were a means to some resolution and acceptance.
Nadezda
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