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Posted by sunnydays on August 8, 2009, at 12:35:18
I just need support. Someone to talk to me. Nothing feels like it's going right in my life right now. I don't even see the point in trying and working on the schoolwork I ought to work on or the lesson plan for my interview on Tuesday. It just seems like no matter what I do, it's futile. I'm really struggling. And I can't talk to T, he's on vacation. Please help me.
sunnydays
Posted by Dinah on August 8, 2009, at 14:01:15
In reply to nothing is going right lately, posted by sunnydays on August 8, 2009, at 12:35:18
If I can, Sunny.
Posted by littlegirllost on August 8, 2009, at 16:49:23
In reply to nothing is going right lately, posted by sunnydays on August 8, 2009, at 12:35:18
I can relate Sunny, and my therapist is on vacation as well, which will make next week that much harder. sigh. A trip to Camp Comfort sounds nice though...
lgl
Posted by Ladybelle31 on August 8, 2009, at 18:09:24
In reply to nothing is going right lately, posted by sunnydays on August 8, 2009, at 12:35:18
Aww I'm here for support:) Is there anything I can do to help you feel better??
Posted by sunnydays on August 8, 2009, at 18:13:45
In reply to nothing is going right lately, posted by sunnydays on August 8, 2009, at 12:35:18
I'm just scared... I don't know how to get myself motivated to do what I need to do. I just want to hide. And my T would know how to talk to me so I felt a little better, but I can't imagine what he'd say. I just want to hide.
sunnydays
Posted by Garnet71 on August 8, 2009, at 19:39:18
In reply to nothing is going right lately, posted by sunnydays on August 8, 2009, at 12:35:18
Hey Sunnydays :) I don't know if I can help, but I'll sure try..How about some inspirational quotes? Would that help at all? Do you have faith you can tap into???
COURAGE:
You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.
Eleanor Roosevelt
With courage you will dare to take risks, have the strength to be compassionate, and the wisdom to be humble. Courage is the foundation of integrity.
Keshavan Nair
Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the judgment that something else is more important than fear.
Ambrose Redmoon
Take a risk and you will get a reward, although it may not be a medal. Your current safe boundaries were once unknown frontiers.
Anonymous
One isn't necessarily born with courage, but one is born with potential. Without courage, we cannot practice any other virtue with consistency. We can't be kind, true, merciful, generous, or honest.
Maya Angelou
A coward gets scared and quits. A hero gets scared, but still goes on.
Anonymous
When a resolute young fellow steps up to the great bully, the world, and takes him boldly by the beard, he is often surprised to find it comes off in his hand, and that it was only tied on to scare away the timid adventurers.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
To go against the dominant thinking of your friends, of most of the people you see every day, is perhaps the most difficult act of heroism you can perform.
Theodore H. White
Courage is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.
Winston Churchill
To dare is to lose one's footing momentarily. To not dare is to lose oneself.
Soren Kierkegaard
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
Mark Twain
Unless a man undertakes more than he possibly can do, he will never do all that he can.
Henry Drummond
Firefighters, policemen, they all risk their lives every day. Won't you risk something once and a while?
If you want a guarantee, buy a toaster.
Anonymous
One hundred percent of the shots you don't take don't go in.
Wayne Gretzky
To succeed... you need to find something to hold on to, something to motivate you, something to inspire you.
Tony Dorsett
To win without risk is to triumph without glory.
Pierre Corneille
He who dares nothing need hope for nothing.
Anonymous
Courage faces fear and thereby masters it.
Martin Luther King, Jr.
My parents told me that I could do and be anything I really wanted. I believed them.
Molly McDonald
The hero is no braver than the ordinary man, but he is brave five minutes longer.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
A man of courage is also full of faith.
Cicero
MOTIVATIONAL QUOTATIONS:
Better to light one small candle than to curse the darkness.
Chinese Proverb
Nothing is impossible to a willing heart.
John Heywood, sixteenth-century English poetOur deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that frightens us most...We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in all of us. And when we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
Marianne Williamson, American author and lecturer
Accomplishment of purpose is better than making a profit.
Nigerien Proverb
The question should be, is it worth trying to do, not can it be done.
Allard Lowenstein, twentieth-century American diplomat
Let us strive on to finish the work we are in...
Abraham Lincoln, sixteenth president of the United States
Ability is sexless.
Christabel Pankhurst
Far better is it to dare mighty things, to win glorious triumphs, even though checkered by failure...than to rank with those poor spirits who neither enjoy much nor suffer much, because they live in a gray twilight that knows not victory nor defeat.
Theodore Roosevelt
You must motivate yourself EVERYDAY.
Matthew Stasior
The best motivation always comes from within.
Michael Johnson
It was a high counsel that I once heard given to a young person, "Always do what you are afraid to do."
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Take calculated risks. That is quite different from being rash.
George S. Patton
If you do not hope, you will not find what is beyond your hopes.
St. Clement of Alexandra
We are all inventors, each sailing out on a voyage of discovery, guided each by a private chart, of which there is no duplicate. The world is all gates, all opportunities.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
Seek the lofty by reading, hearing and seeing great work at some moment every day.
Thornton Wilder
The only way of finding the limits of the possible is by going beyond them into the impossible.
Arthur C. Clarke
Without inspiration the best powers of the mind remain dormant, they is a fuel in us which needs to be ignited with sparks.
Johann Gottfried Von Herder
We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence, therefore, is not an act but a habit.
Aristotle
Work spares us from three evils: boredom, vice, and need.
Voltaire
Experience is the child of thought, and thought is the child of action.
Benjamin Disraeli
You cannot plough a field by turning it over in your mind.
Author Unknown
The best way out is always through.
Robert Frost
Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking.
William B. Sprague
Nothing will ever be attempted if all possible objections must first be overcome.
Samuel Johnson
Fortune favors the brave.
Publius Terence
He who hesitates is lost.
Proverb
Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall.
Confucius
Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds.
Albert Einstein
Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Willing is not enough; we must do.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
We are still masters of our fate. We are still captains of our souls.
Winston Churchill
Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.
Ralph Waldo Emerson
For hope is but the dream of those that wake.
Matthew Prior
Constant dripping hollows out a stone.
Lucretius
Nothing contributes so much to tranquilize the mind as a steady purpose--a point on which the soul may fix its intellectual eye.
Mary Shelley
Posted by Garnet71 on August 8, 2009, at 20:03:36
In reply to nothing is going right lately, posted by sunnydays on August 8, 2009, at 12:35:18
Hey again Sunnydays...Thought this might be helpful. When I was w/o a therapist, couldn't get help...Iylana Van Zandt's books helped me tremendously...Please don't get caught up with the commercialism-I had read her books before she appeared on Oprah..they are truly inspiring and wonderful...She had overcome so much adversity and turned it around to realize positive life benefits...Maybe you could read one of her books during the absence of your T? Hoping it will help..take care..Luv, Garnet.
http://www.amazon.com/Yesterday-Cried-Celebrating-Lessons-Living/dp/0684867486
Posted by seldomseen on August 8, 2009, at 20:15:46
In reply to Re: nothing is going right lately, posted by sunnydays on August 8, 2009, at 18:13:45
Sunny,
I'm so sorry you are feeling bad. When you are trying to imagine what your T would say, perhaps you can try to imagine what you would most like to hear.
What words would mean the most to you?
Seldom.
Posted by sunnydays on August 8, 2009, at 21:24:03
In reply to Re: nothing is going right lately » sunnydays, posted by seldomseen on August 8, 2009, at 20:15:46
I want to hear that everything's going to be ok, that I'm ok, that my life will work out to be ok. And for someone reason he says it with such confidence that I can usually believe him, but I don't believe myself.
I want to hear that I am lovable. I want to hear that it's ok to feel the way I feel right now.
I just want to be able to stop fighting these feelings.
sunnydays
Posted by Dinah on August 8, 2009, at 22:56:52
In reply to Re: nothing is going right lately » seldomseen, posted by sunnydays on August 8, 2009, at 21:24:03
I ask my therapist "Is everything going to be ok?" And we've worked out the particulars so that he will say "Everything is going to be ok." He's got this fabulous way of saying it, so that it fills me with an assurance that it will. If he doesn't say it that way, I ask him to repeat it.
I've asked him to teach me how to say it, but we haven't gotten around to it yet. And I'm not sure I'll be able to learn.
But, Sunnydays, it *will* be ok. Things can be so horrendously overwhelming sometimes that I am paralyzed and helpless in the face of it, which just makes things worse. But you've gotten through those times before, and you will again. People get through the most amazing things really.
Your life will be ok, and more than ok. Life isn't like a final. You can't pass or fail in one go 'round. Even if your worst possible scenario comes true at this point, it won't be the end of the chances of a good life. And realistically, the worst will likely not happen. I have worried about so many things over the years, and for the most part, I've worried in vain.
Is there any way you can distract yourself from your therapist's absence and accomplish something tangible towards what you are concerned about? It doesn't have to be anything large. Is there something small?
Posted by Dinah on August 8, 2009, at 23:55:01
In reply to Re: nothing is going right lately » sunnydays, posted by Dinah on August 8, 2009, at 22:56:52
If I'm understanding what you're saying.
And of course, while it's something I often say to my son, I realize that it's easier said than done.
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