Psycho-Babble Psychology Thread 908704

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My dh has no idea how bad it gets ...

Posted by moonshadow on July 26, 2009, at 17:11:51

in my head.

And I don't want him to know. We've been married for 5 years. He simply has no idea, as things weren't bad in my head for the first years of our marriage.

No one knows, really, except my best friend who died 3 months ago, or my therapist. Crazy.

Re: My dh has no idea how bad it gets ...

Posted by Dinah on July 26, 2009, at 20:45:14

In reply to My dh has no idea how bad it gets ..., posted by moonshadow on July 26, 2009, at 17:11:51

What would happen if he did know?

My husband really couldn't take it for a long time. Recently he's gotten much better at listening without feeling like he needs to do something.

What does your therapist say about it?

I'm sorry about your friend.

Re: My dh has no idea how (poss sa trigg)

Posted by Moonshadow on July 26, 2009, at 21:51:09

In reply to Re: My dh has no idea how bad it gets ..., posted by Dinah on July 26, 2009, at 20:45:14

> What would happen if he did know?
>
> My husband really couldn't take it for a long time. Recently he's gotten much better at listening without feeling like he needs to do something.
>
> What does your therapist say about it?
>
> I'm sorry about your friend.
My t (soon to be ex-t) had him in for a joint session. I could
barely speak, it was so terrirying. I kept snapping my fingers to indicate for her to stop because I couldn't talk. THAT was embarassing.

But just to tonight, my dh confided that he thought he had been
s/a by his sister. This has opened up the door for me to talk
about my own s/a by my mom, in very general terms.

My ultimate fear is that he'll leave me , think I'm horrible, disgusting , insane. But knowing he carries some of the same pain. .... That makes it seem easier.

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