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Posted by fleeting flutterby on August 1, 2009, at 11:38:11
In session the other day, I said that I just realized-- when I'm stressed I listen to angry music(I'm not EVER comfortable showing any anger myself) I guess listening to "Metallica" and "Rage Against the Machine", to name a few, let's me feel as though I've expressed my own anger. The therapist I see said that sometimes anger is in front of pain-- just the anger is allowed out, the pain is hidden.
I'm not comfortable with crying or letting anyone know I'm hurt. I, for the most part, don't show much emotions at all. I don't want to need anyone, nor let anyone know how I feel.
I know about suppressed anger resulting in depression---- I've lived with that a long time...... but..... what about when you're angry(even if it's all inside yourself)--Do you think it could be a less vulnerable way to handle emotional pain-- feeling anger instead of sadness? It makes my stomach turn to consider the possibilty that, throughout my childhood, I was severely emotionally hurt. If I can accept that- does that make me weaker? (could I actually be able to be emotionally hurt?.... ugh...) somehow it feels like it would............
and what is it with T., she keeps saying "she's with me".... that I'm not alone in this..... makes me a little uneasy. doesn't she get that I don't need anyone........
flutterby-mandy
Posted by Phillipa on August 1, 2009, at 12:21:24
In reply to Anger..... a substitute for emotional pain?......, posted by fleeting flutterby on August 1, 2009, at 11:38:11
I know I was emotionally hurt as a child and an adult and it's still going on. The best pdoc therapist said I only know how to be in bad situations I don't know a good thing when I have it. This refers to an ex I dumped. My fault. My anger is swallowed sometimes it comes out and I smash things only things that are mine. Phillipa
Posted by fleeting flutterby on August 2, 2009, at 10:23:11
In reply to Re: Anger..... a substitute for emotional pain?...... » fleeting flutterby, posted by Phillipa on August 1, 2009, at 12:21:24
> I know I was emotionally hurt as a child and an adult and it's still going on. The best pdoc therapist said I only know how to be in bad situations I don't know a good thing when I have it. This refers to an ex I dumped. My fault. My anger is swallowed sometimes it comes out and I smash things only things that are mine. Phillipa<<
Hey Phillipa. Yea, it makes sense that if we were raised being hurt then that is was we learn to expect, even as adults, and may even regard as "normal"-- even though we don't want things to be that way.
seems like, sometimes, the mind can be the worst enemy. :o(thanks for the reply.
flutterby-mandy
Posted by Phillipa on August 2, 2009, at 19:04:49
In reply to Anger..... a substitute for emotional pain?......, posted by fleeting flutterby on August 1, 2009, at 11:38:11
Mandy but do you think you should need someone? Music sounds like a safe alternative for getting anger out. Isn't the saying something like depression is swallowed anger? Phillipa
Posted by fleeting flutterby on August 3, 2009, at 9:39:05
In reply to Re: Anger..... a substitute for emotional pain?...... » fleeting flutterby, posted by Phillipa on August 2, 2009, at 19:04:49
> Mandy but do you think you should need someone?<<
----flutterby: Well, I've been told it's good to have some friends, even if just a couple. I keep hearing how humans are social beings and that is what keeps one from going crazy, being around others. So-- in answer to your question-- should I "need" someone? I think if I was healthier(mentally) I would need others in some ways-- but that is overwhelmingly frightening to me-- gives the other person so much power, doesn't it?.........
>>Music sounds like a safe alternative for getting anger out. Isn't the saying something like depression is swallowed anger? Phillipa<<
---flutterby: yea, I think music can be great for many many moods. I think music is a friend of mine. and yea, depression being swallowed anger-- I can sure agree with that..... and anger can be hidden pain.....
----- aren't emotions confusing????.... when one is sad he/she could really be angry and when one is angry she/he could really be hurt...... the human mind..... why doesn't it just show what it feels, then things would be so much easier to understand.....*sigh*......
thanks again for replying :o)
flutterby-mandy
Posted by morganpmiller on August 5, 2009, at 23:29:23
In reply to Anger..... a substitute for emotional pain?......, posted by fleeting flutterby on August 1, 2009, at 11:38:11
Anger is emotional pain. We are all angry because we were not loved the way we needed to be. It is that simple.
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